How to forget a gone relationship

[Achu]

Hi,

I need help in interpretating disturbing dreams. But before that i will let you know of my relationship.

I met a guy who when i was 13 years old. I have been with him for 9 years. Initially when we were in a relationship, after a year or so, i came to know that he was cheating on me. So we broke up. But the only thought in my mind after that was him. After a year, we met and he explained that it was a mistake and so we got into a relationship again. After a few months, we again broke up because he had a relationship with someone else again. After a year again, we got back. He explained to me that he just went out of contact because he was sent out of home and had problems contacting me. But only very much later i came to know that he was into a relationship and that girl broke up with him. Then finally, when we met again we were into a stable relationship for about 5 years. But during that time as well, his parents had family friends to whom they had fixed his wedding with. So she had to keep calling him all the time and i had to sit next to him quite. Since it was a family arrangement, he kept up to it. But never let me go, cos he was very attached to me. Then he spoke in his family about our relationship (he claims to, i am not sure.) but they said no. My parents got me married to someone else and i had to get divorced in 5 months (thats an entirely big story). After i came out, he called me again and started telling me that he wants this relationship back, because he cant be without me and i am the only person he is happy with. But during that course of time, the girl he is fixed with had been calling and he seems to speak as if he is completely in love with her. But would never think of her after that call. This disturbed me and i broke up with him since the relationship was so uncertain. He is helpless but yet using me up.

i broke up with him and i am in a relationship with another guy for past 1 year.. he is an ideal guy. He gives all the happiness that i want. i dont want to get back to my ex but just that his thoughts are always there and i am very angry with him for cheating me. When i am with my boy friend, i dont think of my ex but when i am alone i do think. But in my dreams, there is only my ex. Ever since my childhood, i have had dreams of my ex where if he is in trouble i will foresee it in my dreams. I see that i foresee everything that happens to my ex. This is very disturbing because i have let me Ex go out my life myself but i keep getting dreams about him.. please help me. I know this is a long long post.. but please help.

[Abitofzen]

I was with a girl on and off for almost 3 years.

Get back together, break up after a few months... again and again and again.

Determination was all that allowed me to move on.

The best thing I have found for truly letting the feelings, dreams, impulses toward the 'old flame' go, is deep acceptance.

You have feelings, and feelings are okay!

Relax around them. Relax into them. Accept them. It's really okay.

The more you can relax and accept, the more you will notice those feelings lose their power.

After all, they're just feelings. They're not who you are... they are just part of your experience!

keep smiling,

Ben

[Achu]

Thanks Ben.

[Annabelle]

It is understandable that you have dreams about your ex. You were with him a long time, after all. But do not give these dreams too much importance. Now you´ve met someone better, so relax and enjoy. Good luck