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11-29-2009, 07:47 PM
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 |  What are your Guiltiest Pleasures? Fun thread with a serious message
Hi there Isn't it amazing that we all have Hobbies, Activities, Interests or Pursuits that we like (some of which we openly admt as it may benefit the interest of someone else). However sometimes we hide what we truly like from others as it may confuse them or we may feel judged by others. For example I often hide the fact that I absolutely love Rock Music/Metal from people. I went to two music Festivals here in the UK. Download and Sonisphere if you must know (by myself). This confuses people as they have two observations of me 1) You're a muscular chap who dresses well and is well presented. Most Heavy Metal fans are either skinny, dress in funny clothing or cheap T-shirts with a bands name on it. 2) Heavy Metal fans are depressed, on Drugs, have a weak sense of reality not seeing the Irony of the lifestyle they're leading. You are Healthy person who doesn't drink much and have a very positive and optimistic outlook on life. I don't get the "**** off" vibes from you. It doesn't end there. I also love trashy USA made Martial Arts films from the 1980's. The worse they were made the more I love em. Or even better just Martial Arts films in general. For example I love Under Siege 2 with Steven Siegal but I'm asked "Why don't you just buy "Die Hard?" That is a critically acclaimed film and its in the genre? Now given that Im 28 years old (I am often confused with somene who is aged between 19-25 years old) Im constantly asked. Why don't you listen to new Bands (whatever is the crappy Indie band of the week) Why don't I keep up with modern trends? Why do I have a weird fascination with Heavy Metal if I don't live a certain way or dress a certain way (this has come from both sides of the coin). My opinion is that people want "certainty" from me and if I don't fit into a certain box, they are afraid of me. Does anyone feel this. Plus what are you guilty pleasures. It could be as random as "I'm 18 years old and I love wearing a white suit and dancing to 70's disco like John Travolta" or "I absolutely love Old Skool video games and don't bother with next generation X-box 360 or PS3" |
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11-29-2009, 09:03 PM
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I also love old school vid games. Probably not as old skool as you like em,but I digg the first NBA street on PS2, sends me right back to childhood. As for me, I like a lot of music, but when at school, on my mp3 player I like to listen to some good ol' west coast rap from the 90s. A lot of people listen to this stuff, but they are shocked that I listen to this because I wear a trench coat, sometimes wear pretty straightleg jeans,and have semi long hair, like the guys who listen to rockers do I think your issue is that you worry to much about what people think of you. Be proud to be differant. I certainly am, And don't give a damn that people are shocked,and if they ask for explanations, I just say that girls digg the semi long hair coz when we make out they like to grab the back of it. And if people ask why I listen to gangsta music but don't dress with baggy gangsta clothes, I just say that I have decided to dress like a man, and not like a 12 year old. |
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11-29-2009, 10:49 PM
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Normally I love eating healthy, lots of fruit, meat etc. But... every now and then I just have to have MacTrash... I guess that is my guilty pleasure. I'm not ashamed of it, but it is also not something that I go shouting around. Other than that, I don't fit in any cube either... although... here in Mexico I fit in with "Europeans" and everybody know that they are a bit crazy and you'll never know what to expect from them... which is how I am basically. |
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11-29-2009, 10:55 PM
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I can't really think of any "guilty pleasures" I have. I like a lot of music from the 70's and 80's, which most of my friends think is horrible, but I don't hide it from them. It's funny, whenever we play trivia games that have topics like "80's Music", they go to me for the answers.  |
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11-29-2009, 11:06 PM
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and AGAIN another pointer to being Transparent and letting go of shame (which, IMO, is a useless feeling unless it moves one to immediate action). I quit image construction long ago. Still dealing with some deeper things but here are some things that use to get pushed underground: -Ear rings. I was 32 when I got them and constantly was thinking about who I could wear em around and who not to. -I love cheesy 80's rock (think hairbands). I also dig love ballads. -Huge fan of hip hop in both style and music. I break, pop, and spin that stuff still. -Personal development books and media. I use to hide all my books from certain people (including steve's website) because I did not want to come across as shallow, cheesy, and rah rah. The above is very telling not only about my lack of transparency and congruency but also about all the f'd up beliefs and projection I had to own and deal with. Being open is not only freeing but attractive. Now my mantra is...Get with me or kick rocks  .
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12-01-2009, 02:49 AM
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Oh yes this is a great thread ... congruency and as someone so aptly mentioned transparency ... bein okay with me. Huge Sci Fi nerd ... have read everyone from Tolkien to Heinlen to Ann Rice's sleazy beauty series ... thousands of them. Only girl sitting cross legged in the sci fi section of the bookstore is very interesting. (and YES I played Dungeons and Dragons shush) Don't even get me started on star anything ... Wars ... Trek ... even Stargate SG1 ... I cry at claymation Christmas movies ... The year without a Santa Clause ... Rudolph ... Nestor the Long Eared Donkey (???) I even cry at cheezy Christmas commercials. Remember the one where Ronald McDonald is ice skating with that little kid?? Tears every time. My kids laugh at me. I'm okay with that. (note to self ... explore this Christmas tomfoolery) Lots more ... I am a multifaceted super nerd. I do, however, embrace my inner nerdiness and use it to get a smile or two. What more could I ask for?  |
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12-01-2009, 02:52 AM
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12-01-2009, 03:21 AM
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If it wasn't for some choices made under pressure from my parents (don't blame them, I turned out ok) I would have been a total and complete geek and nerd | |
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12-01-2009, 12:32 PM
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cheap nasty action B-grade movies...with popcorn for chrissakes. Preferably something with lots of gratuitous violence.. DieHard4 or some random train hijack movie with Stephen Segals hand-to-hand aikido or John Claude van Dammes high kicks. oh god, cant believe I wrote that. [ its rhetorical, I dont believe in god ] I like to think I have good taste in movies [Solaris, TheLakeHouse, ManFromEarth, LOTR, Elegy], books [Van Vogt, LeGuin, Neal Stephensen]... But sometimes I cant be stuffed keeping to my own ridiculously high standards.. sigh. gord. ps. Found this snippet fun while googling... Tea Leonis take on Ben Kingsley - YouTube - BEN KINGSLEY-TEA LEONI ROMANCE A LITTLE LATE |
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12-01-2009, 02:31 PM
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I used to feel that way, that I had to hide my enjoyment of certain things because they weren't "intellectual" or enlightened enough. It was a few years ago that I started to write about the Stephanie Plum books by Janet Evanovich as a guilty pleasure, and I heard myself, and went: Wait. What? Guilty?! Why? and decided to drop that way of seeing things. I am me wherever I go, and I am multi-faceted! Like a fine, fine diamond. So - I can listen to and be moved by Bach and Vivaldi, and I also love to sit and watch "So You Think You Can Dance". No guilt - just living life! |
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12-01-2009, 02:49 PM
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No guilty pleasures here. Whenever I enjoy something that others might frown upon or find ridiculous (like squealing at a new shoe collection, re-reading the Divine Secrets of the Yaya Sisterhood for the 3rd time this year, singing 80s music in a karaoke, talking about LARP after sex, waking up hungover on a Tuesday, whatever) I play it to the max. I drink my ridicule till there isn't a drop left. I relish in others' judgment. Then I move on, shameless.
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12-01-2009, 02:57 PM
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Buying a York's Peppermint Patty in the checkout line (so completely impulsive and letting my defenses down against being marketed to) and eating it on the way home to make my family a healthy dinner. And stashing the wrapper so nobody knows. tee hee It's not like anyone would care (except they might have wanted one) - we eat chocolate and sweets for treats - it's that it was deliciously giving into impulse and having the experience be all mine mine mine. Just having that little moment all my own. And with what *I* want to listen to on the radio on the way home. hee hee hee I know, pretty tame, really. That's what happens once you have kids. A little thing like a piece of candy all by yourself is huge! |
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12-01-2009, 05:31 PM
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Do not tell anyone, but I like space stuff. It makes me a geek or a foolish dreamer before other people when I talk about the free space sim from www.orbitersim.com . People do not use to talk about apoapsis or orbit sync. Last edited by ar81; 12-01-2009 at 05:33 PM. |
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12-02-2009, 11:44 AM
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nothing wrong with heavy metal, but it used to puzzle my flatmates, how I'd be listening to death metal one moment, Simon and Garfunkel the next, and punk rock the next moment. I stopped listening to metal, because I can't be bothered taking things so seriously anymore, and want to stay positive with mostly happy music.. As for the going to these festivals by yourself; good onya, it shows you don't need others to have a good time, see James81's threat in social and relationships on "Social Dynamics 101" for more on this. My guilty pleasure would be beer and caffiene I guess.. |
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12-05-2009, 05:40 AM
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Ufo Disclosure. I can't get enough. There are hundreds of ex-military intelligence whistle-blowers' testimonies on youtube revealing an absolutely unbeliveable reality that they say is being kept from the American public by our government. They all seem so credible and most with high level security clearances. I love thinking about the possibility of "what if". What Buzz Aldrin revealed in the youtube video I'm posting below only added fuel to my fire: YouTube - Mars Monolith - Buzz Aldrin Confirms Phobos Structure |
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12-08-2009, 09:26 PM
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Interest wise I have a very varied range. I can listen to country one minute and immediately switch to rap, hiphop, even heavy rock(more so the ballads) or classic rock. I don't hide it from anyone and dont feel guilty for it. In fact most anything related to interest I have no guilt over. Maybe some guilty pleasures would be chocolate(with peanutbutter even better) or ice cream, and I LOVE hot fresh unsalted to lightly salted McDonalds fries. i don't hide these things. |
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12-09-2009, 02:24 AM
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Mine used to be hard rock but I outed that last summer at a management class. Some people just couldn't believe it because I look like such a little innocent. I wonder what they'd think if they saw my 2 tats?? LOL Most current would be a trashy novel every once in a while. Ever read Laurel K Hamilton?? Or Lora Leigh?? Trashy at its worst (or best)?? And to add to that, I (gasp) have been known to read Cosmo. Even though nowadays I don't think too much would shock those that know me. Some of my friends know but the people at work? Upper management is not supposed to do that are they? LMAO |
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