Solution for dealing with fear: don't sleep! lol

[George Eliot]

This may be a very minor insight, but I thought it was kind of funny all the same.

I am very afraid of normal social situations. When I have to buy a train ticket, or purchase something, or ask a question, my heart starts beating rapidly, I over think the whole situation, and have the urge to run away.

A few weeks ago, I went to bed late and only got 4 low-quality hours of sleep. I felt exhausted the next day, but for some reason I was doing things I normally avoid, walking straight into situations without "planning ahead" or thinking about what I was going to say, asking random people questions when it fancied me, and generally, I didn't feel like there were any roadblocks to what I wanted to do.

I kept wondering what had gotten into me and then realized that my lack of sleep probably starved my brain and I only had the brain power/energy to do what needed to be done and what I wanted to do - there was no room left for over thinking or worrying or being anxious. I also hadn't eaten much that day.

So, my advice to everyone out there who lets fear take over: don't sleep! It'll do wonders! haha

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This works.

[Andy]

That's really funny, I've had the same thing happen to me two or three times in college after pulling an all-nighter. I'd just be saying things that came right to mind and there wasn't any of that thinking about how it would sound or if it'd be the right thing to say. It was really strange, and great.

[DarkSociologist]

Your mind is not operating at it's normal levels, so you are having a lapse in judgement. This is pretty much the same thing as getting drunk. You are not fixing a problem, but using something else as a crutch.

On a related topic, lack of sleep has been found to help individuals with depression, although the positive effects seemed to wear off once they got regular amounts of sleep.

[bellbird]

Your mind is not operating at it's normal levels, so you are having a lapse in judgement. This is pretty much the same thing as getting drunk. You are not fixing a problem, but using something else as a crutch.

Absolutely. It might seem like the answer and if it helps you to get over your mind babbles fine, but expanding your comfort zone in a 'natural healthy state' is the only way to continue to feeling relaxed all the time.
PS: And I recommend meditation and work outs to stop the mind chatters. At the present time you choose to shut them up by depriving yourself of sleep (which will drain not only your mind but your body as well). You'll probably feel a heck of a lot fitter if you'd find another way to re-focus your mind
Just a thought..

[Brutha]

If you lack the sleep your body can't reduce the hormonenes over night, so they stay in your system. That leaves more endorphines, that reduces the fear.

[DarkSociologist]

Originally Posted by Brutha

If you lack the sleep your body can't reduce the hormonenes over night, so they stay in your system. That leaves more endorphines, that reduces the fear.

That also means more cortisol, which means more stress

[Brutha]

That also means more cortisol, which means more stress

I would think Stress does also reduce fear.

[ReallyGoodIdeas]

Originally Posted by DarkSociologist

Your mind is not operating at it's normal levels, so you are having a lapse in judgement. This is pretty much the same thing as getting drunk.

I agree, and sometimes our judgement is not useful. Now, the question is how to ditch the faulty "judgement" without losing your balance and reaction times.

Someoene else has recommended it, but I'd recommend EFT again. It's great for helping you change useless behaviour like this judgement you speak of!
Enjoy!

Hazel

[Tammy]

You are not dealing with your fear. how to deal with something that's not present? You are just sweeping it under the rug. Which is not alright.

I also was a shy person (not that shy though ), but I got over it with these simple tricks.

First you need to face your fear, go and talk to somebody. Then see what happens. I can tell you: Nothing bad is gonna happen to you. Of course, start small. Go talk first to the ticket seller. It's a safe bet. It's highly unlikely that he will be rude to you or ignore you (if he wants to keep his job he'd better doesn't). What happened? What made you feel uncomfortable? what hurt you? Analise what you are feeling, ask the whys, and dig as deep as you can 'till you realize there's no need to feel anxious about talking to the ticket seller.

Once you can safely buy a train ticket, move to bigger things, step by step, until you can ask a girl out without breaking a sweat, which eventually will happen!

It's OK in the beginning to use some mind tricks like thinking you are Tom Cruise, you are filming a movie, you are in a safe set, you know what to do, you know what response you are gonna get from people, you are just doing your job, you are the big star, the good looking one, etc. Believe it, and get a good confidence boost, it worked for me! I loved when I was Julia Roberts most of the time!

[Niki]

Hey

I think it's great that happened to you. So you know the feeling of "being loose" on normal situations. It's i think a big thing, if you really FEEL how it is that you want to be. Whenever you come in to a situation, it is possible to "recall" the feeling, and make it stronger. It works for me. Maybe for you 2?

Greeetzzz

Great job !!!