How do you deal with stressful situations?

[hawkal]

Starting with a bit of background, I'm in my early 20's, in debt, unemployed and training to work in an industry that doesn't look very promising any more.

As I've gotten closer to the industry my interest in it is not as much as it used to be. When I signed up to the course it looked brilliant from my point of view because at the time I was doing something worse.

Today on my birthday of all days on the way to the training centre I written off my mums car swirving to miss a car stopped out of a junction in my lane. I don't live with my parents though it's just that my mum didn't need the car so she let me use it.

I try to look at at everything on the bright side. I walked away from the accident unharmed when It could have so easily gone the other way. I missed a metre deep ditch and a telegraph pole by about half a metre.

Reflecting on it all creates a indescribable confliction of emotions.

How do you deal with stressful situations?

[David Turnbull]

Breathing works for me. Simply sitting or standing still and breathing, trying to calm myself down.

Plus in the book Zen & The Art of Happiness there's a great mindset to get into of everything that happens is the best thing that could of happened. Even when you're in a stressful situation then you can still frame it as a victory.

[hawkal]

I do breath deeply and clear my mind in the situation but it's reflecting on it that get's to me and the fact that I am trying to better myself but it just feels like I'm going no where.

[ALi2010]

I do things that relax me when I'm stressed...
go for a jog, splash my face with cold water, or take a hot shower lol, and I also meditate.

[Guru Shakti]

Hello! I know we can all relate to you on this! I know I've had days just like that.

I agree with everyone else! Deep breathing is wonderful and jogging. My favorite is going on a breath walk. This is a yoga practice! As you walk, you in hale for the count of three, and exhale for the count of three. The heart is balanced and opened by the count of three. And, the mind is balanced and opened by the counts of four. Honestly you could do either one, but when I'm stressed I feel so much better synchronizing with my heart.

Something to be mind full of... Do some quiet reflecting. It is not a bad decision to choose this career. Our paths lead us in a direction for a reason. Perhaps it's time to re evaluate, especially if you aren't happy. If the pressures on, then take some steps to get the pressure off.

I hoped that helped, and good luck to you!

[Donkey1]

Go do something you love to do. Hobbies, friends etc. Good stress relievers for me are excercise, hot showers, laughing, talking, singing, and doing things that are repetitive.

[Tanja]

When a stressful situation occurs, I am able to maintain my presence of mind while it is happening.
However, what used to be my problem was reflecting on it later , I would dwell on something for days, thinking what else could have gone wrong/could have been done, trying to find a meaning or a hidden message in it.
Sometimes events like this help us re-evaluate our priorities but it's also easy to get caught up in a vicious circle if you keep coming back to it.
What helps: focusing on breathing, exercising, music, being with friends etc.

[rei]

how ironic...
my birthday was this past Friday and i was on the receiving end of a hit-and-run that day - on my way to a birthday massage. i did focus on the positive - i was uninjured, my car is not too damaged, and three people came forward to be good samaritans (two of them even chased the girl in their cars for a time).

and then i had a conversation with my sister that allowed me to express the anger. stress relief can be about finding a way to be more calm or about being active to release the built up chemicals from a situation like that. a combination of conscious walking and jogging/running (like in intervals) might address both sides of this.

maybe also treating yourself to something you enjoy but don't always do - a bit of healthy indulgence. breathing consciously is good stress relief as well.

[Marko500]

I personally never in my life did not solve anything when I was under stress.
I learned that if I am under more stress, less things I manage to solve.

Or you may or may not resolve the situation. If you can not, it will pass because it is all subject to impermanence.

Stress is not worth to me

Things will change. Or will you consciously change them as you want or they will change without your control. Because of all this stress has no purpose.

[PerDev]

Take Deep Breath

Inhale with saying "SOOOOO"
exhale with saying "HHHUM"

Do it 11 times and you will feel little better.

Originally Posted by hawkal

Starting with a bit of background, I'm in my early 20's, in debt, unemployed and training to work in an industry that doesn't look very promising any more.

As I've gotten closer to the industry my interest in it is not as much as it used to be. When I signed up to the course it looked brilliant from my point of view because at the time I was doing something worse.

Today on my birthday of all days on the way to the training centre I written off my mums car swirving to miss a car stopped out of a junction in my lane. I don't live with my parents though it's just that my mum didn't need the car so she let me use it.

I try to look at at everything on the bright side. I walked away from the accident unharmed when It could have so easily gone the other way. I missed a metre deep ditch and a telegraph pole by about half a metre.

Reflecting on it all creates a indescribable confliction of emotions.

How do you deal with stressful situations?

[danstelter]

I create a very comprehensive plan for dealing with the stress. I am a lifelong anxiety sufferer and I have found that for me using regular exercise, an anxiety-reducing diet, taking regular risks in order to increase my stress tolerance, going to counseling (for a period of time), using a small dose of medication, and talking to supportive friends/family really helped a ton.

I repeated this process over and over until finally I was able to do the things that gave me great stress (like talking to strangers or working a job) were much less stressful, or even not stressful at all. I think that the key is that you have to create a plan that works for you.

[ar81]

I fight anxiety with laughter.
I write a satire of what I lived, as if I was a journalist describing a surreal and crazy situation that is close to mine. It has to have satire so it has to make me laugh.

[Gazzali]

Originally Posted by hawkal

Starting with a bit of background, I'm in my early 20's, in debt, unemployed and training to work in an industry that doesn't look very promising any more.

As I've gotten closer to the industry my interest in it is not as much as it used to be. When I signed up to the course it looked brilliant from my point of view because at the time I was doing something worse.

Today on my birthday of all days on the way to the training centre I written off my mums car swirving to miss a car stopped out of a junction in my lane. I don't live with my parents though it's just that my mum didn't need the car so she let me use it.

I try to look at at everything on the bright side. I walked away from the accident unharmed when It could have so easily gone the other way. I missed a metre deep ditch and a telegraph pole by about half a metre.

Reflecting on it all creates a indescribable confliction of emotions.

How do you deal with stressful situations?

I would suggest to put things that you want to do in writing and do the things that is urgent. Immediate and not other things can be kept in view. This will take the chunk of your stress. I hope