How do you deal with confrontation?

[dalante]

When I am facing confrontation (either from a customer, a colleague, or even a friend who's taking the piss light-heartedly) my personality vanishes completely and I wonder: where is my wit? where is my inspiration? where is my strength?

It really throws me into panic mode. Has somebody already improved in this matter?

[ReallyGoodIdeas]

What happens when you are confronted, you say your personality vanishes, but what is your mind filled with? I'm thinking along the EFT lines, and I'd figure out what goes on and do EFT on it. Check my web page for details.

For example, if you just go numb and can't think, I'd do a round on something like:

Even though I go numb when confronted, I love and accept myself compeltely"

[renie408]

I am confrontational. I have been told this many times. Many, MANY times. Its one of the things I am working hard on. When threatened, I tend to turn into something that would back off a pitbull. But the key there is 'when threatened'. It might help those of you who AREN'T confrontational to understand that most of us that ARE, are really just insecure. Pulling out the big stick in an argument and being willing to beat somebody with it is a sign that you feel like you need to ATTACK before you can be attacked. Really, it is all that standard bully stuff we learned from afterschool specials when we were kids.

When somebody starts backing you up, think to yourself, "Gee, this person must really find me threatening to react like this." Maybe it will be a little empowering. Even those friends of yours who are getting fluffy 'lightheartedly' might be establishing dominance in the relationship.