Long term happiness versus short term happiness

[Karanime]

What do you focus more on, solving a problem, or being happy? Do you persist in solving the problems, even if it makes you incredibly miserable, because you know that when it's solved, you'll never feel that way again? Or do you persist in keeping a happy mood, solving the problem little by little, feeling only a little bit miserable at a time, but over a longer period?

Do you try and have good days, or try and create good years? Do you believe making enough good days will make a good year, or that making a good year will naturally create good days?

Do you try to be happy, or do you try to be better?

(do you think happy will make you better, or that better will make you happy?)

I think, if we know which one we choose more often, we know what to deal with. I know I'm more focused on solving problems, at the expense of my happiness. Since I know that, I'm cool with it.

My boyfriend's more focused on being happy, at the expense of solving the underlying problems. He doesn't know that, though. So he's not always cool with it.

Which one are you?

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[sandy]

i prefer savoring the present the best i can. i always remind myself live in the moment, it feels more like living a life for me.

I know I'm more focused on solving problems, at the expense of my happiness.

i don't think you are truly feeling miserable at all. people are just not made to keep doing miserable things while they own free wills. i think you are just experiencing unfamiliar feeling in the middle of up-grading your belief system or getting more clear in conscious or something like that. things you used to care about may not make sense to you any more and the new realizations might be overwhelming you.if that's a true case of yours, then you gonna be just all right. you know you can't be back to the "ignorant" past any more. so simply keep doing what makes sense to you now and you will grow up beautifully. and i hope you can enjoy your growing up even it's puzzling you little bit in current moment.

My boyfriend's more focused on being happy, at the expense of solving the underlying problems.

everyone is just living on a logic works perfectly for him/her. you think your boyfriend might live happier under similar logic with yours, then simply give him some advice on it. however accepting the advice or not is totally up to him. after all he decides how to live his own life so just focus on your own life. i think you definitely can live more simpler and happier than you are living now. ( why i even sound so jerky, like i even know anything about you )

[Karanime]

Simplicity is always good, and more happiness is always a possibility.

If you're searching, then that means you don't already have it. :P

Thanks for the reply.

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[Magicinthenight]

I believe in tackling issues when they rise up. Therefore, I have mostly good days and some bad days. I also believe it's possible to work on your problems while living a happy life at the same time. If you have big issues to work on, then yes, it might take longer, but dedicating your whole year for an issue seems impossible, you still need to live your life while you do that.

So I try to be both happy and better. The happier I am, the easier it is for me to be better and the better I am, the easier it is to be happy.

[Karanime]

Originally Posted by Magicinthenight

I believe in tackling issues when they rise up. Therefore, I have mostly good days and some bad days. I also believe it's possible to work on your problems while living a happy life at the same time. If you have big issues to work on, then yes, it might take longer, but dedicating your whole year for an issue seems impossible, you still need to live your life while you do that.

So I try to be both happy and better. The happier I am, the easier it is for me to be better and the better I am, the easier it is to be happy.

Then... isn't the problem just how happy you are? :P

I'm really into psychology, so it's a little misleading that I polarized this concept like I did. I love figuring out why, but I also know we can live perfectly meaningful lives without ever knowing why.

It's just kind of the difference between focusing on emotion versus focusing on reason. With one, you have no need for the other.

That's probably why idiots always seem so happy. >.<

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[Angela]

Originally Posted by Karanime

That's probably why idiots always seem so happy. >.<

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To me, postponing happiness (or my preference, Joy) is what's idiotic.

[Federer]

I try to be happy, For me feeling good for everything is most important thing of life. It is all good. So you can remain happy and maintain it for long time as you want.

[Karanime]

Originally Posted by Angela

To me, postponing happiness (or my preference, Joy) is what's idiotic.

I see where you're coming from, lol.

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[Karanime]

Originally Posted by Federer

I try to be happy, For me feeling good for everything is most important thing of life. It is all good. So you can remain happy and maintain it for long time as you want.

Yup. And that's the right way to be happy, too.

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