I am happy again! I am jumping of joy!

[ssandra]

Hi all,

Today I have been having a bad day. My husband was watching a show on discovery about airplain cashes and I always take those things too personal. It seems sometimes as if I am in the crash, I feel what they are feeling (to a much lesser extent, but enough to exhaust me). That is why I don´t watch the news anymore.. too much emotion.

I had no energy left.

The entire day I was afraid that this would be the start of another few days / few weeks of mental instability and feeling bad.
I tried not to care. I removed myself from the tv and did useful stuff on the computer. It did not help.

I remembered just now (better late than never ) that earlier this week I had started to do some chakra cleaning for the first time and some meditation, and I felt good.

I did that just now... and I am so happy again!!! I am literally JUMPING OF JOY!!! It works...!!! I am so happy happy happy!!!

Now all I have to do is remember to do this right away instead of waiting a whole day... and I will always be happy!!

(happy is the emotion/feeling when I am smiling inside, the whole world looks yellow/gold and I love everybody. It is not always jumping of joy or excessive. It can be quiet and calm as well).

Just wanted to share!!!!

[Andy4]

Nice one ssandra,

I really love posts like these. Things that make us feel good.

My wife is a brilliant person but has experienced some horrible things in her life, the result of which has left her a tiny bit manic-depressive, when she gets down, like you say about horrible stories, especially about mistreated children, I find it hard to lift her spirits.

I've found the best ways to make her feel happier are either to channel her 'anger' into something else or get her to think about something consrtuctive, being funny/upbeat just doesn't work.

If all else fails I just give her space, tell her I love her and let her come through it and she always does.

Not tried Chakra clearing but I will, I think we have 6 of them? I meditate twice daily and do a lot of self hypnosis,

Regards, Andy.

[Daffy Duck]

Thanks for sharing. Always nice to hear of happiness.

If I'm feeling down, I find it helps to go to a quiet place and sit alone with my thoughts for a while and pray. I'll instantly feel better about everything. The only time I'm "unhappy" is when I have too much going on in my head.

[ar81]

Mentally healthy person: How did you manage to be so happy? Iwant to to do that.

Mentally unhealthy person: Hmmm, so you are smiling, what kind of evil conspiracy are you plotting?

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by Andy4

If all else fails I just give her space, tell her I love her and let her come through it and she always does.

Not tried Chakra clearing but I will, I think we have 6 of them? I meditate twice daily and do a lot of self hypnosis,

Regards, Andy.

Chakras

Yeah, when I get like that I need my space as well.

One of the reasons that I think cleaning chakras works (although before I didn´t even believe in them...) is because I take on too much of other peoples pain. I take things too personal. This helps to get rid of the energy that is not mine.

[jamesbiz]

Don't forget to work on your emotions and how you take things personally. This kinda goes back to that those other threads that we were talking about taking other peoples words personally. Same concept. Yes, people can feel emotions more then some, but when it gets to the point where it drains you of all your energy, you need to stand back and observe yourself. Emotions are a great tool. Don't ignore them, or avoid them. If your car was flashing malfunction or maintenance lights all the time, would you just ignore them, or figure out why they are flashing?

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by jamesbiz

Don't forget to work on your emotions and how you take things personally.

This would be something else, in my opinion. When I hear people dying (actors) or real plane crashes... I just cannot shake it off.

It has nothing to do (i think) with a personal comment that I take personal (which I also do, and am working on it) but with having an imagination that is too lively. I imagine me being there. I feel me being there, the horror, the shock the helplessness.. brrr. At least now I have found a way to shake those feelings off, instead of eating, indulging in bad moods or loosing myself in books (my choice of drugs).

I could turn off my imagination, but it is so great to be able to see a nice beach outside the office window, when in fact it is a horrible grey city... I don't want to miss out on the good things here. And sometimes it is good to feel the bad things. It makes you feel connected to the world, empathic of other people suffering, and makes me realise even more that I never want to do anything to make another person hurt if I can help it a little bit.

[jamesbiz]

Is that not you taking something personally? Something happened, which has no personal connection to you, and you took it and FELT an emotional personal connection. Forget the usual usage of " personally". It means a lot more then most people think. Taking ANYTHING and feeling emotions because of it is taking something personally. It is exactly the same as taking something someone said personally. Both things do not and should not have an affect on how you feel. It's just your emotions playing havoc with your mind. And no, it's not that you are more emotional because you are a woman. Men have the same emotions. We've just learned to suppress them, which is bad. So it's almost great that you can experience more of the emotions you have instead of bottling them up. It's also great to feel those emotions. It is not great to live those emotions tho. They are there for a reason, and it's almost like they are in your head yelling " WHY AREN'T YOU LISTENING TO ME!?? I'm trying to tell you something but you won't listen to me! Fine I'll just continue to annoy the hell out of you until you listen "


You should not need to feel bad to understand that people feel bad. Did Gandhi or Buddha have to feel bad to make others feel good? No, they only feel good, and that is more then enough. Why can't you feel good, and see that others aren't feeling good, and then make them feel good? No need to have to suffer in life for ANY reason, let alone to help others. Life is not about suffering. If you go through life with that mindset of " I MUST suffer, or I am no longer human!", you will suffer or you won't feel human. I mean honestly, do you have to be lied to all the time to know that lying to someone will make them feel bad? You've suffered enough through life to have enough common sense to understand everything there is to understand with out having to go through those things over and over and over again. Your mind rehashes enough things on it's own, without you physically forcing it to actually feel AND experience those things over and over again. It only takes you burning your hand one time to know that burning your hand hurts and is bad, and you don't want someone else to do it. But honestly, who are YOU to decide that for someone? Some of the greatest people in history are/were the way they are/were today and through out history due to suffering. They overcame the suffering tho, which is the only thing that makes them different then other people who suffered. But you can't decide that for them, and you have no way of knowing what type of life they will lead. You can't see your own future so you sure as hell can't see their future.

I hope what I said has an effect on you and I hope you have an awesome day