Did something very stupid, might get jail

[Harmonium]

Well to be honest I feel so borderline retarded/embarassed that I don't even want to say what I did. I should've known but I pawned stolen goods for somebody who stole them from his parents. I didn't exactly know at the time and we had went to pick up his other friend but he said we didn't have gas and he couldn't do it.

Like an idiot I did it, now I find out he broke into his parents stuff to steal it.

Anyways, I have an underlying anxiety about this now that won't go away... I'm an introverted person I mostly have been since I hit middle school and I started having anxiety problems where I'd freak out because I didn't know if my parents were going to be alive when I got home... By highschool I had that pretty much under control, maybe one incident I had a panic attack where I felt like I was running in circles in my mind and couldn't escape, I wanted to kill myself.

I something like this now, as I sit from my computer, which I make money on, my chair, at my home, which is my safe spot. I don't want to go to jail. I just don't want to do it or deal with it.

I've been getting tons of synchronicities before I did it, and then afterwords I got many right before I found out the stuff was stolen. I'm always wondering if LoA can help me or if I can manifest a reality where I get off, but the situation seems intimidating and I can feel it spawn doubt

I'm 18 before anyone asks. I just don't know where else to vent

[Angela]

What do you know you must do, but most don't want to do?

[spirit4711]

Originally Posted by Harmonium

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I don't want to go to jail. I just don't want to do it or deal with it.
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If you don´t deal with the situation, the situation will deal with you.

What can you do to rectify what you did?

If this is a first offense, it would surprise me if they would send you to jail, but I'm no legal expert.

[ar81]

You will have enough time for anxiety and stress, when the situation is over. Right now you have a situation to solve, so focus on how to rectify this.
If you had a very dear friend who lived next to you, and that person had that problem, what would you advice?

[This2EZ]

I was gonna slam you, but you're still young. Cops do have discretion. If you are who you sound like, then you're a pretty unassuming guy. Just tell them that you honestly didn't know. Although, I would know how to defend myself in a legal situation like this, I will admit the idiocracy that is that judicial system can be pretty scary. Innocent people are thrown in jail and murderers let off every day. Step back and actually think about how the system works: a lawyer speaks on behalf of you but he doesn't know you or whether you did it, he only knows that law and the loopholes. He don't care whether you actually did it or not, all he's thinking about is mounting a defense to the presecutor(who can be quite elaborate in their insanity). And then, in some cases, your fate can be judged by a group of peers with the accumulated IQ equal to Peter Griffin. It sucks and it is scary, but I think you're alright as long as you completely cooperate with the investigation. Dude's parents will probably drop the charges anyway since it was their son.

[James81]

If I were you I'd just chill out. YOU didn't do anything wrong. You pawned the goods before you knew they were stolen. There's no crime in that.

IMO, you should just forget about it. Forget about "making it right" because, well, the deed is done and no amount of making it right is going to end up working out for the better for you. Odds are extremely low that you are going to get caught, so I'd forget about it and move on with your life.

And take this as a lesson for you for the future.

[Cristal Lilly]

if I were in your shoes, I would go to your 'friend's' parents and have an honest talk with them. explain that I did what I did because I didn't know that it was stolen, but that in hindsight I can now see that I should've figured out what was going on. I would tell them honestly how awful I feel about the whole thing. I would apologize for my part in it and tell them where their stuff ended up so they can get it back (I think that would be appreciated cause more likely than not the stolen things had sentimental value to them).

I think that would give me atleast some piece of mind, to sincerely apologize to the people that got hurt by my lack of judgement. I know this may seem like it's stabbing the 'friend' in the back and ratting him out, but I think the apology would be the right thing for me to do, the choice that would feel right to me.

I don't know if legally this would be the smartest thing to do, but I personally would care most about just doing what felt right, because in the end I would have to live with myself and my choices, and this for me would make it easier.

and also, no matter how it would all go down, I would immediately sever all ties to this friend and completely kick him or her out of my life.

I don't think you're retarded or an awful person for making this one wrong choice. I think you're 18 and have the rest of your life to make good choices that feel right to you, and I hope you start making those good choices that feel right and good now. making good choices that feel right even when they feel hard or impossible shapes one into a good strong happy person that I think you want to be. running away from them makes one just more filled with anxiety and creates a personal hell of not being in peace with yourself.

this is how I would handle the situation and my advice, I hope it's of some help to you.

[Harmonium]

Thanks for everyone that replied, I read all replies and tried to apply the perspectives and questions, I appreciate those who are empathetic. I decided I will simply call his parents when they get back in 4 days, and tell them what happened, offer my apologies and then whatever happens after that can happen, I don't think resistance even after I've done my best is intelligent.

[Michelle]

Originally Posted by Harmonium

Thanks for everyone that replied, I read all replies and tried to apply the perspectives and questions, I appreciate those who are empathetic. I decided I will simply call his parents when they get back in 4 days, and tell them what happened, offer my apologies and then whatever happens after that can happen, I don't think resistance even after I've done my best is intelligent.

You sound like a very wise young man.

Learn your lessons from your mistake this time so you do not have to repeat them.

Good luck to you!

[joyfulgrowth]

This is not directly related, but just popped to my mind:

I remember two occasions where I - accidentally and without being seen by anybody - broke something, and both times something funny happened after I had made the choice to admit it.

The first time I broke an outdoor thermometer at a friend's birthday party. I felt really ashamed and ran away. Several years later I really felt the urge to tell his parents and to offer to pay for the costs they had had. His Mom was amazed at my hearts' desire to talk to her - and swore they had never had any broken thermometer.

The other time I was in my first week of a cleaning job - in a country where I was a foreigner. While clumsily cleaning a room in a school, I spilled some cleaning water on an expensive looking photo on the teachers desk. Immideately it started to change colors at the spot and looked ruined. Having been scared for a few minutes, I sat down and wrote the teacher a note to express my regret. When I looked up, the spot was gone and the picture looked like it had looked before.

I am not saying that things like that always happen. But they can. The secret doesnt lie in the miracle anyway, but in the moment when you move beyond your fear.

So, to come back to the original thread: When you talk to his parents, make sure your focus isnt on your fear of punishment, but on your sadness about having been part of something that does not at all match your values. Connect with your values before you have that conversation. How much honesty, respect of things that other people have put energy into acquiring etc mean to you, why they touch your heart. Maybe even put yourself into the parents' shoes and imagine the feelings they might have to deal with.

Deeply connecting with values, your own or those of others, usually is a very powerful way to get out of fear and thoughts and in contact with life again. In case it should be hard to remember the beauty of those qualities because your mind is judging you, think of some unrelated situation in which you very much experienced the quality that you are now missing in what you or others did.

Then apologies are not about "relieve me from my bad feelings" anymore - which makes them so much easier to hear for the other person.

[CroMagna]

If you didn't know he broke into his parents house to steal it, then how is that your fault?

You're 18. People do a lot of dumb things when they're younger. Steve was a kleptomaniac at your age and really turned things around.

[themaster]

Originally Posted by spirit4711

If you don´t deal with the situation, the situation will deal with you.

Now this is correct.. in the idea that.. if he keeps THINKING about it.. it will deal with him..

Let me start by saying.. first off.. you can't do anything that is wrong period.. it doesn't matter if you stole the stuff yourself! That's not wrong.. maybe in the eye's of our fellow man.. (like even some here) but let me tell you one person's eye's who doesn't think it's wrong.. MINE!

And I'm not the only one.. from a higher perspective.. we don't judge..

So let's get back to the point.. stop with the moralizing about it.. put the energy down with ideas like these..
- I didn't really didn't do anything wrong
- This is my problem and I am going to deal with it by "reaching for the best feeling thought"
- Thoughts create my reality.. now what do I want to create?? a negative situation of being bothered by police and angry parents.. or hanging out in my room.. making money.. having fun..

I need to make one last point here.. this a important duzzy.. When creating your reality.. remember to allow for the possibility of all things to happen (and you already given so much thought and energy too it.. better expect it will likely happen.. it's not a guarantee.. but you GET what you THINK about) given that it probably will.. prepare yourself to meet it neutrally or positively..

Here's a few positive ideas..
- OMG! I created this.. the police asking me questions.. parents getting all crazy.. (man they need to chill out)
- This wasn't so bad.. I thought it'd be awful.. instead I'm mildly amused