Trauma. I Cant take.

[Zoomorphic]

hi, im typing with left hand because i had a trauma.
Last week, i participated in Taekwondo fighting competition.
I was a white belt and just started 4months ago.
A girl dislocated my right arm in the ring within 10seconds stepping in.
I collapsed on the floor, unable to move, yelling screaming with intense pain. I passed out.
The week before, my first ever bofriend of 2 months broke up with me and it was 2days before m 23rd birthday. I was low and decided to engage in activity and was unlucky to get hurt. Now, im phsically and mentally damaged. Im out of work for a week now, will be back in work next week coz not able to take long sick leave. I ve to wear stupid sling for 6weeks.

I feel low, depressed, unattractive, unmotivated and meaningless, useless crippled girl still missing my first boyfriend. Im at home sulking, out of work afraid to be fired. Very bitter about my life, and that bad things keep coming and occuring together. I fear that my arm wont regain strenght and that i wont be able to pla piano again. Music kept me going all my difficult time in life, Now that i m at risk of losing music, I lost everthing,

Please, i need coaching in my life..
The trauma and breakup are haunting me. I remember the bad events so vividly. How do i let go of bad memories and regret>?

[Angela]

I'm so sorry about the pain you have felt! Owwwch! It hurts a little just to read about it, and I wish you a speedy recovery.

Look, though. Do you know how cool it is that you even participated in that tournament? Are you aware of how many guys are going to be attracted to you because you are so bold and courageous and athletic that you would take that on (not to mention that you did it in the throes of romantic angst.) Men are going to LOVE your story about your dislocated arm. You are a total catch.

And your arm will heal up so that you will be playing piano even better than before, if you trust your body. You're only 23 and your body is a miraculous healing wonder, you can believe it. Allow your unconscious mind to do it's work without having to endure the endless negative chatter of your conscious mind ("oh, oh, oh, will I ever play piano again?!"). You might want to google "pendulum healing" (you can even find youtubes of this process) and give that a try -- it's just a way of gaining trust and rapport with your unconscious and allowing your body to do what it does best -- ensure and maintain your well-being.

The important thing is to take every step to get your unconscious and conscious thoughts lined up together to get you where you want to be.

You need a coach? I recommend an NLP practitioner who is also a hypnotherapist, because you won't have to have a long, drawn-out "relationship" as with a traditional therapist -- you can get yourself on the road to feeling really, really good in one session and maybe a follow-up.

Best wishes to you, and congratulations for being such a studette!

[Athena Arianna]

Haven't logged in for so long, just lurking mostly -

but Zoomorphic, I have to respond to your post girlfriend!

First reason, I was doing TKD when I was your age, and I could never find the guts to go to those tournaments. So Angela is right, to me it's awesome you had the guts to step in the ring, put up your fists and take on an opponent. You know how many people can only dream of attempting that? So you got beat this time, big deal - wear that sling as a badge of battle honor!

Second reason, I wanted to confirm that you WILL heal, most likely good as new. After TKD years were up I went on to compete many years in horse back riding competition, and have dislocated more joints than I want to list (lol). Each time I came away from the injury so stiff and sure I would never heal this time.

Well, each time I DID heal and you will too. (Not only did I heal but I returned to fitness, each time a little stronger than before, and now, at 42, consider myself fitter than I ever have been in my life, training for my 3rd marathon!) This in spite of having only maybe 2 or 3 joints that haven't been dislocated or broken by now, LOL.

The body is amazing in its ability to heal itself. Just give it the time and eat right and then do your PT exercises when the time comes . You have already proven to be amazing by training TKD & steppping into a fighting ring. Give yourself plenty of time, and your body will tell you when it is time to step up & get back in that "ring" (real or relative!)

(PS not even going to mention the ex bf as in comparison to the other things he is sooooo not important in your life <grin> If he were, he'd come back, but if I were you I'd tell him to take a hike, keep building your life and when the right guy comes along, he'll know he needs to hang on to you)

Hugs,
Athena Arianna

[SimonaRich]

The more you worry about these things, the more things you will attract in your experience that will worry you.

You should only look at positive aspects of your reality, because only then you can improve your current circumstances.

You should start being grateful that you have home, and you have work, and you have people who love you (your family and friends) and that your arm is healing and some people do not have that much health as you have.

You should try to be grateful about positive things that you have and every day more great things will come into your reality that you will be grateful for.

I know that it may be hard to turn away from obvious misfortunes that you are currently experiencing, but you should always remember that the more you complain about them, the more similar experiences you will have in your life.

[StacyT]

Zoomorphic,
I would say, go ahead and allow yourself to cry and feel sad. It's perfectly ok. But you know what? You WILL heal, even though you are in mental and physical pain right now. Sometimes the healing seems like it will never come - but I promise it will. And when it does, you will be ready to take on the world. But until then, just rest and take care of yourself. Of course you can't play the piano RIGHT NOW, but you will when you are healed. Know that.

Don't worry about work, just focus on resting and taking care of yourself. Watch some funny movies, maybe?

And I agree with Angela - the story you will have to tell after all this is over is kick-butt. Much more interesting and attractive than the helpless little chick who never even stepped into the competition. I admire your courage and feel for your pain. Don't ever give up doing the things you love.

[Zoomorphic]

Im still worried about my arm. Now starting to get very angry and more bitter, Still feeling low. Why my life is so mess up. I wish im someone else

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Zoomorphic

Im still worried about my arm. Now starting to get very angry and more bitter, Still feeling low. Why my life is so mess up. I wish im someone else

So, what are you going to do about it?

[magi13]

Tae kwon do can do that?

My God... you're teacher should be banned from practice. It seemed to me that he/she didn't know how to teach if he/she lets two white belts fight.

We in muay, condition ourselves first before fighting, and before that, tons of shadow boxing.

Anyway, I wish luck and keep moving forward.

This is a painful experience, but it'll make you stronger.