Just broke out of a "stuck" relationship. I need some emotional support.

[Karanime]

Yes, it's the same boy.

I let myself be miserable around him. Yeah, I manifested him and his behavior, and now I'm telling the Universe that I want none of that.

I need to heal and grow on my own, because that kind of boy really isn't the right fit for me. I found life was easier alone, and so I did it. Finally.

I'd pretended to do it so many times before because I wanted to see him cry. Now he's not crying. And now I'm serious.

Fortunately, it was the crying that helped me come back to him. Now there's none, and now I mean it. Incredible synchronity, isn't it?

I'm the girl who cried wolf, and didn't want anyone to know the wolf actually existed.

I'm proud of myself, but a little hurt, because this is a big change, and I have no idea how I'm going to handle it, only that I am.

Just... someone congratulate me or something. I feel alone.



/<3

[Plays With Life]

Woot! Nice going.

You rock.

[royster]

Imagine the dog in my avatar giving you unconditional approval; she doesn't care what you did in the past, right here and now is what you've got. Ohboyohboyohboy, she says!

I went through several relationships that were based on personal addictions. What helped me get successfully away from them was concentrating on my own life...this is not to say it was without obsession and all the other pulls toward the relationship. But like most things, the further away from the event you are, the more it becomes clear why you swam away from the sinking ship.

You're showing double courage; moving away from a bad relationship, and asking for help. TWO THUMBS UP! (And a treat for the dog).

[Karanime]

Thanks you guys. You rule. ^.^

I'm still in the 'mourning loss' stage right now. It's taking ridiculous amounts of self-control not to try and talk to him about it, trying to get him to understand and promise to treat me better or something. I'm scared, 'cause this is the first big change I've had in a while.

But somehow, I'll get through it.

Yuss, I rock, hooray for unconditional approval, and yay double courage!

/<3

[JasonC]

You don't have to agree with this, but I think it is worth mentioning:

If you are seeking emotional support, it presupposes that you aren't appreciating yourself.

The same is true with feelings of loneliness. If you are seeking something outside of yourself which only exists within you, then you are potentially putting yourself in a dangerous situation, since it means you are still allowing the outside world control you rather than controlling your own thoughts/emotions.

I think this EFT video may help you regain your control. Or try this one.

[Karanime]

Originally Posted by JasonC

You don't have to agree with this, but I think it is worth mentioning:

If you are seeking emotional support, it presupposes that you aren't appreciating yourself.

The same is true with feelings of loneliness. If you are seeking something outside of yourself which only exists within you, then you are potentially putting yourself in a dangerous situation, since it means you are still allowing the outside world control you rather than controlling your own thoughts/emotions.

I think this EFT video may help you regain your control. Or try this one.

It is indeed worth mentioning. Not that into EFT, but tapping the karate chop point instead of doing full rounds seems to work for me.

I think appreciation for self and EFT are a little different, although EFT does work for it a little bit. I always felt like it was treating the symptoms instead of the problem, though.

Yup, outside control blows. I'm trying to fix it.

/<3

[The Cloud]

Congratulations on doing the right thing before it became unbearable not to. It takes a lot of courage to do the right thing when it's not what you want to be right.

[Thanatopsis]

Boo-yah for unloading emotional vampires.

[snoozieq]

Hi-I've recently left a "stuck" relationship too-and like you it took a while to finally do it. I couldn't stand the guilt trips and the controlling attitude anymore. Now I'm on my own and currently its not as great as I thought it would be but thats because its new and the future is uncertain. Its easy to stay in an unhappy relationship because we "know" it-its familiar. Venturing out on my own is scary, but I feel I need to be on my own-and it gives him the opportunity to meet someone more suitable. I wish you continued inner strength-you made it this far, so keep on going!

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Originally Posted by The Cloud

Congratulations on doing the right thing before it became unbearable not to. It takes a lot of courage to do the right thing when it's not what you want to be right.

You said it!

And it does get easier the more distance and time you get. I still really love my ex, but we weren't the right fit. Just give yourself time. If you can stop yourself from calling him up for at least a month or two, it gets much easier from there.

*Hugs*