How does it feel to be loved unconditionally?

[seeker5]

For those of you who feel you love yourself unconditionally, or that you're loved unconditionally by the universe or by others, how does it feel to be loved unconditionally?

This is an important question for me .

[magi13]

it feels liberating. we can share love freely with no secrets and without limits. it's like feeling you were born for each other and it motivates your love more.

fights will occur but is resolved asap of course

[RT Wolf]

Put the beauty of the sunset into five words. It's pretty much impossible to describe.

[Millissus64]

Unconditional love happens within. This is something I strive for, but have not acheived yet. If I can love myself unconditionally...I can love others unconditionally.

[Honeywith4bees]

Not to long ago, my boyfriend and I were talking about our relationship and how we felt it was progressing when he mentioned something that simply floored me. He's 11 years older than me and has a pretty good grasp on how things should be (unlike me! ). He said that he's in this relationship for the duration. He said that he feels confident that with the kind of communication that we have and because of the shared values that we have, that no matter what he plans to stay committed to working our relationship. It took me a day of thinking about this to understand the implications. It meant that he had decided to love me, be with me, honor our relationship, no matter what happens.

I have never, ever had that before. My parents withheld love if I didn't behave, my siblings still with hold love if I don't do what they want. And I certainly don't have unconditional love for myself!

It was such a huge, enormous relief to hear him say that! Like a burden had been lifted. We already laugh a lot together, he and I, but since this, it feels like our times together are even happier and more joyful.

[magi13]

to each his own they'll learn from it. i myself love the idea. ^6

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by RT Wolf

Put the beauty of the sunset into five words. It's pretty much impossible to describe.

Well, the good thing RT Wolf, is that you're not limited to describing unconditional love in just 5 words. I give you permission to try it using more words if you'd like .

Originally Posted by Millissus64

Unconditional love happens within. This is something I strive for, but have not acheived yet. If I can love myself unconditionally...I can love others unconditionally.

Yes, that's what I sense too. When I focus on unconditional love for myself, I feel this energy expand and I am so much more loving toward others.

Originally Posted by Honeywith4bees

Not to long ago, my boyfriend and I were talking about our relationship and how we felt it was progressing when he mentioned something that simply floored me. He's 11 years older than me and has a pretty good grasp on how things should be (unlike me! ). He said that he's in this relationship for the duration. He said that he feels confident that with the kind of communication that we have and because of the shared values that we have, that no matter what he plans to stay committed to working our relationship. It took me a day of thinking about this to understand the implications. It meant that he had decided to love me, be with me, honor our relationship, no matter what happens.

That's beautiful thanks for sharing!

I have never, ever had that before. My parents withheld love if I didn't behave, my siblings still with hold love if I don't do what they want. And I certainly don't have unconditional love for myself!

Same here! I never felt loved as a kid, certainly not unconditionally.

It was such a huge, enormous relief to hear him say that! Like a burden had been lifted. We already laugh a lot together, he and I, but since this, it feels like our times together are even happier and more joyful.

That's awesome

[Ralph]

I feel secure, willing to open myself up fully and share the best of me. I'm willing to love back

[StellaBlue]

Seeker, this strikes me as a really odd thing to ask because I don't think the feeling of love is something you can put into words.... Maybe it just seems that way for me because I also struggle with loving myself unconditionally.

When I read this, the first thing I did was turn it around in my head and think, "What does it feel like to give love unconditionally?" That is something I can relate to. The best way I can word it is that it is the most rewarding, painful, joyful, sad, and passionate feeling there is to love someone unconditionally. It is every feeling there is combined. I wonder if receiving that love feels similar?

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by StellaBlue

Seeker, this strikes me as a really odd thing to ask because I don't think the feeling of love is something you can put into words.... Maybe it just seems that way for me because I also struggle with loving myself unconditionally.

I asked this questions here because I know that loving myself unconditional is very important, and a crucial and key part to my overcoming a number of my limits right now. My amazing and trusted counselor gave me as a first step to imagine feeling unconditional love for myself. Just to imagine how it would feel. So first I started this thread, and then I started playing with how it would feel.

So, when I focus on imagining how unconditional love for myself feels, it feels amazing. Here is what it feels for me when I imagine this: I feel so at peace. I feel so loved. I feel so calm, like everything will be all right. I feel so worthy of the things that before I didn't feel worthy of, when I imagine unconditional love, I now feel worthy of them. It's like I know I don't have to "earn" that, but as a person, as a human being I am worthy of it. Not just in terms of interactions with people, but who I am as a person. When I imagine how it is to feel unconditional love, I also start to feel so much love too flowing toward others, especially those I'm very close to, but also, to a lesser degree, to those I'm not that close to. Even though I would just imagine unconditional love for myself - the act of that made my love flow toward others around me too (and online too ).

I don't know if I'm doing it "right", but that's how it feels for me when I imagine it.

There's something else very odd that comes up sexually when I imaging feeling unconditional love, but I'll bring that up another time.

[seeker5]

The OP of this thread states the topic of this thread is to discuss issues related to how it feels to have unconditional love.

The question of whether unconditional love exist or not has taken up hundreds of post in other threads. To avoid this thread from being derailed by the off-topic argument about whether it exist or not, I moved all of the posts related to the question of whether it exist here: Does unconditional love exist?

Please post any denial (and rebuttal) about whether unconditional love exists on that thread, and leave this thread for the discussion on the "how-to" aspect of unconditional love. If you have any question, or comments about this, please feel free to send me a pm.

[Kaspian]

Being loved: I know that my husband loves me, delights in who I am, and will continue to love me no matter what I do. I feel safe, supported, joyful, confident, secure, trusted, respected, whole, and free.

Loving myself: I am worth it, whatever "it" is. I accomplish my desires because I am worthy of having what I want. I take good care of my body because I honor and value it. I pay attention to what I experience emotionally, making changes to my life and friendships when my emotions signal that it's necessary. I trust my instincts. Although I make mistakes sometimes, there's no reason to feel guilty or beat myself up over it. I simply learn what I can from the experience and continue doing my best. I am (and aim to be) happy, healthy, vibrantly alive, and empowered.

Because I love myself, I do not tolerate people who do not respect me, who take pleasure in causing pain to others, who attack me verbally or energetically, who ignore my boundaries, and/or attempt to manipulate me. I value myself too much to associate with them. As I began to see that this is important, I had to expel manipulative, malicious, invasive, and disrespectful people from my life. I choose to spend time with people whose company I enjoy, people who I respect and appreciate, whose ideas I value, who respect and appreciate me, and who value my thoughts & ideas.

Loving others: Because I love myself, I can love others. There are people in my life (my husband, some friends, some family members) who I love and will love no matter what they do. These people are the ones who meet my one condition for unconditional love: they treat me with respect and want for me what I want for myself—happiness, health, empowerment, and being vibrantly alive.