Any good products for this?

[Magnatolia]

Hey all

The reason I'm interested is that I feel like my past has created a 'lot' of barriers and negative beliefs that hold me back in life. I like meeting people but I tend to hold myself back rather than being emotionally open so they never really get the whole me sort of thing. And I'm always worried what people are thinking. Same as I analyse the potential risk of whatever I'm going to do, like there's a friend who is annoying me but then I worry if I say something I'll risk the friendship and this worries me as I don't have a lot of close friendships.

The main reason I've started looking into this is I've started looking into an authentic man program that teaches you about being true to your authentic self, being masculine and accessing my core power and sexual energy. I tend to really hold back when it comes to attracting women. I'm interested in becoming more grounded in life so that my natural energy is more magnetic. A presence that women notice and find appealing rather than at the moment when I lock eyes with a girl I tend to completely freeze, my mind goes blank. And I think this is some kind of fear/belief that I can't be open to my attraction and desire, like if there's something specific I'm attracted to I tend to try and shut it out of my mind because I think it's unacceptable and she'll think it's creepy.

I don't know if I believe in psychics but two have told me without prompting, that I don't feel worthy, I know it's definitely something like that. Whenever I'm in a situation, especially relating to women I have lots of thoughts going through my head that stress me out and I end up not doing anything. Like I'll think that other people will think I'm sleazy, or I'm just going to annoy her, or I wonder about eye contact. I'd just like to be able to work though the layers of social conditioning and conditioning I've put on myself to get back to my core self so I go for what I want and I have a charismatic, magnet energy.

Thanks for reading. Look forward to hearing back from you. I'm looking for mp3 hypnosis/nlp guided meditations etc. Something to strip away the layers and allow me to be charismatic, open, energetic, and magnetic.

Jase

[jamesbiz]

That's because you take things to personally, and the best book I've ever read for that is

Voice Of Knowledge: How To Quiet The Mind And Recover The Authentic Self by Don Miguel Ruiz. The guy is religious, so it has a little bit of that in it, but if you aren't religious, then ignore those parts. It's changed me drastically. It's also been on the new york times 100 best sellers for 8 years.

[ar81]

Have you forgiven yourself?
Do you feel guilty for some reason, so you need to punish yourself?

[Magnatolia]

Thanks James, I'll take a look at that book although I don't think books are what I need at this stage. More interested in hypnosis products.

Ar81, probably not. I have a lot of problems in my past that I wish I knew what I did now. I don't feel guilty but I do feel unworthy.

Any recommendations?

[ar81]

Forgive yourself. It does not mean that you will make the same mistakes.
Do as much as you can to repair damage you may have caused and go on.
Now that you are aware of the problem, you are responsible for it.

Feeling guilty is the best way not to learn:

1.I made a mistake
2.I feel guilty
3.I punish myself
4.I made a mistake
5.I feel guilty
6.etc

There is no end for this cycle.
But there is an end for the next one.

1.I made a mistake
2.I discover the root cause why I made a mistake
3.I take action to prevent future mistakes
4.I repair any damage caused
5.I learned. I am prepared not to make the same mistake twice.

How do you know how to decide responsibly? Improve this world. Make the best long term decisions.
Life will make you face tougher and tougher decisions that will go according to your level of learning.

[jamesbiz]

Originally Posted by Magnatolia

Thanks James, I'll take a look at that book although I don't think books are what I need at this stage. More interested in hypnosis products.

Ar81, probably not. I have a lot of problems in my past that I wish I knew what I did now. I don't feel guilty but I do feel unworthy.

Any recommendations?

yeah I tried hypnosis products. Didn't work. Got the book ( and I HATE reading) and it worked. so up to you