Idiots around my home: How to deal?

[Shiroi Neko]

I often think about things that I should do or say to the idiotic children around my life, who seem to delight in driving me mental. I often come up with interesting monologues that convey my thoughts about them in excrutiating detail. Would telling them all that I think of them help my situation, or improve my self esteem? Or would it simply add fuel to the fire. Need advice on conquering these idiots who like to work in pairs. By the way, I have personal history with them as we went to the same school, they were Y11 and below, I was doing AS Levels.

[Dan.Linehan]

Why are they in your home? Family?

[Shiroi Neko]

They are not in my house, but around my neighborhood. They are tweens and early teens from a school I went to, and I think the reason they pick on me is they percieve me as weak. I'm using the Use Other People as a Mirror trick, and I've realised that the most likely reason they pick on me is that they probably percieve me as "weak". If I finally tell them how I feel and how they reflect on me, (as complete social inepts) it may improve my image in their eyes, and therefore help them become more well behaved to wierd people. (I won't lie to myself, by social norms, I'm a total freak: And I Like It!)

And also, we have no real quarrel, as we have nothing in common, so nothing in which to share rivalry, and until they start treating me as an equal, we can never have interesting chats and debates about our viewpoints. I'm hoping this will get them off my back. But the closest they are relationship wise is one of them lives next door. None are related to me. But a more selfish reason is to try to make them annoy me less >:-(

[InJoy]

I believe we draw people into our lives as a reflection of something in ourselves. (Most often, for me, it is things I don't immediately see.) I take the question: What is it about you that I don't like about myself? quite seriously, and I've found that applying the reality that this implies to my life works wonders.

My bet is your frustration, ire, hatred(?), etc. is, itself, what is fueling their fires. You are reflecting back at them the negatives you wish to see them stop. So try doing the opposite.

What if you found one decent thing about each of them and focussed all of your energy on that one thing? What if you were kind to them? What if you smiled at them every time you saw them? What if you consistently treated them the way you want them to treat you, regardless of their behavior?

There be miracles there.

[Shiroi Neko]

Thanks for the tip, I might try that. ^_^

[dorothy hanna]

I always say, " Deal with the idiots outside, by dealing, first, with the idiot within."

[lindeelou]

I think you hit the nail on the head by saying that it might add "fuel to the fire". If you think that might be the result, and you know them better than anyone, you are probably right. Why not leave well enough alone, let sleeping dogs lie, etc...
Perhaps speaking to one or both of your parents or an older sibling or friend might do some good.
Teenagers are a strange bunch for sure, we were all there and lacking in the social skills of empathy and kindness. Seems it's all about fitting in and doing what the other cool kids are doing, what they are wearing, etc.. They haven't formed a social conscience yet unlike you. Trying to deal with immature people on a mature level probably won't work or get you the result you
looking for. One day you will look back on this as a totally trivial matter.
Why not develop some friends in the neighborhood and perhaps defend yourself amongst a group and not be picked on solo?
The teeneage years can be the worst of your life...but it will pass, and all too fast.

[The David]

Originally Posted by dorothy hanna

I always say, " Deal with the idiots outside, by dealing, first, with the idiot within."

I shorten it to 'As Within, so Without', and it applies to everything. It has yet to fail me.