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abcxyz · 04-09-2009, 05:49 AM

?????

ABdude · 04-09-2009, 10:07 PM

Huh? Why did you delete your post?

WordKeeper · 04-09-2009, 11:25 PM

abcxyz - I can't think of anything more painful. I'm sorry that you are grieving that loss.

I interpret from deleting your post that it is all to painful to put out there so you pulled it back in.

I lost my childhood friends some years ago. I still have nightmare about them. The pain dulls but for me it never went away.

If you want to talk about it but less publicly then feel free to PM me. Whatever you do definitely find someone to talk with about it. It is a deep abiding pain. I've had lots of pain and loss in my life and losing a longterm friendship is one of the most painful life experiences there is.

SimonaRich · 04-10-2009, 12:39 PM

That's what happens when you rely on others instead of relying on yourself. I know, it sounds harsh, but that's what happens.

Other people cannot make you happy or complete. It is only in yourself that you can find happiness and sense of fullness. When you find the strength in you, you will enjoy friendships of others but not get down if you would fall apart with them.

WordKeeper · 04-10-2009, 01:10 PM

Ouch - harsh indeed.

I do agree that a goal is to move into a space where we rely on ourselves but I disagree that the "universe" punishes us for having significant friendships.

David Cain · 04-10-2009, 04:13 PM

I think it really helps to recognize that everyone in your life, other than you, is just a visitor. Very few, if any, will be there the whole way through. Some visit for years, some only for a few weeks, some just pass you by once, in the street.

When they arrive, welcome them. When it's time for them to go, let them go. There will be new visitors just around the corner.

04-09-2009, 05:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
abcxyz Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 4	How to move on?.... no longer friends with best friend since the age of 6. ????? Last edited by abcxyz; 04-09-2009 at 06:48 PM.

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04-09-2009, 10:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
ABdude Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 116	Huh? Why did you delete your post?

04-09-2009, 11:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
WordKeeper Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 814	abcxyz - I can't think of anything more painful. I'm sorry that you are grieving that loss. I interpret from deleting your post that it is all to painful to put out there so you pulled it back in. I lost my childhood friends some years ago. I still have nightmare about them. The pain dulls but for me it never went away. If you want to talk about it but less publicly then feel free to PM me. Whatever you do definitely find someone to talk with about it. It is a deep abiding pain. I've had lots of pain and loss in my life and losing a longterm friendship is one of the most painful life experiences there is.

04-10-2009, 12:39 PM	#4 (permalink)
SimonaRich Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: London, United Kingdom Posts: 912	That's what happens when you rely on others instead of relying on yourself. I know, it sounds harsh, but that's what happens. Other people cannot make you happy or complete. It is only in yourself that you can find happiness and sense of fullness. When you find the strength in you, you will enjoy friendships of others but not get down if you would fall apart with them.

04-10-2009, 01:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
WordKeeper Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 814	Ouch - harsh indeed. I do agree that a goal is to move into a space where we rely on ourselves but I disagree that the "universe" punishes us for having significant friendships.

04-10-2009, 04:13 PM	#6 (permalink)
David Cain Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: The Canadian Prairies Posts: 274	I think it really helps to recognize that everyone in your life, other than you, is just a visitor. Very few, if any, will be there the whole way through. Some visit for years, some only for a few weeks, some just pass you by once, in the street. When they arrive, welcome them. When it's time for them to go, let them go. There will be new visitors just around the corner.

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