I feel down and lonely

[brendannz]

Just wanted to vent,

I just feel really down & lonely. Just don't seem to have any girlfriend prospect unless I improve confidence, communication, courage etc. & seems missing out on those fun aspects of life.. & think I don't know how to trust..

Plus my parents are overseas at the moment, maybe I'm missing them more than I thought I would. I don't live with my folks but see them often.

The good part is, I seem to get over these moods pretty quickly, I just thought it would be good to get it out in the open, and this forum would be a safe haven for it.

Maybe feeling lonely is a cause not an effect though? or something..

Well thanks for listening everybody..

[marinik]

We are all here for you! It will pass!

[Leesah]

I'm having a down day today too, for some reason. I hope you feel better soon.

Could you do some things today that you enjoy? Perhaps you have a 'feel good' film you like to watch? Some favourite music? Some "you time" activity that would improve your mood? (my god and I'm not even doing that myself ... I may take my own advice...)

Originally Posted by brendannz

Just don't seem to have any girlfriend prospect unless I improve confidence, communication, courage etc. & seems missing out on those fun aspects of life.. & think I don't know how to trust..

Hey, at least you're aware of some areas you would benefit improving on. Acknowledging your problem areas is probably the first step in overcoming them.

[rei]

I think we all go through this sometimes. It is good to let it out as you said. Love to you, brendan.

[brendannz]

[QUOTE=Leesah;702196]

Some favourite music?

I'll pick that one

Hey, at least you're aware of some areas you would benefit improving on. Acknowledging your problem areas is probably the first step in overcoming them.

Well, yeah I think it's being able to go into it feeling you have something to offer rather than begging for acceptance, or something, but I think there's just a number of things I'm not clear headed about at the moment

[rei]

For the clear-headedness, have you tried body awareness? Or playing an especially strenuous game of basketball? I find moving away from thinking into doing helps with that sort of thing.

Another thing that helps is to just consciously shift your attention down into your chest. Or to sort of pull it downward so you feel like you're filling up your whole body.

Sometimes the emotions and thoughts we're feeling are pointing to insight and sometimes it's just emotion and we'll get past it and be back to our usual state of being. It's not always something to fix. You probably know that, though.

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by rei

Or playing an especially strenuous game of basketball? I find moving away from thinking into doing helps with that sort of thing.

I'll make sure I do that this week..

I think I've just been identifying with my own ego too much lately, and I think I have been too distrustful, & fearful and I need to trust my new friends...

[C33]

I tend to have this sort of feeling of loneliness when seasons change...
Is there any major planetary change right now?Things are shifting.

Somewhere there is someone who will easily and effortlessly relate to you.

Love is simple.Dating is not!

We sometimes feel lonely because we fail to see that we are all connected. We also fail to believe that we are enough to attract the right person for us, at this time of life.Even as we type words on a screen, we are connected, fleetingly.

It's putting much energy in feeling lonely that takes away from our magnificence.

I agree: put some music on...Find what moves you and you'll soon find the person who moves you.

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by C33

I tend to have this sort of feeling of loneliness when seasons change...
Is there any major planetary change right now?Things are shifting.

Somewhere there is someone who will easily and effortlessly relate to you.

Love is simple.Dating is not!

We sometimes feel lonely because we fail to see that we are all connected. We also fail to believe that we are enough to attract the right person for us, at this time of life.Even as we type words on a screen, we are connected, fleetingly.

It's putting much energy in feeling lonely that takes away from our magnificence.

I agree: put some music on...Find what moves you and you'll soon find the person who moves you.

Yep, don't worry feeling way better now, someone lock this thread if possible

[SeaRod]

I haven't had this lonely feeling in a WHILE. This probably has to do because we are never alone. I could go further but then I will approach the spiritual dimension.

Cheer up

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by SeaRod

Cheer up

Already have, read my last post

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by brendannz

Yep, don't worry feeling way better now, someone lock this thread if possible

We don't usually lock threads because the topic has been solved. More great opinions can come, and be useful for other people reading the thread. You are more then welcome to stop answering in the thread though...

[xfactor]

Originally Posted by brendannz

Maybe feeling lonely is a cause not an effect though? or something..

Well thanks for listening everybody..

Maybe, but I think you should stop judging yourself and let go of all the "confidence, communication and courage" stuff. You're good the way you are, you don't have to change for some girl to like you. On the contrary, there was a good phrase I heard in "Expendables", it went something like "guys who do well with women can do well without them".