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|09-11-2011, 11:59 PM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2011
I really need help!!!!!!
I had so much fear and anxiety in the past year or so. Very shy around womenm always caring what people think about me etc. I get scared when i see social groups etc. I feel like they have something that I do not. even worse when i see couples laughing and kissing. I always ask myself what is it that is missing from my life that I do not have thosr things. I grew up without a father and had very low self esteem growing up due to being poor as well. any reccomendation as to what I can read to help me?
i have read some krishnamurti and tolle. I try my best to be in the present but it only lasts for a few hours then goes away.
I was told to read a book called quantum psychology by RAW, I was told it can help me understand myself....
I am 22 still a virgin and have trouble making friends and keeping them. I am about gradaute I need to make a deep change in myself.
|09-12-2011, 12:57 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2010
I recommend you start here -> Lefkoe Method.
Rest assured that there is nothing wrong with you. I used to be the same way. We can talk about this at any length you desire.
Kudos on reading Krishnamurti. He's my personal favorite.
|09-12-2011, 01:54 AM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jun 2009
We've all been there and done that. I personally got help from using a technique called The Sedona Method which shows you how to specifically release your fear, along with any other bad feelings. You can get their book "The Sedona Method" second hand on amazon for a few bucks. Good Luck my friend and trust me, life gets better - although I know it's hell to be going through your stuff right now.
|09-16-2011, 12:58 AM||#6 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2010
You don't need the *bible* books to tell you what to do, don't rely too much on it, transition the responsibility outside.
All answers are in you, books can inspire you to open the answers inside, but the actual one who opens it is still you, *you* need to step up and make the action^^
Don't stress yourself out with all problems at once, try to mindfully think about it one after another, little dose by littler dose
Fix one, go more lightly towrads the next problem, get it fixed again and be more uplifted.
Below is one guest post I came up with early this month, about dealing with challenges. Hope it can help^^
The Beauty in Challenge ? the more you overcome it the stronger you will become | PickTheBrain | Motivation and Self Improvement
|09-16-2011, 02:54 AM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Windsor Ontario Canada
I'm on a waiting list to get some counselling for social phobia and I'm on antidepressants I'm almost 50 never had a girlfriend I feel like things are getting better but if you feel deep down inside that your not loved or wanted its hard to connect with people.
|09-16-2011, 01:53 PM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Mississauga, On Canada
I wrote an article on Lifehack this week called Step-By-Step Plan To Get More Friends. I think there are ideas in there that will be of help to you. I've had to start over each time after my many relocations and this is how I built up new friendships.
|09-19-2011, 07:41 AM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2011
What you really need to do is get out there and just talk to more people Once you start interacting with people more you'll develop your skills and confidence.
The easiest way to interact with more people is to join a club of some sorts. You develop instant bonds with people and it's hard NOT to talk with other people.
One day you'll back on how you are now and you won't even be able to relate to how you feel. You'll be "I was shy and anxious WTF?"
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