i'm WAY too sensitive

[lilmama34565]

so my boyfriend and i have been together for a few years now and i'm scared because i am WAY too sensitive i get mad at him for some of the most stupid and simple things and i don't want it to tear us apart....so far, he's been handling it very well i feel almost bipolar one minute, i'm mad at the world because of him, then the next i'm crying because i feel like a total B***h is there ANYTHING i could try to maybe slow it down? or put it all to an end? everyone says it's normal b/c i'm female....but i think i'm just TOO sensative

[Manomanman]

Originally Posted by lilmama34565

so my boyfriend and i have been together for a few years now and i'm scared because i am WAY too sensitive i get mad at him for some of the most stupid and simple things and i don't want it to tear us apart....so far, he's been handling it very well i feel almost bipolar one minute, i'm mad at the world because of him, then the next i'm crying because i feel like a total B***h is there ANYTHING i could try to maybe slow it down? or put it all to an end? everyone says it's normal b/c i'm female....but i think i'm just TOO sensative

Communicate with him very clearly. Make statements about how you feel. Try to avoid being around him when your emotions get out of control. Make sure you don't blame him for how YOU feel.

[Dot]

Originally Posted by lilmama34565

i get mad at him for some of the most stupid and simple things...

lilmama, you might be angry for some bigger things you're not expressing or even realizing. Could that be a possibility?

[Rebecca800]

Yes I agree with Dot, sounds like you are harboring negative feelings from past experiences... it builds up and builds up until you are able to release it once and for all: Greene’s Release Program » Free Therapy Sessions at Greene’s Release

[ijpeatey]

I think you've made a critical first step by recognising the effect of how you're reacting and you want to do something about it. Just by becoming aware and taking responsibility that your reactions are yours is a HUGE step ... it really is.

As for getting rid of your reactions ... yes, but you need to look for the underlying cause. What are you holding onto? What are you angry about? What needs of yours are not getting looked after? It might be hard to find the root on your own, and you might be served by finding a therapist you trust.

And slowing down. Can you take a break. Go away somewhere on your own for a few days, a week? Preferably somewhere quiet where you can get some distance from day to day life and find some peace.

[WordKeeper]

Lilmama - I don't know why people are not able to read what you have written and take you for your word. I understand what you are saying. I have spent quite some time reading about the brain and it is definitely possible that you ARE more sensitive and reactive than others and that your reactions are not b/c of some underlying problem but due to the way your brain processes.

The good news is that the brain can be rewired. Much is being written about this now. But you ask how. Believe it or not the way to rewire your brain is to use your thoughts to change your brain.

One psychiatrist whose works I have read is Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz. You may want to look him up and read some of his work. He primarily focuses on OCD but you will see that what he writes could be applyed to other problems as well.

One suggestion is that after you have reacted badly, take some time alone and think through another way you could have reacted. Then imagine yourself reacting n this better manner over and over. This could help you pave the way to a better reaction the next time. The more you do this the more likely it is that you will have a better response in the future.

[Plays With Life]

Hi lilmama -

If you're getting mad then looking back and thinking it was out of proportion, that makes me think it's probably emotion that's stored and being triggered by the situation. It actually IS out of proportion to what's happening in front of you - it's just that the situation triggers a small-scale version of the same emotion, and that stored emotion comes tumbling out right along with it. So the situation made you mildly annoyed, and you ended up feeling totally pissed off.

It IS possible to change that reaction. I'm working with my emotions right now so I'm exploring some techniques. I've had success with situations like the one you talk about, where the emotion seems all out of context and out of proportion, using a couple of methods. One is EFT, and the other is the Sedona Method. If you can check them out and give them a try, go for it. If they don't work for you shoot me off a message, I have at least one other idea I can suggest.

As for you being sensitive "because you're a girl" - that's complete crap.

If you are more sensitive than other people, that still doesn't mean you're "too" sensitive. Along those lines you could look up the material on Highly Sensitive People - HSPs. I think the situation you're talking about is more on the lines of emotion, though.

[SimonaRich]

Meditation will help you to become clear in your mind and less reactive to small things that make you upset.