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nube · 08-04-2010, 04:06 PM

I have to let go of a person in my life that I care about but he is draining me. I know it will get better after a while, but I decided to cut him out of my life this friday so it is quite fresh and still hurts a bit.
I know people keep floating in and out of each others life, but that is what we have been doing for years and it always ends with me feeling really hurt so this time I want to really let go, and make room for other more compatible people that energize and encourage me rather than drain me.
any tips?

Syndicate · 08-04-2010, 10:42 PM

Forgive and forget and just wait it out... unfortunately, that's all you can do. I just came out of a 7 year relationship and I am 24. Life will never be the same for me and, although it doesn't feel good right now, I know that it will only get better.

scotthegeek · 08-05-2010, 02:56 AM

Buddha and letting go video its long but I feel better after watching YouTube - ‪BuddhistSocietyWA's Channel‬&lrm;

Gals · 08-05-2010, 03:39 AM

Oh, I've let go of some people already, (mostly ex-friends) because they turned out to be not the same people I've met before (meaning the initial encounters was just a goody-goody facade they wear. Then, as time goes by, they transform into some different personalities--maybe coz of too much familiarity already blah blah,).

But it was just gradual, no pressure and no confrontation. I just stopped corresponding with them--which is good. It's better than being stuck in a company you don't like

LockedHeart · 08-05-2010, 03:57 AM

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Originally Posted by nube

I have to let go of a person in my life that I care about but he is draining me. I know it will get better after a while, but I decided to cut him out of my life this friday so it is quite fresh and still hurts a bit.
I know people keep floating in and out of each others life, but that is what we have been doing for years and it always ends with me feeling really hurt so this time I want to really let go, and make room for other more compatible people that energize and encourage me rather than drain me.
any tips?

Before I would try to give any tips on this subject, I would like to know a little more. When you say "Draining me", what exactly do you mean?

secrets0stolen · 08-05-2010, 04:19 AM

A song for you, that I "just happened" to be listing to

YouTube - ‪Francesca Battistelli - I'm Letting Go‬&lrm;

In addition, Steve's article: Letting Go With Love is excellent. I'm not sure how much it would apply to your situation, but I think comes from a great mindset that can be helpful to step into for a comforting perspective, imo

nube · 08-05-2010, 01:25 PM

thank you for all your advices

I think I will wait it out, feels right. And it feels better and better.

PDW · 08-05-2010, 08:32 PM

I don't know if it would help but I wrote a post about letting go in my new blog last week. You might want to give it a skim - Letting Go - How to Let it Go

I guess it takes time. In my experience it also depends on the proximity you have to the person you just broke up with. If you are seeing him every now and then, then it takes longer. If you don't bump into him for a long time or move away somewhere else like a new city then its easier. Its much harder if you break up with someone and then have to put up with seeing them with their new partner around town. Then you have to sum up all the power from your soul to let go. Its tough but it can be done.

lynn6185 · 08-05-2010, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by PDW

I don't know if it would help but I wrote a post about letting go in my new blog last week. You might want to give it a skim - Letting Go - How to Let it Go

I guess it takes time. In my experience it also depends on the proximity you have to the person you just broke up with. If you are seeing him every now and then, then it takes longer. If you don't bump into him for a long time or move away somewhere else like a new city then its easier. Its much harder if you break up with someone and then have to put up with seeing them with their new partner around town. Then you have to sum up all the power from your soul to let go. Its tough but it can be done.

very true, it really takes time.. sigh

nube · 08-06-2010, 01:31 PM

great blogpost, and thanks for all the support

AlmostGodess · 08-06-2010, 01:43 PM

Hi there!

What if you approached this as a "no big deal" issue. We hurt so much because we feel we loose something important and irreplaceable. And in a way it is so. But for the moment try to understand that in fact you did not loose anything and that there nothing irreplaceable.

Also, as harsh as it sounds, what if try to transform this into a success story? Start doing something you always wanted but did not have the time or energy. Is there anything you would really like to do now?

Hugs to you!

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nube Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 173	letting go I have to let go of a person in my life that I care about but he is draining me. I know it will get better after a while, but I decided to cut him out of my life this friday so it is quite fresh and still hurts a bit. I know people keep floating in and out of each others life, but that is what we have been doing for years and it always ends with me feeling really hurt so this time I want to really let go, and make room for other more compatible people that energize and encourage me rather than drain me. any tips?

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08-04-2010, 10:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
Syndicate Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: BC Posts: 176	Forgive and forget and just wait it out... unfortunately, that's all you can do. I just came out of a 7 year relationship and I am 24. Life will never be the same for me and, although it doesn't feel good right now, I know that it will only get better.

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scotthegeek Family Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Windsor Ontario Canada Posts: 1,115	Buddha and letting go video its long but I feel better after watching YouTube - ‪BuddhistSocietyWA's Channel‬&lrm;

08-05-2010, 03:39 AM	#4 (permalink)
Gals Senior Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 157	Oh, I've let go of some people already, (mostly ex-friends) because they turned out to be not the same people I've met before (meaning the initial encounters was just a goody-goody facade they wear. Then, as time goes by, they transform into some different personalities--maybe coz of too much familiarity already blah blah,). But it was just gradual, no pressure and no confrontation. I just stopped corresponding with them--which is good. It's better than being stuck in a company you don't like

08-05-2010, 04:19 AM	#6 (permalink)
secrets0stolen Retired Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: A Greyhound Station where I set my thoughts to far off destinations... Posts: 4,380	A song for you, that I "just happened" to be listing to YouTube - ‪Francesca Battistelli - I'm Letting Go‬&lrm; In addition, Steve's article: Letting Go With Love is excellent. I'm not sure how much it would apply to your situation, but I think comes from a great mindset that can be helpful to step into for a comforting perspective, imo

08-05-2010, 01:25 PM	#7 (permalink)
nube Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 173	thank you for all your advices I think I will wait it out, feels right. And it feels better and better.

08-05-2010, 08:32 PM	#8 (permalink)
PDW Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Europe Posts: 1	I don't know if it would help but I wrote a post about letting go in my new blog last week. You might want to give it a skim - Letting Go - How to Let it Go I guess it takes time. In my experience it also depends on the proximity you have to the person you just broke up with. If you are seeing him every now and then, then it takes longer. If you don't bump into him for a long time or move away somewhere else like a new city then its easier. Its much harder if you break up with someone and then have to put up with seeing them with their new partner around town. Then you have to sum up all the power from your soul to let go. Its tough but it can be done.

08-06-2010, 01:31 PM	#10 (permalink)
nube Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 173	great blogpost, and thanks for all the support

08-06-2010, 01:43 PM	#11 (permalink)
AlmostGodess Banned Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: France Posts: 6,053	Hi there! What if you approached this as a "no big deal" issue. We hurt so much because we feel we loose something important and irreplaceable. And in a way it is so. But for the moment try to understand that in fact you did not loose anything and that there nothing irreplaceable. Also, as harsh as it sounds, what if try to transform this into a success story? Start doing something you always wanted but did not have the time or energy. Is there anything you would really like to do now? Hugs to you!

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