need help

[MISTIK]

Hello everybody
Well it's me again trying to fight procrastination here is my story:
I'm a college student falling behind academicaly : I've studied nothing last year and when I say nothing I really mean nothing and I've been depressed because of this : when you're down people just try to get you lower ... Now I'm trying to restart but I'm not succeeding : I've forgotten how it's like to study, I don't know how to work effectively, since I have to catch up last year materials plus understanding what I'm getting right now I have to manage my time extremely well but what I'm doing is just the opposite ... And of course if I keep doing this I will definitely fail...Please help me

[Kurtzilla]

MISTIK, what you need to do, is find what your passionate about. Maybe the classes your taking are the wrong ones. It's hard to get motivated about something, when you have no passion for it. Don't try to make other people happy with what they want you to be, make yourself happy with what you want to be or do. Focus on your future goals and not the goals of others.
Mind Over Matter, Really Does Matter.

[Gals]

Originally Posted by MISTIK

Hello everybody
Well it's me again trying to fight procrastination here is my story:
I'm a college student falling behind academicaly : I've studied nothing last year and when I say nothing I really mean nothing and I've been depressed because of this : when you're down people just try to get you lower ... Now I'm trying to restart but I'm not succeeding : I've forgotten how it's like to study, I don't know how to work effectively, since I have to catch up last year materials plus understanding what I'm getting right now I have to manage my time extremely well but what I'm doing is just the opposite ... And of course if I keep doing this I will definitely fail...Please help me

Hi Mistik,

Well, Guess what? that's why you're falling behind--it's because as you said it yourself, you're not studying...so what do you expect? Bitter pill to swallow, but you reap what you sow.

You can try to look for a tutor or look for remedial classes. Stay in the lib. If you have to force yourself to study, then do it! YOu should look for ways on how to motivate yourself. Look for help within your reach.

[Entelechy]

Originally Posted by MISTIK

Hello everybody
Well it's me again trying to fight procrastination here is my story:
I'm a college student falling behind academicaly : I've studied nothing last year and when I say nothing I really mean nothing and I've been depressed because of this : when you're down people just try to get you lower ... Now I'm trying to restart but I'm not succeeding : I've forgotten how it's like to study, I don't know how to work effectively, since I have to catch up last year materials plus understanding what I'm getting right now I have to manage my time extremely well but what I'm doing is just the opposite ... And of course if I keep doing this I will definitely fail...Please help me

Hi MISTIK,

This sounds like a character issue.

I would recommend either changing your major to something you are more passionate about, or taking some time off from school to find your passion (if you haven't done so already).

It is clear that you are unmotivated, and as much as I (we) would like to help you, there is no magic pill or magic formula available to solve this problem.

Worst case scenario, you take time off from school, don't find your passion, and go back to school because you are tired of working retail / fast food / customer service. At the very least, you'll regain motivation to study.

Best case scenario, you find something you love and become the happiest person alive.

Time to act.

[MISTIK]

To Kurtzilla :Searching passion should only come later, yeah in the country where I'm living you can't have a decent life if you don't study..Even more you have to ace the classes you're taking..
To Gals : I'll try I mean I've to do smth about it..
To Entelechy: Yes it's a character issue, and I can't leave school because if I do so there is no chance I could get back there are lot of hindrances to those who do that and they rarely succeed because they have to study more materiels than the others ; the only option I have is to continue and succeed !

[alexb5784]

If you live Europe, then I can understand not having the immediate flexibility to change your studies. But you can still go to the registry office and ask what can be done. Since it's October, you might have to wait to change courses. Ask someone at university for help. You'll never know your options unless you explore them.

I personally know what it's like to study a subject that's boring. When I was 19 I studies Architecture for a couple of months because I wanted to impress my Dad. Needless to say I barely went to class and partied a lot. In the end, my grades were terrible. Then I switched to something I liked and fared a lot better. I enjoyed doing my work and made perfect marks (A's).

You seem to either not know what you want to study or you know what you want but are afraid that it's not possible for you to enjoy it. Does your desired of field require a lot of hard work? If so, then just do the work. It will pay off in the end. Or is your desired field something your family would look down on?

In the end, the choice is up to you. You have to study what YOU like. If you don't then you'll end up a miserable person working in a miserable job. In other words, you'll be like most people who are too scared to do what they really want to do.

Good luck and don't give up!

PS: If you're in the UK, maybe this information might help on changing courses.