Masterbation

[nhlpens]

How do I stop doing it? Yes STOP.

I want to try and go 3 weeks without sex / masterbation - tian (?).
I remember when I went 3 weeks without ejaculation and I felt GREAT.

Gutsy, happy, full of energy, funny. In other words I had balls. Please don't laugh, I'm serious.

But I'm addicted !

Please help me guys, I can't go through this alone.

[Fendaril]

In my opinion, you already set yourself up for failure when you mentioned a time span.

To stop something you need stop thinking about numbers.

[nhlpens]

Originally Posted by Fendaril

In my opinion, you already set yourself up for failure when you mentioned a time span.

To stop something you need stop thinking about numbers.

So I should rather just make a decision that I will not have sex and just see what happends? Sorry... I don't think I understand completely.

[Angelique]

Is there somewhere else you can direct your sexual energy? I thought all that sexual energy/breathing stuff was a bit silly but I tried it and it worked!

By this I mean that I randomly tried 'moving up' the sexual energy up towards my heart/lungs. It really made a difference.

[Fendaril]

Originally Posted by nhlpens

So I should rather just make a decision that I will not have sex and just see what happends? Sorry... I don't think I understand completely.

No. Don't just see what happens, make a concious effort, but don't say it will only last for 3 weeks because then you are simply telling yourself to revert back to yourself.

You want to make a lasting change right?

[nhlpens]

Originally Posted by Fendaril

No. Don't just see what happens, make a concious effort, but don't say it will only last for 3 weeks because then you are simply telling yourself to revert back to yourself.

You want to make a lasting change right?

I understand now, excellent point.

[NDN Scholar]

You know, whenever people start talking about ending their ejaculations, I always feel obligated to remind them that this increases their risk of prostate cancer. We have little sex machines in us, it's part of our natural evolution.

I can understand that you feel you are addicted to masturbation, and that you need to end that addiction, but maybe you should try to replace it with an amount of sex instead. Or, failing that, a much more limited amount of masturbating sessions.

Just thought I'd throw that out there...

[nhlpens]

Originally Posted by Angelique

Is there somewhere else you can direct your sexual energy? I thought all that sexual energy/breathing stuff was a bit silly but I tried it and it worked!

By this I mean that I randomly tried 'moving up' the sexual energy up towards my heart/lungs. It really made a difference.

Will try this, thanks so much !

Its almost like a craving, that hits me like I 'must have it'. Like cigarettes.

[nhlpens]

Originally Posted by NDN Scholar

You know, whenever people start talking about ending their ejaculations, I always feel obligated to remind them that this increases their risk of prostate cancer. We have little sex machines in us, it's part of our natural evolution.

I can understand that you feel you are addicted to masturbation, and that you need to end that addiction, but maybe you should try to replace it with an amount of sex instead. Or, failing that, a much more limited amount of masturbating sessions.

Just thought I'd throw that out there...

Thanks, I appericate all the help I get here.

[MiBeloved]

What triggers the need to do it, like suppose I am addicted to hamburgers but then I forget about it, and then I pass by McDonald's, I have no thought of it and then I smell the foods from that restaurant and again I feel to have one even though I just had a full meal?

[nhlpens]

I think that the internet plays a big role in my addiction.
If I as much as see a hot picture of a girl I feel the urge, but sometimes it just pops in my head.

Its like the burgers MiBeloved, I would go as far as to call this addication 101.
I crave the pleasure, and get upset if I can't get my "fix".

And the internet is full of p0rn.

[relaXman]

Originally Posted by nhlpens

I think that the internet plays a big role in my addiction.
If I as much as see a hot picture of a girl I feel the urge, but sometimes it just pops in my head.

Its like the burgers MiBeloved, I would go as far as to call this addication 101.
I crave the pleasure, and get upset if I can't get my "fix".

And the internet is full of p0rn.

hey nhl,

It is not healthy solution to cut masturbation completely ,
because , you will need by some reasonable thigs, not by addiction .

first of all ,you can aim to decrease to once a week, or once two week,

Do you want rescue from masturbation for religion reasons also ?

[nhlpens]

Originally Posted by relaXman

hey nhl,

It is not healthy solution to cut masturbation completely ,
because , you will need by some reasonable thigs, not by addiction .

first of all ,you can aim to decrease to once a week, or once two week,

Do you want rescue from masturbation for religion reasons also ?

Hmm yeah. Like cutting back on smoking... :-) Thanks.
There are some religions reasons why I wan't to stop too, also some spiritually reasons.

[relaXman]

Originally Posted by nhlpens

Hmm yeah. Like cutting back on smoking... :-) Thanks.
There are some religions reasons why I wan't to stop too, also some spiritually reasons.

where are you from ?

[nhlpens]

Originally Posted by relaXman

where are you from ?

Norway to be exact. (Scandinavia)

I feel really motivated right now, feel like I can overcome this addiction.
In a Spiritual sense I feel that masterbation does something to us, something negative.

[Illuminatus]

Originally Posted by nhlpens

How do I stop doing it? Yes STOP.

I want to try and go 3 weeks without sex / masterbation - tian (?).
I remember when I went 3 weeks without ejaculation and I felt GREAT.

Gutsy, happy, full of energy, funny. In other words I had balls. Please don't laugh, I'm serious.

But I'm addicted !

Please help me guys, I can't go through this alone.

1) You spelled "masturbation" wrong.
2) Why the F-CK would you want to give it up? Seriously, get a grip man. It's normal. Why don't you give up BREATHING while you're at it?

[bene4310]

Originally Posted by Illuminatus

1) You spelled "masturbation" wrong.
2) Why the F-CK would you want to give it up? Seriously, get a grip man. It's normal. Why don't you give up BREATHING while you're at it?

It's not like breathing. I don't masturbate, and I don't feel unhealthy for not doing so. Kudos to the OP.

Take things one day at a time, recognize right now that you're probably going to stumble but that you can still overcome the habit, and list your "triggers" and be prepared to avoid them.

The most important skill is the ability to recognize a thought pattern that will lead to masturbation and to end it or distract yourself before it's a problem. That habit takes time, practice, and training.

Good luck!

[Illuminatus]

Originally Posted by bene4310

It's not like breathing. I don't masturbate, and I don't feel unhealthy for not doing so. Kudos to the OP.

Take things one day at a time, recognize right now that you're probably going to stumble but that you can still overcome the habit, and list your "triggers" and be prepared to avoid them.

The most important skill is the ability to recognize a thought pattern that will lead to masturbation and to end it or distract yourself before it's a problem. That habit takes time, practice, and training.

Good luck!

Read your Bible and be a good pleb while you're at it.

[bene4310]

Originally Posted by Illuminatus

Read your Bible and be a good pleb while you're at it.

Sure. If the OP is a Christian, that's a good aid to practicing self-control.

[Lionman]

Give the guy a break. He came on here to ask for advice on how to stop for 3 weeks and he already said that he has noticed the benefits from not doing it.

nhlpens, when you feel the urge there's a technique you can do. Take a deep breath, then exhale while imagining your exhaling the energy from your genitals up your back and into your head. Then take a deep breath in while imagining your breathing the energy back down from your head over the front of your body into to your genitals then exhale back up and inhale down a few more times making a circle. This circulates the energy and is VERY effective. It's an ancient Taoist practice called the "Microcosmic Orbit" used to circulate sexual energy so you can channel it into other activities.

[relaXman]

Originally Posted by Lionman

Give the guy a break. He came on here to ask for advice on how to stop for 3 weeks and he already said that he has noticed the benefits from not doing it.

nhlpens, when you feel the urge there's a technique you can do. Take a deep breath, then exhale while imagining your exhaling the energy from your genitals up your back and into your head. Then take a deep breath in while imagining your breathing the energy back down from your head over the front of your body into to your genitals then exhale back up and inhale down a few more times making a circle. This circulates the energy and is VERY effective. It's an ancient Taoist practice called the "Microcosmic Orbit" used to circulate sexual energy so you can channel it into other activities.

I think , this is Kundalina breath
If this is practised regularly, kundalina may rise,
However I don't know If it is effective for masturbation.
so that, Urges need to be finished in mind.
but I would try.

[Lionman]

Trust me, I've got experience with this. I've only gone 2 weeks without popping the cork using this technique, and at the peak I felt like I could move mountains. I was pumping heavy weights, I was having sex with my girlfriend A LOT but not finishing (breathing up the back)... I would just keep on going until I tired her out. I felt great, full of energy and fearless. I can see why the OP wants to do it.

If you want to get to this level you can try wanking but stopping when you reach the edge, the danger is that you will loose control and just bust your nut though. If you do this a lot and manage to keep it in, you will feel super aggressive but channeled well you can harness it to achieve great things.

These are the paths of the Microcosmic Orbit. Up the back, down the front. You can breathe in extra energy through the legs but that will just add more sexual energy to the mix which can overload you. Yeah, RelaxMan, Kundalini experiences can occur if you save your juices for a length of time. The key to delay this is physical exercise and channeling the energy outwards.

[relaXman]

Thank you leonman ,

[AlmostGodess]

Originally Posted by Lionman

Trust me, I've got experience with this. I've only gone 2 weeks without popping the cork using this technique, and at the peak I felt like I could move mountains. I was pumping heavy weights, I was having sex with my girlfriend A LOT but not finishing (breathing up the back)... I would just keep on going until I tired her out. I felt great, full of energy and fearless. I can see why the OP wants to do it.

If you want to get to this level you can try wanking but stopping when you reach the edge, the danger is that you will loose control and just bust your nut though. If you do this a lot and manage to keep it in, you will feel super aggressive but channeled well you can harness it to achieve great things.

These are the paths of the Microcosmic Orbit. Up the back, down the front. You can breathe in extra energy through the legs but that will just add more sexual energy to the mix which can overload you. Yeah, RelaxMan, Kundalini experiences can occur if you save your juices for a length of time. The key to delay this is physical exercise and channeling the energy outwards.

Thank you, Lionman, I did not know about this technique. I have however one question: isn't the sexual energy supposed to fulfill some sexual purposes in our bodies? I agree that doing this from time to time could just supplement for the other types of energies that we lack. However, doing this on a constant basis seems like a bit unnatural to me.

Could you please address this worry of mine?

[AlmostGodess]

Originally Posted by nhlpens

Yeah and maybe I can make you stop breathing too igornant *******??

Next time I post on a forum I'll make sure to give you a copy of my 2 years harvard degree in english. Since you are so stupid and can't understand that my native language is not english you can just rot in your own black dark negative ****. PRICK.

Many of us are not native speakers here, don't worry. And we correct each other from time to time and it's ok

[James81]

You aren't describing Master-bation. You're describing Padawan-bation.

Padawan-bation is when you are still learning about your body, and facing all the insecurities that come with it that are present in our current culture and feel as what you are doing is wrong.

Mater-bation is when you realize that you can't think clearly to invent things until you get that batch of semen out of you and you just do it so you can move onto bigger and better things.

[Illuminatus]

Originally Posted by James81

You aren't describing Master-bation. You're describing Padawan-bation.

Padawan-bation is when you are still learning about your body, and facing all the insecurities that come with it that are present in our current culture and feel as what you are doing is wrong.

Mater-bation is when you realize that you can't think clearly to invent things until you get that batch of semen out of you and you just do it so you can move onto bigger and better things.

*Like*

[ZephyrusX]

Originally Posted by nhlpens

In a Spiritual sense I feel that masterbation does something to us, something negative.

Could you elaborate upon this? I personally don't find anything wrong with masturbation. It is just a normal and healthy part of our sexuality as far as I'm concerned. So I'm curious to hear your reasoning as your opinion is quite different than mine.

As to your request, I don't really have any advise. May be occupy your time with other things besides surfing the net?

[Lionman]

Originally Posted by AlmostGodess

Thank you, Lionman, I did not know about this technique. I have however one question: isn't the sexual energy supposed to fulfill some sexual purposes in our bodies? I agree that doing this from time to time could just supplement for the other types of energies that we lack. However, doing this on a constant basis seems like a bit unnatural to me.

Could you please address this worry of mine?

It's a good question. Men tend to loose a lot of pent up energy after orgasm. Most guys find that relaxing which is fine, but some guys thrive on this pent up energy which they use to channel into other activities. Lots of the big names in history were very highly sexed men, it was a massive drive pushing them forwards.

In Taoism, sexual energy is basically highly condensed life force. I agree that a man shouldn't have to rely on delaying orgasm for a long time to build up this energy. Ideally he should have so much life force that he can orgasm 20 times a day and feel he still is full with sexual energy to channel into other pursuits. To get even a bit close to that stage, a guy would have to do a lot of Taoist condensing exercises.

But for the purpose of the OP, he wants to thrive on this pent up energy and the easiest way at this stage is to just not cum for a couple of weeks. But I agree not to use it as a crutch, the OP should also look into other ways of building up his sexual energy / life force.

[insanezenmistress]

i suspect the taoist stuff translates different for females.

I dont need an orgasim in order to consentrate. sex ( even masterbation fantacy) seem to be a way i can be empowered by the passsion of energies. but for me it is not addiction even if i want *shoot one off* before bed.

i dont understand men's physical need to ejaculate, when sex is mostly mental and completely optional for me.

but i can totally dig on some of Lionman's methods...

jes