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07-27-2009, 06:35 AM
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I'm an 18 year old girl and I have a really great life. I like to think of myself with a good head on my shoulders and slightly wise beyond my years. I don't get caught up in "drama" and usually have a lot of fun with my life. One thing though, is that I have never been able to have a boyfriend because something about it scares me and I don't understand it.. Every single time I have liked a boy it's pretty intense...but then the moment they show interest I feel grossed out by it, and its annoying! Every time i like someone (which isnt THAT often but its happened probably 5 or 6 times in my life) I lose interest ASAP after they show me their interest. I found out that my best guy friend has a crush on me and that grosses me out, too. For some reason, I don't like anyone thinking of me like that ..like THAT is what makes me uncomfortable. I feel like maybe I have some romantic problem or something, but I always tell myself that when I find the right person, I will be completely different ...but who knows. Any advice? Questions/comments/concerns? thanks! |
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07-27-2009, 07:44 AM
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Yea, your not meeting real men. These guys who suddenly confess their love for your after masquerading it as friendship are wimps and subconsciously you cannot respect, therefore cannot be attracted to these boys. On the other hand... Do you EVER get sexually attracted to males? I mean, when your out and about do you ever see a guy and just think about wanting to **** him? I know girls are afraid to admit this kinda stuff cause of the whore shaming, but this in the internet, you get a pass. |
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07-27-2009, 04:45 PM
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Haha okay, it's not like my friend did this on purpose, he just told me one day..and he's really awesome. It's not like a stupid friendship where we fight all the time or anything .. But anyway, Yeah I am attracted to males, never in that sense though..I just don't think like that. I've never had sex or anything but I have enjoyed making out the few times its happened if that's what you mean. I'm no lesbian! haha |
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07-27-2009, 05:48 PM
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There can be several things that are happening here. You could just not be ready yet. Some are ready for romance when they are 15, others when they are 22, or 40. There is nothing wrong with that. It could also be that you are a-sexual, that you simply do not have sexual feelings. That is ok too. Maybe you just have not met the right person and you are very picky. That is ok as well. Maybe you are gay. That is ok, nothing to be ashamed off. Just enjoy yourself, as long as you are not doing anything against your nature and you lead a fulfilling life, nothing else matters. What I would look into is why you think it is gross... that is a bit of a harsh statement and there might be some other believes or issues that are preventing you from enjoying dating. |
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07-29-2009, 11:43 AM
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It's possible you may develop a crush on a guy who has no interest in you, you may get hurt and then you'll be able to see the guys crush from your perspective and not think it's so gross after all, because you'll see what he was feeling, when he had the crush on you... I think if it grosses you out or makes you uncomfortable, you're just not used to the idea of someone finding you attractive... Like for example, one time I was 24 or so and working at a gift store in a mall, and I smiled at some girl (if I'm feeling good and relaxed, I do this unconsciously without any intention of flirting) and so she walked up to me and said "oh hi, this may sound a little bit odd, but do you know where I can buy porn from? I've just turned 18" she was an attractive girl in a high school uniform, and I was just a bit bewildered, kind of blushed and didn't know what to say, because I didn't really think of myself as a sexy boy that girls would want to hook up with.. she was saying "Hi, I'm 18 and horny" basically.. I'm a good looking guy, but I just think of myself as a shy everyday kind of guy.. Maybe you think of yourself as an average girl, but the guy who has the crush on you has put you on a pedestal and made you out to be something pretty extraordinary, and imagined you having massive qualities, when you really just see yourself as another human being, if that makes sense Last edited by brendannz; 07-29-2009 at 11:53 AM. | |
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07-30-2009, 03:47 PM
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Haha, wow that is a little awkward! Well, I don't think I'm ugly or anything at all I'm GORGEOUS haha just kidding, but I mean I know that I'm pretty good looking and geeze that sounds so self absorbed but I don't flaunt it as if I am the coolest thing ever or anything. I guess I just posted this question in hopes that I would find out from someone that it's kind of normal and that I don't have any affection problems or something. Thanks for all the feedback! |
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07-31-2009, 08:50 AM
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I was probably over-informative in my response. You're only 18 nothing to worry about | |
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