Recommended methods for rage release / learning to cry?

[MrsGreen]

I am unable to cry, and from childhood have been unable to express emotions as anything but anger. I have blocked out most of my childhood - I'm a sensitive soul.

I have tried lots of therapies and while I have made some progress in identify ing behaviour patterns and being less controlled by family, I still also have issues with assertiveness and anger.

Anyone been through this?

[Erin Ashley]

Yes. I spent a few years not crying, and here's how I handled it and got to a much better place emotionally. First, I meditated, because I experienced anxiety instead of anger. Meditation helped keep it under control. I gradually learned that spending time consciously trying to love the people I felt had hurt me helped a lot. I wasn't always successful, but when I was unsuccessful at loving them, I spent the time loving myself for feeling whatever emotion I was feeling. If I felt anger, I loved myself for wanting to protect myself from hurt and pain, etc. It took work, but I feel fairly emotionally free now.

[Alen]

I have few questions.

#1 When was the last time you cried?
#2 Why did you cry?
#3 Do you have problems with releasing too much or too litle anger?

[MrsGreen]

Originally Posted by Alen

I have few questions.

#1 When was the last time you cried?
#2 Why did you cry?
#3 Do you have problems with releasing too much or too litle anger?

1and 2: The last time I cried was when pregnant. My mother had been attacking me intermittently over 6 months saying now I had no life, i was worthless, etc etc - abd I went home cut chunks of my hair off, tried to punch my stomach abd then screamed and screamed until I eventually cries. That was 18 months ago. Before that I cried... May be 7 years ago when 4 grandparents died in a year but even then, primary emotion was anger.

3: I have anger issues. Far too much anger

[elucidate]

Vigorous exercising is one excellent way to release anger and rage. Do you have a bicycle? Riding my bike always helped, before it got stolen that is

Swimming, martial arts (excellent for dealing with aggression, anger, etc.), anything which requires you to really push yourself physically.

Usually anger is either trying to cover over feelings of sadness that we aren't allowing ourselves to feel, so it protects us, but also it could be that this aspect of anger in you is trying to get your attention, but you aren't really listening to what it's trying to teach you? Does this sound at all right?

I made a mask one time to honor my anger and when I wore it and danced around for a bit, I felt such a discharge of the energy...especially when I took the mask off. Just honoring it like that and allowing it instead of judging it is tremendously powerful. Anger and rage in particular are really powerful emotions. If you can take this attitude towards your rage you may find interesting results.

Then again, if it doesn't work, maybe seeks therapy, art therapy for instance where you can release it in creative ways, such as drawing a large circle to contain the rage, and inside paint or draw whatever colors and symbols come up for you which represent this feeling.

[Affinity]

Have you tried crying a lot? throwing all grief outside?

Hit a pillow as much you want when you become angry. Its better than controlling it.

[DarkTears]

why dont you buy a big teddy bear and punch it and release youre anger then watch a very sad movie?........just a suggestion......

[elucidate]

Originally Posted by Affinity

Have you tried crying a lot? throwing all grief outside?

Hit a pillow as much you want when you become angry. Its better than controlling it.

Have you ever tried to try to cry when you can't?

It's extremely hard, especially if you are already having trouble crying, as this lady said she is.