Changing negative energy into positive energy - CAN it really be done?

[RagsToRiches]

You experience something negative - rejection, a personal insult, someone just bumps into you randomly and is rude about it - negative sensations arise in the body (or you feel negative about it, whatever)...

I want to know if anyone actually deals with these situations in a way which refines the experience positively. If so, could you give some details about that?

For example ... you accept the event... and then you use that energy to inject into a visualisation...

At the moment I just use a "bite the bullet" philosophy, which works but it seems to me that the energy involved is going to waste (or worse, see below)... surely it's possible to reuse the same energy in a positive way?

A good session in the boxing ring would work pretty well, but something more immediate and effective is what I'm looking for.

Another problem with just biting the bullet - it all adds up. As such if anyone ever does get to feel my wrath (there are times when you need to show some anger, I am not of the school of thought that this is a bad thing) but ... they REALLY ****ing get it. I suspect this is because I build up all that negative energy and then I unleash it later.

Someone once described me being angry as "...a look in your eyes like you're about to destroy a small country."

[blossom]

Yikes...remind me not to make you mad Rags
I think I do the same. It's sort of like storing it away for the appropriate time...but not letting it turn into depression or anything. I'm a big believer in it being "better out than in".

I think it probably can be done that you can "transform" the neg into a pos...but you have to be on the ball with it I'd imagine...and allow your mind to find an alternative to what your feelings are reacting to. A highly conscious person can probably do it if they want to. Most people operate from reactive mode, so it's probably not an option for them until they start living more consciously...if ever?

[RagsToRiches]

Originally Posted by blossom

Yikes...remind me not to make you mad Rags

Yes. It'd be more useful if I wanted to be a drill sergeant. The truth is I've burnt some people I shouldn't have. It's not so much that I've lost out, more that it feels like I've done them an extra injustice.

That would make sense if you consider that I'm "building" this energy up from things that I perceive as injustices myself, and I'm not refining that in any way - just accepting it.

Like I said, sometimes it's good to show a little anger, but I think that storing it up so much can mean that you have too much to let out - if you know what I mean.

The reason I think this is the case because back when I used to react instantly to everything on a daily basis (someone bumping into you, etc, the stuff I mentioned) I did not have a bite like this.

There's no doubt that acceptance is a good step up from that though...

[Manomanman]

Originally Posted by RagsToRiches

At the moment I just use a "bite the bullet" philosophy, which works but it seems to me that the energy involved is going to waste (or worse, see below)... surely it's possible to reuse the same energy in a positive way?

Could you give an example of some bullets you're biting?

I solved my "bite bullet" problems by completely removing myself from the situations causing me to eat them.

I now run a School dedicated to Power and have no plans on becoming angry ever again.

-Jesse

[Angela]

I'm not a fan of biting the bullet, because to me, that implies suppression of feeling. And if I suppress an uncomfortable emotion (which is there to deliver a message), then it'll just go underground until I'm ready to resolve it, and it will keep periodically getting presented for resolution with more and more dire consequences each time I suppress it. Better, I think, to just trust my unconscious mind, and if something uncomfortable is being presented, just go ahead and resolve it.

I also don't think that removing yourself from situations in which you're uncomfortable, as a general policy, is a conscious, aware, or wise approach. Of course if you lack the inner resources to effectively transform it, like you're a little kid, you're ill or tired, or there's a wild animal chasing you, removing yourself from a situation is an excellent idea -- that's what our sympathetic response (freeze/fight/flight) is programmed into us for. If your general policy is to remove yourself from external circumstances that make you uncomfortable, then you're living at effect, like a little nervous chihuahua shaking and running all the time.

But if you've got a brain in your head, you're fairly grown-up, you're well, and nothing scary is authentically threatening you, you have all the resources you need to effectively transform something that has you feeling bad emotionally into something that supports you in feeling good. Whether you choose to access those resources or not is the question.

[fishbelowtheice]

Originally Posted by RagsToRiches

You experience something negative - rejection, a personal insult, someone just bumps into you randomly and is rude about it - negative sensations arise in the body (or you feel negative about it, whatever)...

I want to know if anyone actually deals with these situations in a way which refines the experience positively. If so, could you give some details about that?

For example ... you accept the event... and then you use that energy to inject into a visualisation...

At the moment I just use a "bite the bullet" philosophy, which works but it seems to me that the energy involved is going to waste (or worse, see below)... surely it's possible to reuse the same energy in a positive way?

A good session in the boxing ring would work pretty well, but something more immediate and effective is what I'm looking for.

Another problem with just biting the bullet - it all adds up. As such if anyone ever does get to feel my wrath (there are times when you need to show some anger, I am not of the school of thought that this is a bad thing) but ... they REALLY ****ing get it. I suspect this is because I build up all that negative energy and then I unleash it later.

Someone once described me being angry as "...a look in your eyes like you're about to destroy a small country."

granting it being, granting it space is what works best for me
not adding anything to it

and clearly distinguishing what I do ad to it
anger is just anger and when i can have it justbe that
I am quite free to be whatever is most appropriate in the next moment

trying to change it
or fuss with it
or spin it
or transform it
in any way

usually binds me to it
for ages

biting the bullit
just buys me time
but keeps me stuck

[fishbelowtheice]

Originally Posted by Angela

(freeze/fight/flight)

You do the exquisite mind blowing "An Invented Life" seminar at Landmark by any chance?

[Angela]

Originally Posted by fishbelowtheice

You do the exquisite mind blowing "An Invented Life" seminar at Landmark by any chance?

Nope. Did you? Tell me about it, please! Oops, perhaps privately or in another thread, to avoid railroading this one.

[fishbelowtheice]

Originally Posted by Angela

Nope. Did you? Tell me about it, please! Oops, perhaps privately or in another thread, to avoid railroading this one.

it's on topic because the seminar deals with the brain, the reptilian brain, "amygdala attacks" and reptilian brain responses to any perceived threats -the freeze/fight/flight responses you mentioned

in situations where I experience any negativity or anger - it is usually a brain response to a threat and I am not needed for that - it is all neurons firing at that point.