feel disconnected from other people

[Chillax]

For some time now, I've avoided talking to people unless I have to.

I don't have any problem with actually talking to people, it's not that I'm nervous or anything, it's just that I truly don't care.

Whenever the thought comes to my head that, "hey maybe I should say hie to that person", it is immediatley followed by, "what's the point?". Then I basically avoid looking at the person, and the person thinks I'm trying to ignore them (which I sappose I am).

Furthermore, for some reason, I've become REALLY bad at recognizing people, I think this comes from a fear that I might confuse someone for someone else.

These two things combined have made me quite "anti-social".

I think other people get a bad vibe from me cause of this. It feels like there's a part of me mentally that's missing. I have no problem w/ talking to people at all, in fact, it's hard for me to think of someone I didn't get along with but I just extreme apathy towards others.

I feel so disconnected with the world, I just don't care :/ I think introvert describes it pretty well but again, it's not being nervous that holds me back, it's just I feel repulsed by others, I'm not really sure why

[Andrew Brunelle]

Yeah, your just an introvert. If you just don't care, then it's not really a problem, is it? I have a similar situation as you, and talking to people isn't really the highlight of my day. Most of the people I would ever consider talking to are at a very low level of awareness anyway, so it's pretty much pointless.

Being introverted is good because it allows you to work on yourself a whole lot more than those who spend all their time connecting with people who don't better themselves and just stay where they were when they were in high school intellectually and socially.

[Chillax]

Originally Posted by Andrew Brunelle

Being introverted is good because it allows you to work on yourself a whole lot more than those who spend all their time connecting with people who don't better themselves and just stay where they were when they were in high school intellectually and socially.

That's very true.

[SimonaRich]

Nobody says that you always have to bond with others. Just see how you feel. If being alone feels great to you and you enjoy your own company then why not.

But if you want to connect with others and you sabotage yourself in social situations, then you need to reduce your ego by listening to your heart rather than what your thoughts in your head (which are based on limited beliefs) are telling you.

[Chillax]

Originally Posted by SimonaRich

listening to your heart rather than what your thoughts in your head (which are based on limited beliefs) are telling you.

I honestly don't understand what it means to "listen to your heart." Could you elaborate a bit more?

[Roger246]

Originally Posted by Chillax

I feel so disconnected with the world, I just don't care :/ I think introvert describes it pretty well but again, it's not being nervous that holds me back, it's just I feel repulsed by others, I'm not really sure why

If you don't care about feeling disconnected, then I guess there's no problem. But if you want to feel more connected to those around you, then you can try the following:

1. Think about how we're all connected. We are all dependent on each other. For instance, just think about how you get a loaf of bread at the store. A farmer has to buy wheat seed, plant the seed, and harvest the crop. The baker has to use the wheat to make the bread. The delivery person has to deliver the bread to the store. The person at the store has to put it on the shelf, and so on.
2. Think about how we're all similar. We all want to be happy and we all suffer in various ways. We were all born and we all die. I'm sure you can think of many other similarities with people you work with.

I hope this helps.

[princelucfiehr]

Well, if you dont care, there's no problem. So apparently you do care, slightly, to even bother brining it up. It could just be that it's a societal expectation that everyone be socialble and talkative to everyone like the airbrained socialites at school -__- So, its probably not you. But if the issue is you dont want people to think youre rude or that you hate them, but rather you just dont want to talk to them. They need to get over it and stop being self-centered and thinking that they must be so unlovable that you, a stranger, dont want to talk to them. I say dont worry about it. Or if you insist, say "Hello, -" say something that makes you polite but makes them feel uncomfortable, so they wont wanna talk to you. That way everyone wins.

[restless]

You wrote "For some time now". Do you mean you enjoyed socializing in the past?

What I found is that the fun you have in social situations depends on your social skills. It also depends on how often you go out and meet other people.
That means, you might have to force yourself to go out and talk to people at the beginning. Over time you not only get better at conversation, but also have more fun doing it. Don't worry if it's not always fun.