I hate too much

[dreamlearner]

From last 3-4 years,i have started hating everybody religiously and it's affecting my mental peace.I hate people from different religions,ethnicity,languages,sex.
I want some solution for this.
Will anybody help

[Dynamist]

Dreamlearner, do you write? The only solution is to process it and try to find ways to prove your perception of those that you hate, wrong. Research it. I went through a state where I LOATHED religion and especially Catholicism and I go to a Catholic university so you could just imagine. But I wrote out why and I sought people who were open minded, loving, tolerant and who were a part of the religion without allowing it to limit them and that helped me a great deal to push past my hatred of Catholicism.

Look for the exceptions and write out what about them was exceptional and focus on that. You'll transform your world.

[Dynamist]

Sorry, I need to clarify because this is a forum.

When i say, "The only solution" I mean, "The only solution I know of..."

[HeartfulColourful]

I could tell from your response to my post.


So you hate difference? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel they are not as valid as people from the same demographic as you? Sometimes when people are raised with a strong sense of superiority they experience great anger when they feel that the people who are 'supposed to be' weaker appear to be stronger/have more confidence or self-assurance. This results in them wanting to put the other people 'in their place'. Does this ring true for you?

[dreamlearner]

Originally Posted by Dynamist

Dreamlearner, do you write? The only solution is to process it and try to find ways to prove your perception of those that you hate, wrong. Research it. I went through a state where I LOATHED religion and especially Catholicism and I go to a Catholic university so you could just imagine. But I wrote out why and I sought people who were open minded, loving, tolerant and who were a part of the religion without allowing it to limit them and that helped me a great deal to push past my hatred of Catholicism.

Look for the exceptions and write out what about them was exceptional and focus on that. You'll transform your world.

thanks for your response dynamist
i write sometimes,but not seriously.I do find some good people in the group i hate but my hatred goes much deeper.actually i miss being with people who are open minded.but i will try

[dreamlearner]

Originally Posted by HeartfulColourful

I could tell from your response to my post.


So you hate difference? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel they are not as valid as people from the same demographic as you? Sometimes when people are raised with a strong sense of superiority they experience great anger when they feel that the people who are 'supposed to be' weaker appear to be stronger/have more confidence or self-assurance. This results in them wanting to put the other people 'in their place'. Does this ring true for you?

i was a liberal once.But with age i have turned into a vicious right winger loony.I don't like this transformation.
What you say is correct.I was taught to be superior but internally i suffered from great inferiority complex.

[Dynamist]

Originally Posted by dreamlearner

thanks for your response dynamist
i write sometimes,but not seriously.I do find some good people in the group i hate but my hatred goes much deeper.actually i miss being with people who are open minded.but i will try

I got caught up in that sentence. It's elusive but you know what the deal is for yourself. Seek out the open-minded people but just be mindful that you can't change anyone but you. People will cross your path to break your heart, to upset you, to do all kinds of things. But if you can learn to master yourself and your emotions, you'll fair well.

[dreamlearner]

Originally Posted by Dynamist

I got caught up in that sentence. It's elusive but you know what the deal is for yourself. Seek out the open-minded people but just be mindful that you can't change anyone but you. People will cross your path to break your heart, to upset you, to do all kinds of things. But if you can learn to master yourself and your emotions, you'll fair well.

Thanks a lot.

[ZephyrusX]

I'm not sure how applicable this is since you specifically brought up differences, but in the past, I felt hatred often as I lacked the internal and external resources to respond to my environment in a healthier way. My hatred was a symptom of my powerlessness. Now that I have more powerful and sophisticated ways of responding to my environment, I feel less hatred. Its not as if I live my life never feeling hatred. I do. Sometimes I even hang onto it for a few hours or even days, but I honestly can't hold onto it for any longer any more as I know I can deal with the situation more fairly and effectively.

I can't say I've experienced much hatred towards differences (sex, language, nationality - with the exception of class), but from my own observations, people who tend to exacerbate and mystify differences seem to be operating from a position of powerlessness. I see this a lot in regards to gender and sex. There are differences between gender and sex, but those differences are by no means mystifying or beyond one's grasp as some people seem to think.

I think hatred is one way of coping with your environment. There is something protective and may be even gratifying about condemning other people. But really, if hatred is your only long term coping mechanism, it is going to rot your soul. It is just not worth it despite whatever benefit you may get out of it.

[dreamlearner]

Originally Posted by ZephyrusX

I'm not sure how applicable this is since you specifically brought up differences, but in the past, I felt hatred often as I lacked the internal and external resources to respond to my environment in a healthier way. My hatred was a symptom of my powerlessness. Now that I have more powerful and sophisticated ways of responding to my environment, I feel less hatred. Its not as if I live my life never feeling hatred. I do. Sometimes I even hang onto it for a few hours or even days, but I honestly can't hold onto it for any longer any more as I know I can deal with the situation more fairly and effectively.

I can't say I've experienced much hatred towards differences (sex, language, nationality - with the exception of class), but from my own observations, people who tend to exacerbate and mystify differences seem to be operating from a position of powerlessness. I see this a lot in regards to gender and sex. There are differences between gender and sex, but those differences are by no means mystifying or beyond one's grasp as some people seem to think.

I think hatred is one way of coping with your environment. There is something protective and may be even gratifying about condemning other people. But really, if hatred is your only long term coping mechanism, it is going to rot your soul. It is just not worth it despite whatever benefit you may get out of it.

i liked your analysis and most of the things apply to me.thanks a lot

[Self Exploration]

Self hate is such a large subject with a great amount of manifestations in the world.

When is it valid? When is it useful?

Anger and hate can be a dangerous instrument.
Like a knife, one does not allow an untrained 2 year old child to hold a knife.

But in the case of anger, we can cut our self with it.
And most of us are in fact untrained.
But no one is told that, while growing up.

The bottom line is, if you are hating yourself.
You are playing with fire.

Don't take it lightly.