I feel alone

[shasah]

I haven't felt this aloneness in a long time, a very long time. Ever have one of those nights when you want to talk to somebody and there's nobody there to talk to? Where in the HELL is everybody?? Can't seem to connect on any level, on any form of communication.

So why do I need this feeling? Perhaps so that tomorrow I can feel optimistic and in love with life again. I usually like when I feel emotions, positive or negative (mostly positive) but loneliness is not one that I like!!

Oh well, get over it, hey?

[Weena]

You are never totally alone .

[brendannz]

Somewhat related to your high emotions on saturday with feeling like a little kid.. or something..
?

[Tanja]

A hug first!

Originally Posted by shasah

I haven't felt this aloneness in a long time, a very long time. Ever have one of those nights when you want to talk to somebody and there's nobody there to talk to? Where in the HELL is everybody?? Can't seem to connect on any level, on any form of communication.

So why do I need this feeling? Perhaps so that tomorrow I can feel optimistic and in love with life again. I usually like when I feel emotions, positive or negative (mostly positive) but loneliness is not one that I like!!

Oh well, get over it, hey?

I think everyone wants to feel a connection and probably has felt like this at some point. Have you tried writing it down? I feel alone because...or something along that lines. I know it helps me to get clear about how and why I feel something.
Maybe under this feeling of loneliness there is another issue and you need to deal with it?

But then again...these days..what the heck do I know
Hugs

[IamAlsoThat]

Everyone wants to feel connected and is connected by the universal fact that we're all one. Also you can talk to us forum addicts in order to treat this feeling.

But let us delve further.

Do you feel lonely or rather alone?

Do you believe an event percipitated this, did anything specific happen which prompted this feeling, do you associate alone-ness with something else?

[cacheborn]

I do feel like this sometimes, but it usually lasts for a short time. I quickly talk myself out of it.

Again, there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. These are two different things. You can be sure that it will change. The feelings don't stay in the same way for long. Hope you get out of it soon. *Mwah!*

[shasah]

Originally Posted by Weena

You are never totally alone .

Yes, I know, I think I just wanted someone to talk to about another issue and it made me feel lonely that I couldn't connect with anyone.

Originally Posted by brendannz

Somewhat related to your high emotions on saturday with feeling like a little kid.. or something..
?

Yes, that's where it started. Seemed to snowball when I couldn't connect.

Originally Posted by Tanja

I think everyone wants to feel a connection and probably has felt like this at some point. Have you tried writing it down? I feel alone because...or something along that lines. I know it helps me to get clear about how and why I feel something.
Maybe under this feeling of loneliness there is another issue and you need to deal with it?

LOL, yes, I wrote it down in my journal before writing it down here. Didn't work this time. I work through most of my "issues" that way and if I can't find the answer there, I post here. And yes, I am working on another issue, but that's another post.

Originally Posted by IamAlsoThat

Do you feel lonely or rather alone?

Do you believe an event percipitated this, did anything specific happen which prompted this feeling, do you associate alone-ness with something else?

Last night I felt lonely for the first time in ages. There was a time when I felt it quite a bit. Not used to it anymore.

Originally Posted by cacheborn

I do feel like this sometimes, but it usually lasts for a short time. I quickly talk myself out of it.

Again, there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. These are two different things. You can be sure that it will change. The feelings don't stay in the same way for long. Hope you get out of it soon. *Mwah!*

I don't feel lonely this morning, so you are right. And I did sleep just fine. Not sure how that happened.

Thanks all, I might have felt it again this morning if not for the responses so it is appreciated.

[Martin S]

What I found is that sharing more of ourselves helps us to connect with people. I know exactly how you feel, and I used to feel like that all the way between ages 14 and 21. I had a girlfriend for 2.5 years though between 18 and 21, so that helped me grow a little in that area, but still nothing significant. Then I finally came up with a solution.

The problem is that we imagine that we are not able to connect with others because we are simply closing off other people way too much by not sharing our experiences with them. Obviously nobody wants to hear you whine about your problems, but guess what - when I read your post I can relate to it - so you have connected with me.

And I can tell you what helped me to get over it. I realized that I simply was making a way too big out this. It's not like being disconnected would stop me from doing what I love. So instead of feeling sorry for myself, I started clarifying my purpose in life. I keep digging and digging deeper into myself to find out what I'm supposed to really be doing in this world and the more I dig the more I learn and the more interesting stuff I come up with.

One thing that helped me get over the social disconnectedness anxiety is doing field sales for about 9 months. That really got the poison out of my system and got me feeling more positive than ever. It really did take that long to completely get over the negativity - every single day, 6 days per week, for 9 months, of consistent action to get over it. Perhaps you should do sales for a while as well. Find a door to door company and stumble into one of their offices. They're always looking for new people because the turnover rate is so high in the industry. You'll have a place to practice your social skills and also make some money in the process. ;-)

[Rafael Perez]

Man that lonely feeling is super dramatic... I remember that feeling. I would stare at the phone, maybe use it and no one would answer. I would go to my computer and no one was online... I felt like everyone I knew in the world were having secret meeting and not inviting me.

What I realized after a while was that sometimes I would be surrounded by people and I still felt completely alone and disconnected...

It sucks when that happens, and it sucks even worse when there is no one around to distract you from being with yourself...

Your never alone, I know it sounds cheesy... but go out on a date with you... be happy, the feeling of loneliness is just feeling disconnected... reconnect with yourself... every one else will always be there at some point in time, but you are always there.

Have fun with you!!!

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by shasah

I haven't felt this aloneness in a long time, a very long time. Ever have one of those nights when you want to talk to somebody and there's nobody there to talk to? Where in the HELL is everybody?? Can't seem to connect on any level, on any form of communication.

So why do I need this feeling? Perhaps so that tomorrow I can feel optimistic and in love with life again. I usually like when I feel emotions, positive or negative (mostly positive) but loneliness is not one that I like!!

Oh well, get over it, hey?

don't tell yourself to get over it
be nice to yourself
you had those feelings for a reason
and
maybe you might want to explore that

I think it hits all of us once in awhile !

not to get off on a tangent
but
I think the most profound thing that I ever read about
depression was that depressed feelings are just a sign for a deep rest that is needed !

so feelings of loneliness might be a sign that a deep connection is needed ?
maybe with just yourself first ?

I don't know

you know the thoughts get to flowing and someone just needs to yell at me -

"whoaa cowgirl "!!


love ya !

[Dimond]

It's very rare someone is truly alone. Most people don't even know what it is to be by themselves because they're either always with people or can easily be with them whenever they choose. If people actually knew what that was, they'd appreciate the fact that they aren't and the people they do have & feel compassion for the small percentage of people that don't have it. Yes, anyone can easily find people to be with, but that's not the same as authentic relationships and love.

[shasah]

Thank you all but it appears it was just a temporary problem. It's hard to believe that I posted that just 4 short days ago. This weekend has been a new experience. Went from feeling lonely to feeling depressed to figuring out that those were caused by not eating right. Then I decided to spend my time alone constructively and started cleaning (place hasn't looked this good in a while although I'm still not done). I was feeling a lot better, had food in me, was working and then in the middle of it one of my friends came and got me. Unfortunately I let her friends talk me into drinking whiskey. Not much, but enough to give me a crashing headache. Then the guy that I'm seeing called and he cancelled his plans so that we could spend some time together but I had already made plans to go out with my phototeacher. LOL. I went out and had that peaceful feeling I get when behind a camera and got home in time to join, well, I guess instead of the guy I'm dating, I can now say BF. So it's definitely been a wild ride. For someone who's life is normally pretty drama free, I sure did run the gamut this weekend. Glad to be on the other side of it and I appreciate all of your support. So next time you get that feeling, just remember to think positive and constructively. I'm sure I'll be there again some day and if I am, I will make sure to visit this thread again. Peace and happiness to all of you. I'm grateful to have you!!

[lifetimelearner]

I am glad you are feeling better !