Failing in college and feel like there is no hope in my life anymore.

[ProjectX]

My life plan was to get a diploma in community college and then transfer to a university. But now it seems I will be graduating with below a 3.0 GPA, so my hopes and dreams have gone down the drain. Now I feel really like s**t.
I'm suffering from depression and taking medication and seeing a psychiatrist. The reason my grades have suffered so much is me missing so many classes due to my depression.
I feel guilty for wasting my family's money and I just don't know what to do. I really want to get a degree from a university but I don't know how that will happen now. I feel like there is no hope and suicide has come into my mind several times. To make matters worse the economic crisis is coming and I just don't if I could get a job. I feel like a failure for wasting this opportunity and feel like life is treating me badly no matter how hard I try to think positively.

[rjani]

Uhh, depression is though, man, I know, but as long as you see things from your current point of view, things won't change.
Have you ever had the experience when you thought about something and years later you look back and you can't believe how silly you were to think like that?
I had some depression-times in my 14-15-s and now when I look back I feel exactly like that. I can't believe I thought about suicide and all those silly things. And you're gonna think the same after you're through this time.
Your mind does very stupid things sometimes, for example enlarge your fears and your despair unneccessarily.
I can imagine that form your point of view your life seems like a failure, but it's nothing close to that. Failed in college? Are you kidding?
Other people have/had/will have much bigger problems and they get through them anyway. It's just your mind who plays the trick and tries to display your current circumstances as you see them now.
And suicide? Man, what if there's one thing I've learned from my past depression experience is when you have serious depression, you're clearly not in a state when you can make big decisions about your life. So don't try to do anything like that.
Instead try to see your current situation from a more positive point of view and focus on the good things. I know it's really hard, but if you try it enough, you'll get there.
And one more thing. If you feel like your life is a waste then you simply haven't yet discovered your purpose yet. And that means you have plenty of work to do right now, so let's focus on that instead of thinking about stupid things
I wish you all the best

[pumpernickel]

First of all - are you seeing college counsellors ( I note you are seeing a professional but can you see a counsellor as well)- does anyone know you are feeling like this - please seek help from wherever you can and remember that depression can make you reluctant to try anything that might actually help you. It is very easy to believe every thought that is going through your head - focusing on your negative thoughts causes a depressed state which in turn creates more negative thoughts. thoughts are just thoughts - you have a choice whether to believe them or not. Once you can grasp this fact you can then deliberately choose thoughts that make you feel better about yourself and your life.

If you can get access to books I would recommend anything by Byron Katie and her website is here

www.thework.com

How you feel is not necessarily reality - it is just a result of believing the thoughts passing through your mind. Katie teaches that once we learn to see that everything in our life is for us and to love what is, then the world feels like a better place. It can be a long and hard journey out of depression but you can learn how to think differently.

Do try "Loving What Is" by Byron Katie.

I am not trying to minimize your problems, which I am sure are real issues for you but feeling depressed can result in feeling helpless and powerless in your life and feeling that you cannot do anything to get out of your current situation. If you can prove to yourself that you have the power to do something anything - brush your teeth, hair, wash your face, get out of bed the effect will be cumulative and you may be able to try more adventurous stuff like attending one class that you had not been going to.

At the same time I think you should be very very kind to yourself as self esteem usually plummets when you feel so bad.

When you feel better you can then reflect on your current situation and make some good decisions.

Hope that helps but I would really encourage you to get some help as quickly as possible or talk to anyone who will listen kindly to you.

I can't stress enough that you should not judge yourself by grades - you are not just your grades - you are a unique and talented individual with much to give the world.

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

My life plan was to get a diploma in community college and then transfer to a university. But now it seems I will be graduating with below a 3.0 GPA, so my hopes and dreams have gone down the drain. Now I feel really like s**t.
I'm suffering from depression and taking medication and seeing a psychiatrist. The reason my grades have suffered so much is me missing so many classes due to my depression.
I feel guilty for wasting my family's money and I just don't know what to do. I really want to get a degree from a university but I don't know how that will happen now. I feel like there is no hope and suicide has come into my mind several times. To make matters worse the economic crisis is coming and I just don't if I could get a job. I feel like a failure for wasting this opportunity and feel like life is treating me badly no matter how hard I try to think positively.

Depression is an opportunity to rethink your strategy to fulfill your wants and needs

some things to consider;

why do you have to have a degree? is it really that important? why are you putting so much pressure on yourself to get a degree? is there any other options other than a degree to achieve your real goals?

personally, failing and quitting Uni was one of the best things that ever happened to me

[lisamelinda]

i'm sorry you are feeling terrible. perhaps you should take a break, and really just let what you need to do come to you.... if i was in the same situation, i think i would go back and try again, if you really want to go to university. I don't really know what is best for you, i just hope that you find what you need to and that you feel better. i also wouldn't worry about finding a job. that's way in the future isn't it? don't be hard on yourself, you're going through a tough time. It's how you respond to it that matters.

[Lauxa]

What field were you studying for a degree in? Maybe there is some way to get a job in your field and short-circuit the whole college process.

[darkw0rker]

You have just described my situation.

I just dropped out of university, due to depression, and feel like wasted my family's money badly.

I'm also thinking about suicide because every single part of my life is now officially ****ed, either social, academic, family, sex, basically my whole life.

hope we both find a solution.

[WordKeeper]

ProjectX - I have been in a similar situation, I failed and withdrew from college because I was severely depressed and unable to complete my work. That was many years ago and noone talked about or diagnosed depression as quickly as they do now. I dropped out and went to work and came back and repeated. Then I dropped out again and worked for several years (all the while depressed and experiencing debilitating anxiety.) Eventually in my 30s I returned and finally passed. This time with excellent grades. But I still failed to find meaningful work for many years. Starting and developing companies (b/c noone would hire me with my irregular work record. I would be successful for 5 years at a time until knocked down by depression and anxiety again (after severe losses).

Well I'm at it again. Now I know that I have ADHD, depression and anxiety. I have slowly learned how to fight those demons and I have two excellent businesses on the blocks, ready to launch.

The most important thing that turned me around, even in the midst of failure (or more accurately - lack of success) was BELIEVING that I could do the work, that I could get out of the place and that I would make it.

I have run into barrier after barrier but never given up. I learned from Wayne Dyer that these barriers could be viewed as redirections and have taken them as so.

The more I change my negative thinking into something positive and determined the more progress I make. I do experience negative thinking at times still but I am determined to replace those thoughts with what I think is more appropriate - this is quite different from going into denial. Denial is a repression. I feel it in my body when I try to repress the negative thoughts. I feel release when I replace them.

My technique for replacing came from psychiatrist Jeffrey Schwartz's book The Mind and The Brain. He created it for his OCD patients but it works for others as well. It has worked for me.

Here is a brief but useful description of the four steps:
Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz' Four Steps - Westwood Institute for Anxiety Disorders

The most important thing for you to do is to change you thinking about your future. Your circumstances are glum indeed but do not have to remain there. Look for stories of others who have overcome dark circumstances. Use them to inspire you and build your confidence that you can do something about it.

You already believe you can do the work. You have explained here that your depression has been disastrous. Now is time to work on your depression. Do research and find means to overcome it. There are many ways. Find what works for you.

You write that with the economy you'll never find a job. Don't mistaken "difficult" for "impossible." You can do it but you must believe you can do it. Try believing that someone can do it and then begin putting your own image into that "someone" so that you can see yourself succeeding.

It is not a straight road out of a personal sense of failure but it is an upward road and you can do it.

Here is a story to inspire you:
"In his stirring autobiography Chris Gardner details his journey from homeless single father to self-made millionaire. It is the gripping story of his refusal to give up on his quest for the American dream and his duties to his toddler son, or give into the despair that threatened to devour him from birth. "
Christopher Gardner - Official Web Site

Don't give up. Believe in spite of your present experience - believe. Believing is the way out.

[ar81]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

My life plan was to get a diploma in community college and then transfer to a university. But now it seems I will be graduating with below a 3.0 GPA, so my hopes and dreams have gone down the drain. Now I feel really like s**t.
I'm suffering from depression and taking medication and seeing a psychiatrist. The reason my grades have suffered so much is me missing so many classes due to my depression.
I feel guilty for wasting my family's money and I just don't know what to do. I really want to get a degree from a university but I don't know how that will happen now. I feel like there is no hope and suicide has come into my mind several times. To make matters worse the economic crisis is coming and I just don't if I could get a job. I feel like a failure for wasting this opportunity and feel like life is treating me badly no matter how hard I try to think positively.

My life did not happen as I expected.
It is not world's fault that world does not work as you wish it should.
The universe is like a machine. If you are going to operate it, learn how it works first, then operate it.

I am sure there is an alternate way to achieve things in life. There are people who made lots of money and never got a degree in Oxford, there are many computer specialists who got their experience in day to day and not through a certification.

If you want a certificate, a paper, be depressed. But if your dream is to learn and master something, then learn. How about going to other country and get a degree there? You might like to have good grades there.

If you suffer depression, be aware that it is a biochemical unbalance that cheats you to see like very dark. But world is not dark, it is a biochemical illusion in your brain, and that's why medication has some effect.

I have met a person you got to realize about that and she is very happy today, as she learned that she should not be cheated by her brain chemical reactions.

Before attempting anything, overcome your depression. We can do things, but we need a direction, but also persistence. Depression breaks persistence.

There is always a next door to knock when all doors are closed. The art of life is to find out that there is always another door. We are used to set deadlines, we are used to allow 3 attempts at most. Under such tight conditions we are likely to fail.

Why not giving yourself a chance to know another door without a deadline or limiting the amount of doors you will knock? If you insist in searching for doors, some will be opened some day.

[ProjectX]

Thanks guys for your support. It seems theres always something in my life that comes up that I feel depressed or regretful about. Now its me doing badly in college and wasting a golden opportunity to turn my life for the better and I pretty much blew it. Even if I get straights As this semester I will not be able to go over 3.0 GPA.

Theres so many problems in my life; health, social, school, family, money. I just feel overwhelmed hence the thought of suicide.
I don't know who to talk to. I saw the college counsellor but that wasn't much help.

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

Thanks guys for your support. It seems theres always something in my life that comes up that I feel depressed or regretful about. Now its me doing badly in college and wasting a golden opportunity to turn my life for the better and I pretty much blew it. Theres so many problems in my life; health, social, school, family, money. I just feel overwhelmed hence the thought of suicide.
I don't know who to talk to. I saw the college counsellor but that wasn't much help.

that's a tough situation.

try and get clear of where you are now and where you want to be in each area of your life

you could use the following Tony Robbins free video, audio, and work book to help jump start this;

The Power of Momentum

that should help you to make a strong plan for improvement in all areas of your life.

do seek professional help if things get worse though

[lisamelinda]

Originally Posted by darkw0rker

You have just described my situation.

I just dropped out of university, due to depression, and feel like wasted my family's money badly.

I'm also thinking about suicide because every single part of my life is now officially ****ed, either social, academic, family, sex, basically my whole life.

hope we both find a solution.

You'll get there.

[Neal2009]

Ok, first and formost i want to apologise for the torrent of self-pity/misery/negativity im about to write - i really have to vent

I understand whole heartedly what the threadstarter is talking about. Honestly, the only reason i haven't commited sucide is the fact that i wouldn't want the people that i leave behind feeling upset over me. I am and have always been a certified loser. I am one of those people that squander every opportunity they have, can't make a connection with anyone and perversly have impossible high standards of themselves. the only thing i actually have going for me is a supposed intelligence but the reality is im a "smart dumb guy" someone that talks like they are smart, but on closer scruitny hasn't got a bit of sense. I honestly am less able to take care of my self than a small child and I have only drained the poor people who love me and have done everything in their power to help me. When i think how easy my life is and the way i waste it every single day i can only see myself as scum. People in this world would actually kill for the opportunities i have in life and every day i sit here, on the internet or jacking off (sorry for the image).

I have no money, no job, no home, living off loans from the state that are supposed to be for my education (i am in university but im on a course that i dont want to do, but am only doing cus i dont know what else to do) I have a loving girlfriend who I treat like **** because im so shallow I cant see past her looks and her background, im slowing becoming overweight and extremely unhealthy I look like **** and im a unfriendly arsehole who would probably would try and run away if you came up to talk to me.

A couple years ago i had it all mapped out, who i was what i wanted, how i was gonna get it. But the reality is ive always been a lazy bum and nothing exictes me more than living in bed all day doing nothing. Im 25 and i have nothing to show for my life but selfpity.

Im so sick of it all, ive read book after book , heard theory after thoery but nothing that ive tried has ever cured my, procrastination, lazyness, self deluison and trampyness. Anytime i try to change my life i ethier stop because im too lazy, something else distracts me, or i realise ive got too much to change and the enormity of it all overwellms me

Deep down i just want to be proud of myself and be self sufficent but i dont think it will ever happen. I just wish I hadnt wasted so much of my life like this.


Again im sorry for the negativity and its a bit off topic. I hope the threadstarter gets the help that he neeeds because the more the you dweel on it the more hopeless it gets.

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by Neal2009

Ok, first and formost i want to apologise for the torrent of self-pity/misery/negativity im about to write - i really have to vent

I understand whole heartedly what the threadstarter is talking about. Honestly, the only reason i haven't commited sucide is the fact that i wouldn't want the people that i leave behind feeling upset over me. I am and have always been a certified loser. I am one of those people that squander every opportunity they have, can't make a connection with anyone and perversly have impossible high standards of themselves. the only thing i actually have going for me is a supposed intelligence but the reality is im a "smart dumb guy" someone that talks like they are smart, but on closer scruitny hasn't got a bit of sense. I honestly am less able to take care of my self than a small child and I have only drained the poor people who love me and have done everything in their power to help me. When i think how easy my life is and the way i waste it every single day i can only see myself as scum. People in this world would actually kill for the opportunities i have in life and every day i sit here, on the internet or jacking off (sorry for the image).

I have no money, no job, no home, living off loans from the state that are supposed to be for my education (i am in university but im on a course that i dont want to do, but am only doing cus i dont know what else to do) I have a loving girlfriend who I treat like **** because im so shallow I cant see past her looks and her background, im slowing becoming overweight and extremely unhealthy I look like **** and im a unfriendly arsehole who would probably would try and run away if you came up to talk to me.

A couple years ago i had it all mapped out, who i was what i wanted, how i was gonna get it. But the reality is ive always been a lazy bum and nothing exictes me more than living in bed all day doing nothing. Im 25 and i have nothing to show for my life but selfpity.

Im so sick of it all, ive read book after book , heard theory after thoery but nothing that ive tried has ever cured my, procrastination, lazyness, self deluison and trampyness. Anytime i try to change my life i ethier stop because im too lazy, something else distracts me, or i realise ive got too much to change and the enormity of it all overwellms me

Deep down i just want to be proud of myself and be self sufficent but i dont think it will ever happen. I just wish I hadnt wasted so much of my life like this.


Again im sorry for the negativity and its a bit off topic. I hope the threadstarter gets the help that he neeeds because the more the you dweel on it the more hopeless it gets.

you've got a lot of life left in you my friend.

also, instead of trying to solve everything in your life at once, start by picking one or two areas at focusing strictly on those.

what's the one or two things you could do right now to improve your life? would it be improving your health? would it be taking control of your finances?

let me know and I'll do my best to help you get started towards improving your life

[ar81]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

Thanks guys for your support. It seems theres always something in my life that comes up that I feel depressed or regretful about. Now its me doing badly in college and wasting a golden opportunity to turn my life for the better and I pretty much blew it. Even if I get straights As this semester I will not be able to go over 3.0 GPA.

Theres so many problems in my life; health, social, school, family, money. I just feel overwhelmed hence the thought of suicide.
I don't know who to talk to. I saw the college counsellor but that wasn't much help.

Yes, we are taught that happiness is absense of problems. Under such definition you cant be happy, ever. But if we change the definition as "happiness is what we do WHILE we have problems" then things change.

Depression makes you think you can't, that there is no way out. It is a biochemical cheat in your brain. A veil that covers the bright reality in front of you.

[Neal2009]

Originally Posted by stayfly

you've got a lot of life left in you my friend.

also, instead of trying to solve everything in your life at once, start by picking one or two areas at focusing strictly on those.

what's the one or two things you could do right now to improve your life? would it be improving your health? would it be taking control of your finances?

let me know and I'll do my best to help you get started towards improving your life

First of all starfly thanks for replying to me and im sorry I kinda brought my bull into someone else's thread. hopefully any advice you give me can apply to him/her as well

Im gonna just tell it as it is and to be honest some of you may think i need professional help. its something Ive thought about but I think all they would do is drug me up and Im not interested if thats the case. Ive never had a problem being blunt with or about myself (at least not to strangers - family and friends can be a problem), its more doing something about the issues.

I have alot of problems with money, work, housing and even to a lesser degree health but i believe my two main problems are:

Procrastination/lazyness

Self belief/ Courage


if i could deal with those two id be able to tackle the rest a lot eaiser

My procrastination stems from the fact ti cant seem to consentrate on anything consturctive for more than a few mins (simply illustration - I first meant to write this apply 2 hours ago) and even when i do when i weigh up the enormity of the task i quickly find something meaningless to do (like watch youtube videos) to do instead

My self belief/ Courage or lack thereoff stems from the fact that i deep down think everything is too hard. As much as I beleive I deserve the best (money, houses,cars, women, power, respect) I honestly dont believeI can make my life better deep down but on a surface level im always hatching some big sceme that will make everything alright. even typing on this forum could be seen as that as im hoping if i follow the advice on here everything will be ok. I know im deluding myself but thats half the problem


I guess It all bottles down to fear that i can never do it and its envy at how seemingly together the rest of the world is.

You may scoff at that assumption but you talking to a guy that never ever does anything at the same time everyday and often forgets or neglets to to even the basic stuff (i.e personal hygeine, housekeeping, chores etc). Its not that im depressed or that i even dont want to do it, i just dont seem to be able to do anything routinely. The only thing i can honestly say i do everyday is go to the toliet everything else I do if can't function without doing it including somedays even eating.


before you start thinking im some basket case, im not saying i go days without bathing or eating, more that sometimes for no real reason I just skip things.

with this in mind how the hell can i every make a decent living, find a good partner, have a good warm TIDY home and be a personal success in life?

I want it all but i cant even handle the basics

I dunno

[The Cloud]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

I feel like a failure for wasting this opportunity and feel like life is treating me badly no matter how hard I try to think positively.

It's you that is treating yourself badly, not life. Problems are always going to be cropping up for you, as long as you want them to. Even if you get into university, get a sudden windfall of money, and are adored by your family, you will still find reasons to be depressed. Perhaps not as deeply, but you'll just be waiting for something to come along to take your happiness away, and you'll gladly hand it over when that happens.

Life isn't serious. Not even a little bit. It's all your imagination. Is it really necessary to kill yourself just to get away from your imagination? Would you really rather kill yourself than kill your imagined failings? It's not your fault. It's not anybody's fault. It just is.

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by Neal2009

First of all starfly thanks for replying to me and im sorry I kinda brought my bull into someone else's thread. hopefully any advice you give me can apply to him/her as well

Im gonna just tell it as it is and to be honest some of you may think i need professional help. its something Ive thought about but I think all they would do is drug me up and Im not interested if thats the case. Ive never had a problem being blunt with or about myself (at least not to strangers - family and friends can be a problem), its more doing something about the issues.

I have alot of problems with money, work, housing and even to a lesser degree health but i believe my two main problems are:

Procrastination/lazyness

Self belief/ Courage


if i could deal with those two id be able to tackle the rest a lot eaiser

My procrastination stems from the fact ti cant seem to consentrate on anything consturctive for more than a few mins (simply illustration - I first meant to write this apply 2 hours ago) and even when i do when i weigh up the enormity of the task i quickly find something meaningless to do (like watch youtube videos) to do instead

My self belief/ Courage or lack thereoff stems from the fact that i deep down think everything is too hard. As much as I beleive I deserve the best (money, houses,cars, women, power, respect) I honestly dont believeI can make my life better deep down but on a surface level im always hatching some big sceme that will make everything alright. even typing on this forum could be seen as that as im hoping if i follow the advice on here everything will be ok. I know im deluding myself but thats half the problem


I guess It all bottles down to fear that i can never do it and its envy at how seemingly together the rest of the world is.

You may scoff at that assumption but you talking to a guy that never ever does anything at the same time everyday and often forgets or neglets to to even the basic stuff (i.e personal hygeine, housekeeping, chores etc). Its not that im depressed or that i even dont want to do it, i just dont seem to be able to do anything routinely. The only thing i can honestly say i do everyday is go to the toliet everything else I do if can't function without doing it including somedays even eating.


before you start thinking im some basket case, im not saying i go days without bathing or eating, more that sometimes for no real reason I just skip things.

with this in mind how the hell can i every make a decent living, find a good partner, have a good warm TIDY home and be a personal success in life?

I want it all but i cant even handle the basics

I dunno

overcoming procrastination and building your self belief are very achievable and worthwhile goals

rather than focusing directly on overcoming procrastination and developing self belief, I recomend choosing a more quantifiable and exciting goal that will also develop the character traights you mentioned. in other words, by working towards these physical goals you will automatically overcome procrastination and develop your self belief.

what two physical things could you focus on achieving that would improve your life immediately? choose one big thing and one small thing.

for a big thing, would it be getting a better job? would it be improving your health and body? or moving to a better environment? deciding a new career path? going to college? choose the thing that you think would have the biggest impact on your life right now

for the smaller thing, would it be developing a 20 minute moring appearance/grooming/hygeine routine that you do every day for 30 days? or would it be cleaning and organizing your apartment and then setting up a daily system you follow to keep it clean? would it be doing volunteer work once a month to help others? choose something that you think would help you and would also be kinda cool or fun.

let me know what 2 things you choose

[Neal2009]

Originally Posted by stayfly

overcoming procrastination and building your self belief are very achievable and worthwhile goals

rather than focusing directly on overcoming procrastination and developing self belief, I recomend choosing a more quantifiable and exciting goal that will also develop the character traights you mentioned. in other words, by working towards these physical goals you will automatically overcome procrastination and develop your self belief.

what two physical things could you focus on achieving that would improve your life immediately? choose one big thing and one small thing.

for a big thing, would it be getting a better job? would it be improving your health and body? or moving to a better environment? deciding a new career path? going to college? choose the thing that you think would have the biggest impact on your life right now

for the smaller thing, would it be developing a 20 minute moring appearance/grooming/hygeine routine that you do every day for 30 days? or would it be cleaning and organizing your apartment and then setting up a daily system you follow to keep it clean? would it be doing volunteer work once a month to help others? choose something that you think would help you and would also be kinda cool or fun.

let me know what 2 things you choose

thanks again starfly,

sorry for the delayed reply i kinda never really considered what would make the biggest change in my life. I guess I feel Im supposed to get a job but i dont think that would make a change rather i would be something that i would just do - if that makes any sense. However, having some kind of regular routine outside of university would be beneficial and who knows? i could possibly make some new friends there.

Ive thought about voluntering before and ive never felt that passionate about doing it. its something that i just would not normally see myself doing. However the way ive done things hasn't exactly got me far in life so far so maybe its an idea.

I cleaned my whole flat today, (to be hoenst it wasn't that messy) and ive decided that im gonna start a routine that every night before bed and for the first half an hour after i wake up im going to clean. Im gonna try every morning to spend 15 mins on my apperance outside of washing and dressing and maybe ill even write down points to fix. Hopefully if i stick to the plan I can then move on to the next step.

wish me luck

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by Neal2009

thanks again starfly,

sorry for the delayed reply i kinda never really considered what would make the biggest change in my life. I guess I feel Im supposed to get a job but i dont think that would make a change rather i would be something that i would just do - if that makes any sense. However, having some kind of regular routine outside of university would be beneficial and who knows? i could possibly make some new friends there.

Ive thought about voluntering before and ive never felt that passionate about doing it. its something that i just would not normally see myself doing. However the way ive done things hasn't exactly got me far in life so far so maybe its an idea.

I cleaned my whole flat today, (to be hoenst it wasn't that messy) and ive decided that im gonna start a routine that every night before bed and for the first half an hour after i wake up im going to clean. Im gonna try every morning to spend 15 mins on my apperance outside of washing and dressing and maybe ill even write down points to fix. Hopefully if i stick to the plan I can then move on to the next step.

wish me luck

awesome.

for right now I would recommend that you just focus on keeping your apartment clean by following the routine you mentioned for 30 days to make it a habit. make it fun by listening to some music or personal development stuff while cleaning and you could even think about better and smarter ways to clean so that by the end of the 30 days your routine may only take half the time. these are just suggestions though, the main thing is that you stay focused and consistent master this area of your life.

then after that is handles, pick something else for the next 30 days to make a habit and master. maybe your appearance or maybe health/exercise. continue this process and keep building momentum and over time you will become a much improved person

best of luck

[ProjectX]

Originally Posted by stayfly

that's a tough situation.

try and get clear of where you are now and where you want to be in each area of your life

you could use the following Tony Robbins free video, audio, and work book to help jump start this;

The Power of Momentum

that should help you to make a strong plan for improvement in all areas of your life.

do seek professional help if things get worse though

I've watched the video and downloaded the ebook but the audio does not seem to be working for me. I think it has something to do with my resident internet connection? If you have a copy of the file could you upload it? Thanks.

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

I've watched the video and downloaded the ebook but the audio does not seem to be working for me. I think it has something to do with my resident internet connection? If you have a copy of the file could you upload it? Thanks.

here you go;

zSHARE - UPW NYNL Audio.mp3

[ProjectX]

Originally Posted by stayfly

here you go;

zSHARE - UPW NYNL Audio.mp3

thank you.

[magi13]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

My life plan was to get a diploma in community college and then transfer to a university. But now it seems I will be graduating with below a 3.0 GPA, so my hopes and dreams have gone down the drain. Now I feel really like s**t.
I'm suffering from depression and taking medication and seeing a psychiatrist. The reason my grades have suffered so much is me missing so many classes due to my depression.
I feel guilty for wasting my family's money and I just don't know what to do. I really want to get a degree from a university but I don't know how that will happen now. I feel like there is no hope and suicide has come into my mind several times. To make matters worse the economic crisis is coming and I just don't if I could get a job. I feel like a failure for wasting this opportunity and feel like life is treating me badly no matter how hard I try to think positively.

success = desire +technique + luck

just apply this to whatever you plan to achieve.

know your limits, but keep on trying.

I know how you feel and it sucks when we can't perform well. I'm having this trouble also. Luckily I've devised a good technique to figure things out and use it in my studies.

The memory palace <-- search this in google it really helps in memorizing and understanding information you wish to retain.

Also, in reviewing, the things you've memorized, type it in the note pad while reading it allowed.

it helps.

If you choose to work, give it 100 percent always. Only you can decide your life we the forum people can only give you advice, it's your choice to choose.

The responsibility is always in your hands. ^^

GOOD LUCK

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by ProjectX

I feel guilty for wasting my family's money and I just don't know what to do.

Here's what you should know not to do -

screw up your family even worse, by killing yourself.

[ProjectX]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Here's what you should know not to do -

screw up your family even worse, by killing yourself.

I don't know. I think my family resents me. They found out I missed out an entire semester so I got a lot of **** for that.
And now I have to tell them I have to take an extra semester to graduate so I'm not sure how they will react. My GPA is like 2.0 right now and if I got straight As from now on I still can't break the 3.0 barrier. I hate my past, I hate my body. Death seems like a huge relief for me. I sometimes really wish I wasn't born. Everyday I feel anxiety over something and I'm sick of it.

[TropicThink]

I know how you feel. I failed in college too. Know this, though: You'll laugh about it sooner than you think, and wonder how you made it seem like such a big deal. Honest to God. Today I have NO regrets about failing college. I failed. So what.

[The Cloud]

As far as I know, there is no way to directly remove the feeling of anxiety. But feeling anxious doesn't mean anything about you. It doesn't mean that you're a failure, it doesn't mean that there is something to be afraid of, it doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. Your anxiety means absolutely nothing.

My advice would be to stop worrying about how you feel and start doing the things you know you want to do. Yes, you will feel anxious, you will feel all sorts of bad feelings. But since they have nothing real to do with you or anything you are doing, you can operate without their consent. They're just dysfunctional reactions and have no bearing on reality, and you can know the right thing to do without referencing them at all. Stop using your crappy feelings to decide what to do, and start using what you know is right and good for you to make those decisions. It might not make you feel good, but it will be satisfying knowing that you no longer have to be enslaved to that feeling.

[TropicThink]

Originally Posted by The Cloud

As far as I know, there is no way to directly remove the feeling of anxiety.

There are actually several ways. I use the Sedona Method. It works (and it's pretty much made all the other self help stuff redundant - when you find what works you tend to understand what doesn't). I highly recommend it.

[Lauxa]

@Neal2009: "I am lazy" has been a major limiting belief for me as well, but I made some strides in tidyness by using negative affirmations. One basic thing I figured out is that my house was messy because I was not happy. Because whenever I would ask myself "How do I know I am not happy? What would my life look like if I were happy?" a tidy house would be in that picture. And I am not claiming that I now live in a pristine environment, only that there has been a noticable improvement in the last 7 months since I began using this technique and it is pretty easy to do. Here's a link to my thread: Negative affirmations

@ProjectX: Guilt is one of the big distractors that knocks us away from happiness. I have felt a lot of guilt in the past, and dwelt on that guilt. When I was practicing my negative affirmations, I tried looking for the opposite of guilt and it is gratitude. Events happen, but you create the meaning of these events. See if you can feel grateful for your family's support, and even grateful that you have made these mistakes because your biggest success could rise from the ashes of your biggest failure and you don't know whose life you will touch in the future, perhaps someone who is feeling just how you feel now.