Expressing emotion versus manifesting

[The Coronet]

Im really confused about this.

Lately I felt a great sadness about a situation, it came about when is got feelings for a friend and I felt they just didnt belong there, on top of that they were not reciprocated.

It really threw me as my emotions usually do, I didnt know weather to let myself just sit with the sadness, or focus on something super positive as I would when manifesting. The thing is I did that but the sadness keeps popping up just when I think im over it. Should i stop wanting to change it and just let it be, or is it just a reflection of my mindset, and some self worth issue thats really making me sad, (like I can nver meet someone who I can connect with in that way) and therefore I should exam it and change it.

Emotions confuse the hell out of me, I feel like if Im living by the LOA I should be positive all the time and this sadness, is just annoying :-(

Thanks in advance for your help

[Lychee]

It's difficult to separate yourself emotionally when you feel attached to someone. Let the sadness come, because if you try to supress it it will only become more noticeable in your life. Feel the sadness, but do not wallow in it. Following LoA isn't always about being happy 24/7. Usually when things are going great that's the time things may start to fall apart. That's just the cycle of life, and it only prepares us for something greater.

[jolynnong]

Originally Posted by Lychee

It's difficult to separate yourself emotionally when you feel attached to someone. Let the sadness come, because if you try to supress it it will only become more noticeable in your life. Feel the sadness, but do not wallow in it. Following LoA isn't always about being happy 24/7. Usually when things are going great that's the time things may start to fall apart. That's just the cycle of life, and it only prepares us for something greater.

I agree we have the up and down ....Parctising LOA will have a impact to our life. Decide what you want, write it on a card, carry the card with you, read it as often as possible every day, at least every morning when you get up and before you to go to bed at night. .... you will see that your thinking change and your life changed .... soon you will live the life of abundance.

[Lychee]

Originally Posted by jolynnong

I agree we have the up and down ....Parctising LOA will have a impact to our life. Decide what you want, write it on a card, carry the card with you, read it as often as possible every day, at least every morning when you get up and before you to go to bed at night. .... you will see that your thinking change and your life changed .... soon you will live the life of abundance.

I heard about this technique as well. Have you tried it personally? Would it be better to focus on one intention or can you write several on a card to read throughout the day?

[betlamed]

One important step for me was to realize that I could create any emotion I wanted, out of thin ear, by learning NLP techniques. That really, really helped a lot on so many different levels.

I guess the most important helpful aspect was that I lost a good deal of my FEAR of sadness. Today, I can be sad, and live that sadness to the fullest, because I know I can step out of it any time if it gets too much.

[Lallymac]

One of the greatest revelations for me was realizing that I can decide how I emotionally respond to any given situation and for how long. NLP helped me too.
I like being able to alter the modalities of my emotions when it suits me. It's rather like having a remote control where you can turn up the brilliance and sound on the positive and turn down/reduce the colour on the negative.
And yes, you can create the emotions the you want out of thin air. I did it at xmas after watching 'The Secret'. Someone said at the end of the DVD to start with something simple. I've been single for 4-5 yrs and had been enjoying it. Over xmas I realized I'd like to fall in love again. I began to remember what it felt like and created those feelings around me. It felt great. My kids even asked 'Are you in love or something Mum.' I was singing and full of life.
Three weeks later I attracted someone in. My energy was vibrant but he wasn't ready for it. Looking back I overwhelmed him and he bolted leaving me feeling a bit confused. But in hindsight, I'd shifted my self into a space that was great for me but next time maybe I need to tone it down let it grow naturally when someone steps in.
Lalymac

[Jross22]

Originally Posted by Lallymac

One of the greatest revelations for me was realizing that I can decide how I emotionally respond to any given situation and for how long. NLP helped me too.
I like being able to alter the modalities of my emotions when it suits me. It's rather like having a remote control where you can turn up the brilliance and sound on the positive and turn down/reduce the colour on the negative.
And yes, you can create the emotions the you want out of thin air. I did it at xmas after watching 'The Secret'. Someone said at the end of the DVD to start with something simple. I've been single for 4-5 yrs and had been enjoying it. Over xmas I realized I'd like to fall in love again. I began to remember what it felt like and created those feelings around me. It felt great. My kids even asked 'Are you in love or something Mum.' I was singing and full of life.
Three weeks later I attracted someone in. My energy was vibrant but he wasn't ready for it. Looking back I overwhelmed him and he bolted leaving me feeling a bit confused. But in hindsight, I'd shifted my self into a space that was great for me but next time maybe I need to tone it down let it grow naturally when someone steps in.
Lalymac

This is a fantastic inspiring anecdote for me, totally in an OT way... Thank you so much

[Elrond]

You DON'T have to feel blissfull all the time. If your feeling sad, you should concentrate on feeling better. And if you can't manage to feel better, don't beat yourself up over it. You don't want to feel bad about feeling bad, that won't help you.

To go from feeling sad to feeling happy is often a quantum leap; it's hard to do and maintain. Just try to feel better. I've got some suggestions for thoughts. If you feel that they give you relief or that they feel good to you, write them down. Writing them down will help you focus on them. Just take the once that work for you, and maby you will come up with some of your own once the snowball has mustered up some momentum:



- It's not the end of the world if I feel bad now.
- Even if I feel bad a lot of the time, there is still a lot that is going my way.
- Feeling bad hasn't messed up my life in a big way lately, it seems.
- Even just making peace with my sadness can give me some relief.
- I feel better about being sad already.



- I already know of some emotions that feel better than this. Maby I can access them too?
- If I can only manage to feel a little better, it will give me some relief.
- If I quit now, atleast I will know that I managed to make myself feel a little better.
- Maby having practiced these thoughts will make me feel less vulnerable the next time something like this happens to me?
- The "situation" doesn't seem so bad now. It feels less threatening and bad now.
- It actually feels a little fun to think about. I'm seeing it in a whole different light!
- Laughter and fun feels more in my viccinity now.
- I'm having an easier time thinking about the fun things that have happened to me lately.
- There are a lot of fun things in my life.
- Thinking about fun things will bring more of it.