Sorrow - how to let it loose

[Miia]

There`s a certain topic in my life which will get me in tears about in 5 minutes if brought up. I have suffered from atopic dermatitis, basically eczema, since I was 3 months old. It was really bad when I was a child... it`s a bit better now. But on occasions it gets worse and right now is the time...since winter is coming and my skin hates the cold and dry air. I really should live at the Mediterranean sea. During the summer when I get to sunbathe and swim in the sea my skin turns normal and stays that way for a long time. I have used solarium and it did help a little but recently I read an article-horror-story about skin cancer and decided to avoid them, at any cost.
Sorry I got carried away...

The thing is, this subject is sooooo hard for me emotionally. I can`t even do a research on it in Google because just thinking about it and acknowledging it is so painful... haha I`m already crying. Silly isn`t it. Most of the time I am not thinking about it since it isn`t as bad and my skin looks normal but today was one of those "bad" days. I really thought at some point that I will kill myself if this wont get better. Anyway, I somehow managed to research it today without passing out from horror and found a book which teaches how to stop scratching... I was very relieved to find it since I figured out a long time ago that most of my disease is psychological (well the disease is not but is mostly triggered by stress etc)...and that I use scratching as a way to relieve stress and relax. I am so happy that some doctor has FINALLY come up with the same conclusion and written a book on it... I already ordered it.

Amongst other things today I was upset about the fact that I was so upset. I really don`t recognize myself in moments like these.. I have had this thing basically all my life (minus 3 months) and I still get so freaked out when it`s brought into light. For an example, I get really upset when my mom talks about it, when she says "your disease..." ****, I am not sick...you know... it`s so hard. I just don´t want to accept it. Because it`s horrible. I`m sorry I`m whining and not making a lot of sense...and I`m in public library crying...maybe I should kill myself after all . Does anyone have any ideas how could I cope with this..and not start crying every time I stop and think about it...

[spirit4711]

Originally Posted by Miia

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Does anyone have any ideas how could I cope with this..and not start crying every time I stop and think about it...

If you know another climate would be better for your skin, go and live there?

Have you consulted a skin specialist?

Some skin problems can be caused or worsened by stress. Is that the case with you? If so, what could you to to handle stress better / different?

[Miia]

Yes, I plan to move to Greece once I graduate university here.

I have consulted skin specialists, hundreds of them I think. I spent a huge part of my childhood in a hospital. They all tell me there is nothing that can be done. This thing is not curable (yet). They don`t know much about it except that it`s genetic.

Absolutely, the solution (part of it) lays in handling the stress... a good example... I get home after a long day at school and as I feel myself relaxing I get itchy, and feel the need to scratch... it`s almost uncontrollable. I should come up with something that I could do instead of scratching, I need to turn this thing around somehow... the only thing that seems to work so far is getting my mind off of it. But that can`t be done very easily....

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Miia

Does anyone have any ideas how could I cope with this..and not start crying every time I stop and think about it...

I'll give you my perspective, for what it's worth. Many people might think that your negative emotions are a result of your skin issue, but I would approach it inside out -- from the perspective that your skin issues are an expression of your emotional issues. "But I was only three months old!" you might cry. Yup. And your emotions began in the womb (some people believe even before that -- in past lives or past generations). Release the old stored-up negative emotions and limiting decisions, and really get the learnings that your skin problem and the negative emotions are there to provide for you (they have a positive purpose, amazingly enough) and the pain can go merrily on its way, having done its job.

There are several techniques for accomplishing the release of old stored up negative emotions and limiting decisions (technical term: "gunk"), and my very favorite, the one I use with clients every day, is TIME Techniques, which is a pleasant session done in a light trance, in which you use active imagination to access unconsciously stored events across your internal timeline, get learnings, shift perspective, release the gunk, and see what's now possible, now that you are free and have so much more choice and opportunity. I've seen a lot of "medical" problems clear up very quickly once the body is free to use its magnificent resources to heal itself, rather than holding onto old emotional pain, which takes a tremendous amount of energy.

There are some other techniques people around here have recommended from time to time; find one that resonates with you. Best wishes -- I know how painful skin issues can be!

[HAGITLOVE]

My dear Mila,
First of all I want to send you my love and light, to make you fell a bit better.
You have realy touched my heart, it seems like you are at the point of change, to open up and share your life and feeling with everyone means you are willing to do everything it takes to heal - and I bless you for that.
Second, I can relate to the possibility that there are some emotional issues.
So my suggestions to you are as follows:

1. Get the Louise Hey book -"You can heal your life" it's all about health issues and emotions.

2. Try time line therapy - it's an NLP thecnique - it takes you to a process of realesing negative emotions and beleifs, after you ask your self what cousing me this? going back in time to the first couse.

3. with realesing the emotions that cause this situation - please do some good things for your self, like:
doing something you love doing,
watching some comedy and uplifting movies and tv-shows,
listen to uplifting music,
do guided meditation

I send you healing light and streangth to not give up and realize you are a divine creation, and you deserve to live life with peace in your inner and outer world.

I bless you

[Strangemagik]

Check into the hospital around Homestead Florida. I had a boyfriend that was born there with it all over his body, he almost died. By his 20's(when I met him) he only had dry patches on elbows. That I know of after that hospital treated he was a ton better. So check into or have someone else research hospitals in and around Homestead(think Miami area).

EFT is something I just started reading about, said to be good with situations like this. Maybe you can try a practitioner that uses it instead of a derm visit and give it a shot.

Also if the solerium helped maybe try sea salt baths. Or research(or again have a friend/family do it) what would make the water similar.


And I'm assuming this been done long ago but have you tried allergy elimination diets? Just mentioning because my daughter has a very mild case of this(on her upper arms, elbows, knees and side of her thighs) and things like milk trigger it to get worse. Simple ingredients like milk(casein and others) or gluten can affect dermatitis.

[Manomanman]

Stop thinking about what you don't want to think about.

You're purposefully thinking about things that make you cry because you want to cry. Why do you want to cry all the time?

Have you ever noticed that ridiculously fat guy at the pool splashing around and having a good time? He's accepted his reality. You haven't.

My advice is to look in the mirror, and scream to your face, "I'm okay with this!!!!!!! "

You believe, deep down, that your skin condition makes you unworthy. But contradicting that belief is the firm knowledge that it's NOT YOUR FAULT. You didn't determine your genetics - it's all just random chance.

Life dealt you a particular body. FOCUS ON LOVING IT rather than hating it.

Also, go to the health forum and think about changing your diet.

[ar81]

There are two different problems here.

1.Skin problem
2.Emotional problem

Skin problem must be treated by a doctor, a skin specialist, dermatologist. Using books as reference is equivalent to self medication, not recommendable, since medical procedures are often updated.

As for emotional stress I do not get to identify what is the agent of stress. Normally stress is caused by an agent. For example, an employee whose boss mistreats him would have his boss as stress agent. Or in the case of an employee who has problem with boss because he looks like his father would have his father as stress agent, not the boss.

I can see some fear (correct me if wrong) that seems to cause stress. Either fear of death or fear of rejection. In either case it is not fear of being ill.

Which agent triggers your stress?
What type of fear do you have?

[Mogget]

I appreciate you have probably already investigated this, but if you have not... get allergy tested and find out if your diet or environment are making this condition worse than it might otherwise be.

Definitely work on ways to manage your stress responses - there are loads of good meditation CD's out there and I would reccommend trying some of the anti-stress NLP/hypnosis CD's for laying down better unconscious patterns of dealing with events.

Consider trying acupuncture - I had phenomenal success treating a young child severely affected by eczma - Chinese diagnostics are not the same as Western Medicine and depending o your total presentation you could be treated for any one of a number of internal imbalances of external pathogens - so I can't presume to guess what the diagnosis would be. I do know I cleared this little girl of her all but a tiny hint of redness in two sessions (down from cracked bleeding crocodile like skin over most of her body).