Support or advice?

[ar81]

When you come here, what is more important for you?
The emotional support of people here, or the advise people provide?

[dulaney0330]

Both.

When I know I am not thinking clearly, it helps to hear objective advice and also knowing that others do care can help.

[Gene]

Both, being in the presence of like minded people serves me well.

[cylon]

I just like to talk to people who like to think about these various topics. But, when it comes to advice, I like having both options available to me.

Though, one thing I hope I get better at is not offering unsolicited advice, or being attached to the advice I give (expecting people to take it).

[colleen42]

Hello to everyone. my name is colleen, and i am looking forward to be a part of this family. i have been reading some very intrested things here.

[Go Getta]

I'd say both as well.

Sometimes it is good to seek advice when I've become stuck or lost with a particular situation and am unsure of where to next.

Support is good for me when I am certain of my direction but may need a hand, emotional support etc in getting there.

They both have there place.

[Eric L]

Advice.

Emotional support is obtained when I have confidence in my own decisions.

Most of the time, when I ask for advice or opinions, my decision is already made...all I need then is different perspectives to allow myself to observe my own decisions from different angles. Once my decision has been observed from every angle, then I am confident in my decision and go through with it.

It is like looking at the plans of a house with 5 construction engineers instead of just one.

One is good enough, but the experiences and opinions of others, along with their observations, will further increase the confidence in the decision made. It is possible, that sometimes, the decision can be improved or altered to yield a better result. I rarely change my decision after hearing opinions. My judgment, most of the time, is solid- but, added confidence always makes things happen more consistently.

So, I lean against advice. This doesn't meant I don't enjoy the emotional support though - that helps too, a lot. But I can provide this to myself. Advice, on the other hand, comes from others.

[jellis]

"Life sucks, then you die". Thats what I typed into a search engine that led me to this site. I read the home page and went immediatly to Amazon and ordered the book.

I'd like to believe that feelings of depression can be used as guideposts on a path to to a happier more fulfilling life.

I'd like to stop using antidepressants. I think the true cost of the overuse of antidepressants in society is to those who truly have a medical need for them but afraid they are using them to avoid accepting reponsibility for their own lives like so many others. How do I know if I'm that person?

Im tired of having a great days in which I feel like I've really achieved something only to sabotage all of it in a single bout of depression. I have to change this.