Extreme paranoid

[Mist]

whenever I foresee or feel hopelessness about the situation or the path ahead is unclear, I become mentally restless and I can't calm my self down. I keep thinking about the situation over and over. My head fill with question like "What should I do now ?"

Of course a thought like this is pointless and immensely destroy my energy. I couldn't be able to relax or enjoy other activity like reading or watching movie.

What I want is the ability to shift my thought away from this paranoid and stress but this is not easy to do so.It just keep haunting me from time to time when I'm trying to relax.

Any advice please ?


***A little background : It is about business situation I'm facing. Lately,my contingency plan was abolished (You can say that my comfort zone was destroyed). It's a plan I 'll executed when all of the strategies fail. Of course they are all failed and leaving me aimless right now.

[klystr0n]

Why don't you stay with the feelings and thoughts instead of running away? You have a problem, so look at it without looking for a solution.

I've tried it myself. If I am sad I don't try to distract myself by a movie or some music or try to find a solution. But instead first I just look at it, the sadness, and it stops bothering me. I may not become happy but I am no longer afraid of being sad.

And as for the question repeating itself again and again, why not vocalize it and say it out loud. You never know, it might turn into some transcendental meditation, repeating the same stupid thing over and over again.

[rei]

i think the previous poster offered a valuable approach. running from the feelings can often just give them more power. sitting with them, facing them, asking what they want to show us... a lot of times they may intensify *very briefly* and then they lose much of their effect on us.

maybe sitting down with a notebook to brainstorm possible courses of action will help... it will show the part of you that keeps asking the question that you're working toward a solution. this may work better after you sit with the feelings and they lose much of their power.

sometimes there can be a lot of power in owning our feelings out loud. literally saying, 'i own the fact that i am feeling ___ in this moment. thank you to my emotions for showing this to me.' it's like the emotion appreciates knowing it's appreciated. i don't know how to explain it, i do realize that sounds strange though.

[ar81]

Paranoia assumes everyone wants to attack you.
The good news is that people are unimportant enough so no one may need or want to harm us.

If you were somehow important to have your own unpaid paparazzi trying to go after you, it means that the poor bastard who is after you may need a life.