How do you find peace within yourself?

[johny5]

Hi, having watched a program a while ago called big brother with one of the Jackson brothers (Jermane) i think, he talked about first finding peace within yourself then anything you want to do is possible, he was a very calm guy and seems to have his life sorted out, how would you find peace and be at ease with who you are, I feel im allways looking for something , any ideas?

[Namaste]

Yoga

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[ZHereford]

Hi Johny,
Certainly to find any peace at all you must begin with yourself.
Taking the time to know, understand and accept who you are is a good place to start to build a solid personal foundation.
Read more, take yoga, read these forums - do anything that will help you expand your current understanding of yourself and people in general. Keep learning and developing.
Asking the question is a step in the right direction.
Enjoy the process!

[Shamou]

I fully agree with ZHereford…

In order to find peace… we must first discover who we are… and that is a little difficult until we have reached a certain degree of maturity…

However, until that time, there are things that can be done to get closer to that state… and that is…

1. Don’t try to solve a problem by doing something that will give you a short time solution but will create a larger problem later down the road…

2. Try to always do the correct thing and not the easy one…

3. Don’t waste any energy on regrets for past deeds… when you did what you did… at the time you did it was the best option at the time… so… feeling sorry for that is a waste of energy and time…

4. Place your faith and trust on your ability and personal resources to solve your problems… and not on your financial status…

5. Have faith in life…

Good luck to you... and may you find the peace that you want...

.

[uberinquisitive]

For me, it's about forgiving myself, and letting go of guilt.

GUILT by Bill Ferguson

When you have guilt, you reinforce the feelings of being not okay. You lose your confidence and self-respect. You feel undeserving and you hold yourself back.

The key to releasing guilt is to recognize that we all go through life doing the very best we can with the extremely limited skills and awareness that we have at the time.

Unfortunately, the awareness that we have is seldom enough. As a result we make mistakes. Sometimes we make big ones.

Making mistakes is part of the human process. This is how we learn. Every time you make a mistake you learn a little more about life. You then become wiser and more aware.

Five years from now you will be much wiser than you are today, but the wisdom you will have five years from now doesn't do you any good today. This is true because today, you don't have it.

Likewise the wisdom that you have today didn't do you any good back when you made your mistake. This is true because back then, you didn't know what you know today. You only knew what you knew.

To see this in your life, go back in time to the moment you made your mistake. Notice that at the time, you had a very particular state of mind and a very particular way of seeing life. Notice that you acted totally consistent with where you were at the moment.

If you knew then what you know today, you could have acted very differently, but you didn't. Even if you thought you knew better, you didn't know the consequences like you do today.

So here is the big question: Are you willing to forgive yourself for not knowing? Are you willing to forgive yourself for not being wiser and more aware? You might as well. If you look, you did the very best you could with where you were at the time.

Now it's time to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for not being wiser and more aware. Forgive yourself for acting consistent with your limited awareness and forgive yourself for the damage that you caused as a result of your not knowing. Forgive yourself just because you say so.

[johny5]

HI, thanks for the advice its always a pleasure to learn from such wisdom full people and not get told to "wise up" and "get on with it" why should we when we can all learn from each other and find out what us humans are all about apart from making money, thanks again. johny5.