Hit rock bottom

[Steel]

I'll be short and sweet.

Girlfriend left me.
Best friend died.
I'm broke and in debt.
Expelled from college.

All in one year. I don't want to throw a pity-party, or even ask for advice. If I've hit bottom, I can only go up. But times have been hard, some comprehension would be nice to find.

[scotthegeek]

Hi Steel

We have all gone through hard times but to have all that happen in one year is a lot to deal with. If you want someone to talk to you can always PM me. Things are starting to turn around a bit for me. I don't know what is going to happen that's the hard part but I'm coping with that a lot better than I was.

Hugs

Scott

[Maguru]

Originally Posted by Steel

I'll be short and sweet.

Girlfriend left me.
Best friend died.
I'm broke and in debt.
Expelled from college.

All in one year. I don't want to throw a pity-party, or even ask for advice. If I've hit bottom, I can only go up. But times have been hard, some comprehension would be nice to find.

I'm sorry for what you must be going through. I think you must be grieving as this is a huge loss. Life is really tough sometimes and quite often steers us in a completely new direction that otherwise we would not have taken. Take care, Paula

[James81]

Here's a few quotes that really touched me back when I hit my own rock bottom:

Courage ... is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life, with all its sorrows, is good; that everything is meaningful, even if in a sense beyond our understanding; and that there is always tomorrow. ~ Dorothy Thompson

I'd hold you up to say to your mother, "this kid's gonna be the best kid in the world. This kid's gonna be somebody better than anybody I ever knew." And you grew up good and wonderful. It was great just watching you, every day was like a privilige. Then the time come for you to be your own man and take on the world, and you did. But somewhere along the line, you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you're no good. And when things got hard, you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that! I'm always gonna love you no matter what. No matter what happens. You're my son and you're my blood. You're the best thing in my life. But until you start believing in yourself, ya ain't gonna have a life. --Rocky Balboa

And one of my favorites:

Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things, because we're curious… and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths. --Walt Disney

About five years ago I went through a divorce and a bankruptcy. I lost my house, most of the stuff I worked for up to that point, and a huge chunk of my monthly paycheck. I was in a job I hated and I had no friends and spent my nights sitting in front of a computer all night chatting with strangers because I was lonely and broken. At one point if I would've had a gun in the house, I would've just shot myself and that would've been that.

So, I know how you feel man. It's an almost hopeless situation to feel like you are in, and the climb out of it can feel like it's going to break you in half and grind you into powder. But I promise you that if you DECIDE, today, to make your life better and that you will be willing to face any heartbreak, challenge, or fear to do that that you will find happiness.

It's not going to happen overnight though. I've been at it tenaciously for five years, and I'm JUST NOW coming out of that dark place I was in and making my dreams come true.

The road can be tough. There'll be nights that you'll cry so hard that you literally can't breathe. But on the flip side there will be nights that you'll laugh so hard you think your head will pop off your neck (yeah, that day can come for YOU, man).

I'm not sure what one thing to tell you that will get you there there. There's so much in that crawl out of rock bottom that you get to experience all that for yourself (sometimes in frustration...sometimes in breakthrough). I know it feels tough, and that you're feeling down and sad now (and I feel for you in a way that can really only be felt by those who've been where you are), so good luck.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -- Lao Tzu

Are you ready to take that first step off of rock bottom?

[Steel]

Thank you Paula, Scott and James.

I'm trying to be proactive.

I've filled an appeal at college... but they're taking a long time to get back at me; if luck is by my side, I'll be able to enroll. Till then, anxiety is eating me up.

Being broke is weird. I feel ashamed, powerless and useless. Relying on the charity of friends and family is tough. More than I thought it would ever be.

As for the ones I've lost, one way or another, I gotta say it's a hard pill to swallow. Still, I try my best to wake up everyday and live life.

Again, a big thank you for all three of you.

[GrigoriySidelnikov]

You are not alone:

Rock Bottom - Eminem (With Lyrics) - YouTube

[Clint Cora]

I've been at rock bottom too and it's tough. But there are important life lessons there if you choose to search for them.

[dreamlearner]

Originally Posted by Steel

I'll be short and sweet.

Girlfriend left me.
Best friend died.
I'm broke and in debt.
Expelled from college.

All in one year. I don't want to throw a pity-party, or even ask for advice. If I've hit bottom, I can only go up. But times have been hard, some comprehension would be nice to find.

Now listen to me:
I am getting divorced from my wife and case is still in court.No decisaion yet.I have top pay monthly alimony plus lawyer plus i have to travel 1000 km every fortnight to attend court.The judge is usually absent.
I was in debt at time of marriage.
I didn't have any friends then.
I was suffering from terrible depression.
I was hooked to tobacco,alcohol.I have to take antidepressants to get through the day.
I had a terrible anxiety
I was very very angry

after 3 yrs:
case is still running in court but i am no longer stressed about it
I paid off all debt
I paid off alimony
I have made few friends while deliberately giving up few others
I have given up tobacco,alcohol and antidepressants.
This is the longest time of my life i lived without alcohol and antidepressants.
I no longer feel anxiety
I have started exercising and meditation.First time in life,meditation is working.
I am no longer angry.I occasionally get anger flashes but i recover fast.

The answer is :time,it heals everything

[NAL]

Originally Posted by Steel

I'll be short and sweet.

Girlfriend left me.
Best friend died.
I'm broke and in debt.
Expelled from college.

All in one year. I don't want to throw a pity-party, or even ask for advice. If I've hit bottom, I can only go up. But times have been hard, some comprehension would be nice to find.

You are still young... I am in my mid 30s and have 2 degrees and unemployable due to bad credit and poor work history. Want to trade places?? I didn't think so. Many kids your age have their parents to fall back on and society is very forgiving of kids in their 20's who mess up and employers are tripping over themselves to hire recent college kids into well paying professional jobs..

Alcohol is bad -- anti depressants & pain killers aren't. I have to take anti depressants & I am hooked on Hydrocodone

[Laurenaus]

Originally Posted by Steel

I'll be short and sweet.

Girlfriend left me.
Best friend died.
I'm broke and in debt.
Expelled from college.

All in one year. I don't want to throw a pity-party, or even ask for advice. If I've hit bottom, I can only go up. But times have been hard, some comprehension would be nice to find.

yes I was going to suggest the college appeal and then you mentioned it, my friend failed all her classes cuz she was doing drugs and had anxiety problems, and then she transferred to another school and was excused due to her anxiety at the time she failed her classes. Lots of students are swamped with student loans and can barely get jobs right now. You are not alone. Also about your girlfriend, I'm sorry she left you and this probably won't make you feel better but statistically speaking based on your age it was unlikely you guys would've stayed together and gotten married

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by Clint Cora

I've been at rock bottom too and it's tough. But there are important life lessons there if you choose to search for them.

it does sound cliche' but he is right -still you get hugs from me for what you are going through ! hang in there

[CroMagna]

Please have my sympathies for the loss of your best friend.

Most people your age are broke and in debt. Focus on two goals at a time for 6-12 month spans and I think you'll gradually watch as things start to look up.

[Steve Boyd]

What a crap year, totally sucks dude

Try and focus on little that things that make you happy. Sunny days, long walks, pretty cars.

Everything must suck right now, though that doesn't mean you have to be miserable. It's totally ok to have a good time regardless :-)

[Steel]

Thank you, everyone, for your kinds words!

It's motivating to see that some of you went through awful situations and made their best efforts to mend it.

It hasn't been easy. From crippling anxiety to a cluttered state of mind, sometimes I feel like my head is going to pop. But perhaps there is a chance in all of this, a chance to grow as a person. God knows I've been far from a perfect human being in the past. Maybe this is a clean slate for me.

We'll see.

Once again, a big thank you to everyone!

[Debo]

I will say to you that you will appreciate these low times because its at these times you find your spirituality and strength, you have to dig deep, think of things to make you recover such as meditation, detachment, EFT, aromatherapy whatever it is you need then do it. There are many people like you who have gone through very rough patches, but one thing is for sure, you can turn it round, you can choose to make a better life for yourself. Keep asking for support & advice, there are lots of people who know what you are going through who can help you, embrace them.

keep moving forward

Debo

[ChrisGinsburg]

Originally Posted by Steel

If I've hit bottom, I can only go up.

There it is. Nothing else need be said.

[Sentosa]

Originally Posted by Steel

Being broke is weird. I feel ashamed, powerless and useless. Relying on the charity of friends and family is tough. More than I thought it would ever be.

I know that feeling. For me it felt like showing my weakeness, holding my hand up. I't was so not me but yet there was no other choice at that moment.
But remember that friends and family care and love. They are there for you and you can be there for them when needed. The world is a tough place and you can't always win the battle on your own.

It is good you are trying to be proactive. Your problems are there but seek distraction in creating solutions. Cleaning up the mess can be soothing for your mind.

Well I think there is not much to be added to all the great advice that is been given here already.

I wish you all the best for the future and remember to fight man. It is going to be alright as long as you keep your back straight and face your problems with courage. You can do it.

[Clint Cora]

Just so that you are aware, the first video of my 3-part video series mentioned in my signature is indeed about my own rock bottom as I describe it to a live audience.

Please never forget that you are never the only one who experiences these periods in life. Many others do and have been successful in getting out of them. I'm a prime example even though I didn't realize it for many, many years.

To gain some perspective, I humbly invite you to hear my story in these videos. They have helped many people realize that there is always hope.

[ksksks]

I hope you feel a little better after at least reading the posts. Yes, all the people are or have been in trouble a part of their lives for some times, but the fact is while you are alive, healthy and able, then no trouble will last long enough to destroy you. Just take it easy and as yourself know, you will soon get rid of bad and hard days. Loneliness and money troubles are hard and surely every body on planet have tasted either or both together at least for a short time.

[Gigglebag]

First... I like your username. Steel=Strength State of Mind.

girlfriend.. remember the fun times, and look fwd to all those new women to meet and have fun with.

best friend... feel lucky you had the chance to connect with your friend, and reflect on the great times you had.

money... don't give power to money.

college... You have your mind and body.