Help. I m depressed.

[Zoomorphic]

I had been non productive, lazy, unmotivated and diagnosed with depression for the past 3 years. Now still stuck with depression, and the negative thoughts thats debilitating, i spent 2 whole days looking at facebook, old pals, friends i talked to in college but not hang out, and friends from childhood. They all seem to be having a great life, moving on, progressing in life. While I feel i m still stuck.. time doesnt wait, and I feel left behind. Im so behind,..
I dont have a relationship which i wanted, I dont have a job, and i cant finished college. I m broke and I had gained weight due to the medications. I feel hopeless.
I just wish i can make the time stop. wait for me!! everyone already left to explore while i m left there waiting for miracle to happen to kick me in the ass to get going.
My question is How do i get out of feeling hopeless, depressed and feeling slow. I want to catch up in life, the things i missed the youth i missed.. the experiences i should have experienced. Where do i begin? How do i stop being jealous of other peoples life and start embracing my own life. I hate myself and my life.

[MovingForward]

I suggest you get off of Facebook. Facebook is a way for people to showcase their life and they are mostly going to make it look in the best light. The people posting all the fantastic stuff are mostly posting it to show off and of course are not portraying the other side.
As for depression, the best thing for me is to do something. Make small goals and do them. Think of the tiniest thing that makes you happy or brings pleasure to you and do it.
Exercise is good. Go for a walk. You will hate the first day maybe, but make it a daily routine and soon you will love it.
Things of value can take time to build up. You are a work in progress, your story is not over, this is not even the middle. Be easy on yourself and don't forget to have fun.

[Andrew Gubb]

Start with desire. Identify it. Realise it's there, what it is, and that you have it. It's yours. You may have nothing, but you have desire. That in itself is the fulfilment of your desire waiting to grow and flourish.

When you have desire, you have all you need to start. Wait - one more thing. Have faith.

Faith in the Universe if you like. But faith, or trust, in yourself, too. Let yourself go at your own pace. Trust that your inspirations are right and that you're going in the right direction even when it seems you're not going anywhere. The best destinations are the ones with no signposts pointing you there. You make your own path. Keep walking - there's nothing much else you can do. Just keep walking and have faith in yourself and you'll get there. How could you not?

If you keep walking and keep correcting path eventually you will always arrive at your destination. Isn't this true? Is there any way that someone with a destination in mind couldn't reach it, if they just kept going?

Hold close to your desire. Never ignore it, deny it, or cover it up. It is you, and you can never die, so it can never die.

It will take you where you want to go.

[LiveNow]

I've been depressed to a couple of times in my life. When I was younger I panicked over the "lost years". Now I am 38 and I can tell you that when you get older and get more perspective you realize that life is long and it is not the catastrophe it feels like when you’re in it. When you get through this you will enjoy life and treasure it and the lost years wont matter any more. What healed me was learning to be kind to myself and loving myself(it was a lot of hard work and took a long time but now I really like myself). I also agree that activation and exercise really work. Just don't put to much pressure on yourself. Every little thing you manage to do is a step in the right direction. I always felt that it is the people who struggle and don't give up that are worth looking up to and not the ones that are just lucky and have been spared problems. I'm routing for you!

[auburn]

I feel you. I agree with the other poster that Facebook has a pernicious effect when it comes to comparing ourselves to other people. Please, don't! When we are on Facebook, we usually post fun and great updates, not the times when we just want to leave this planet.

It's hard to turn around when you have or have had depression. You may not have all the ''stuff'' you expect but, you have to come around with baby steps. It could be starting to eat better to lose just 5 pounds. It could be finding a job that is not killing you, just to have a bit of money. It could be to start seeing a counselor or attend a free support group for emotional people. Just baby steps. You have to be good to yourself.

And it's ok to not be in a relationship. It means we have time to take care of ourselves.

[Dynamist]

You can get out of feeling hopeless by not looking back at the past and by not comparing yourself to others. You can keep facebook if you so choose, but get into an almost narrow minded state when it comes to yourself. Focus on you, on you, and only on you. When I was experiencing dysthymia and wanted to get out of that hole, I decided to make a list of what I wanted to get done. I didn't set dates on it, but I just said "this is what I want to do. How can I begin to accomplish it?" and I slowly began to pull myself out of the hole. Know where you want to go, but don't let that knowledge paralyze you.