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|01-27-2011, 04:42 PM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Suriname, South America
How to forgive a cheating husband
My husband cheated on me 90% of the time that we were together. First we broke up because of this and after some years we got back because he said he was totally changed and so. I forgave him and trusted him again. We had a great time and i felt like i could not be happier. But after a year i found out that he has been cheating again twice, while he was such a great husband at home. I did not end the relationship, but i have difficulty to enjoy his love and kindness towards me now, because i feel like i am being tricked. What now?
|01-27-2011, 04:55 PM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: earth, everywhere and nowhere
He *might* have sexual addiction which can be addressed through counseling. He might be more naturally wired for polyamory, which has no real need to be addressed as long as there is compatibility or openness about the lifestyle.
I can't say I would have an easy time with forgiving a partner who did this over and over. That bit of it is what leads me to say he may benefit from counseling. If there's an underlying need he tries to meet through those extramarital relationships.
Do you want to be with him whether he changes this pattern or not?
Do you like the idea of being with a partner who doesn't stray in that way?
Do you feel you deserve a fully monogamous relationship?
Last edited by rei; 01-27-2011 at 04:58 PM.
|01-27-2011, 05:05 PM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2006
Hi, Mireille; welcome to the forums! Here's a book that helped me a lot, and has helped people I know: After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust when a Partner Has Been Unfaithful.
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