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|06-02-2011, 09:27 PM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2006
Charlie Sheen's School of High Self-Esteem!
I have to thank one of the members here, for linking to his website and sharing little nuggets of wisdom from C.Sheen. I'm too lazy to look up his screen name right now.
Here the dialogue that really struck me:
Journo:You said you've cured yourself of addiction, How have you done that?
C.S:I closed my eyes and made it so.With the power of my mind.
Other Journo:Aren't you scared you're going to relapse?
C.S:No. Because I'm not going to. I blinked and I cured my brain.Everybody has the power, "Can't is the cancer of happen.
Journo:How can people believe you're clean given you're track record?
C.S:I don't care about what people believe, I care in what I believe.
I know those are the words of a drug addict, but could there be any value in applying his theory?
Hearing those words I asked myself: Could it really be that simple? Could you just decide that you have high self-esteem "in a blink of an eye"( or could stop a negative behavior). I tested the idea today. It was pretty fantastic.
Everytime I would seem to slip down to lower self-esteem territory, I would remind myself that I was now a person with high self-esteem so I couldn't revert to that lower way of thinking.
It was pretty fun too! I was wearing skin tight gym wear but hiding my tummy and bum, I was also sucking in my stomach, because my prior low self-esteem dictated that being overweight was not o.k.
High self-esteem me decided to stick her stomach out, take off the long cardigan and expose bum and tummy!
I was strutting my stuff, not even feeling ashamed when crossing path with skinny, pretty girls because: "hey, they were not me. Poor things!" If a cute guy didn't pay attention, I thought: "His loss!"
I actually cancelled a coffee date I had agreed to in lower self-esteem days.The guy agreed to meet this Saturday but wanted to let me know the time of our meeting " nearer to the day". I was like: My time is precious, I'm not waiting around: forget it. Now, people with high self-esteem don't let guys set up the pace. You want a date: set up a day and time.
It was fun to indulge in the curiosity: Could it be that easy? Just decide, without any hesitation that, hey, I have high self-esteem now.It so relaxing because it was a no brainer. It really happened in a blink of an eye. It was not a fake it until a make it, it was : be it now.
In the blink of an eye...
I don't approve of drug and porn addicts,but sometimes the wisdom comes from unlikely gurus.
Thank you Charlie Sheen.
|06-02-2011, 09:58 PM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Mar 2008
I would love to be really able to do that. I have a great self esteem when I am alone because I feel alive but when I am around people I feel so self-conscious. It's getting really bad. If I see someone looking at me I hate it so much.
|06-02-2011, 10:37 PM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2008
The stigma against drug users is stupid. If you require medicine then you are no different from a drug addict. It doesn't matter where the drugs come from, a doctor, a drug dealer. They're still drugs and it's still a business made to profit.
|06-03-2011, 03:17 AM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jun 2011
Well what he said is 100% true. You can blink your eyes and cure your brain, its all about how you look at it. The mind trumps all. I disagree that he has any mental illness. Everything he did was Genius, you have to look inside his words and wonder what he was really saying. He says his brain fires in a different way, which makes some sense, he is a creative genius. He is Bi Winning. How he talks about the big names who called not go give "advice" but "support" After all of this, he parlayed his face time into a nationwide tour which produces a very large amount of money for him. He talks about partying and there is not reason to believe he was not awesome at it.
|06-03-2011, 04:33 PM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Mexico City
It works Although it takes a lot of vigilance of your thoughts to make it stick.
Thinking a certain way is a habit, so if you want to change the habit, you have to replace it with a different habit. And if a certain habit (like being shy) has gone on long enough, it may take some time to fully replace that habit.
The one thing that is important is that you fully 100% believe yourself when you say "I'm a socially confident person now!"
(I wouldn't use negatives like "I'm not shy anymore" because the unconscious mind doesn't process that as well as confirming statements).
|06-05-2011, 03:13 PM||#10 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2006
Andrew - Mr. Polyman - yep, you're the person I have to thank for leading me to the Charlie Sheen Experience - Muchas Gracias!!!
It reminds me of what my therapist said in our last session.I had decided it was going to be a 6 months stint -Was moving to a different country within 6 months, had enough money for 6 months of therapy, and had decided that therapy was a tool and I was the master of that tool so my issues had to be resolved in 6 months.
I always thought it was to the therapist's financial advantage to keep their patient as long as possible, so was not going to pull a Woody Allen. I knew people who had been in therapy for years without any noticeable progress and certainly not the sort of progress that the amount of time and money they spent should have delivered.
When the therapist asked: "What are you going to do when you feel deeply depressed again? "- I replied : "I'm never going to be deeply depressed again , it doesn't help me to believe I will. Actually, it's counter productive."
She then said: "Oh, but you have a chemical imbalance, of course you're going to be depressed again, it's a physical thing in your brain."( Never had any medical exam revealing a brain malfunction).
Let's just say: We didn't part in good terms...I also refused to get any kind of medication. Which gets me to that point:
It takes a lot of vigilance. I just recalibrate with: "Remember, you have high self esteem now", and just scoff at the low self esteem voice of the lower, past, self, as if it were another person, standing by my side and saying nasty things about me.
You are right, at the beginning I was using negatives: I don't have low-self esteem anymore...It was way more difficult to switch back to the high self esteem mind track.
It's been so fun intellectually, like a little mind game. It's really exciting to be right about oneself. To be the creator of one's own state and direction.
On Friday, I wanted to go to a club, but was hesitating because I was on my own and it was going to be full of hipsters ( I was in business clothes and I'm not a hipster or 20- something). Then, of course, being a high self esteem person, why should I have given a damn? - So I went with my little black dress, glasses, sensible shoes, and just danced like no one was watching. Nobody batted an eyelash. Great fun!
I hated how he was accused of being bipolar...It's like: "Oh wait!You're having too much fun and are not some sorry loser with a life made of sad tales, plus you think differently from the herd: Must be bipolar!"
Frankly, as a person or artist, I don't admire him, but I admire what he says, and the way he uses his brain.
If the wisdom is drug-related, I don't really care. I'd rather get good advice from a druggie than bad advice from a sober guy.
I don't find addictions appealing. Some addicts are just their addiction ( in reality they are quite boring people), and some people are interesting in spite of their addiction ( not thanks to it). I think Charlie Sheen is a highly intelligent person that happens to take drugs.
|06-05-2011, 07:32 PM||#11 (permalink)|
Join Date: Apr 2011
|06-05-2011, 07:45 PM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Apr 2011
I think if he wants to live with 2 girls or whatever, that's his life. If he is happy, great. I mean, he never did anything BAD. I don't know why people give him such a hard time. Oh wait, I do. It's because people are so quick to judge and criticize lifestyles and to diagnose him with diseases like bipolar that they know nothing about and shouldn't even have the right to have their say but want publicity and money. Anyways, I quite like the blinking idea. I think it's simple and brilliant.
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