Negative Thoughts in Bed

[NickHaslem]

Throughout the day I'm generally pretty happy these days, but when it comes to going to sleep I seem to think a lot about negative things.

These include things about past relationships, things I should have said or going to say when I see people etc etc. It kind of makes me angry a little bit and is keeping me up at night.

Does anyone have any techniques or things I should work on to get past this?

Cheers,

Nick

[RRR]

Are you sleeping alone?

If so
I suggest getting someone to share your bed with. You'll be less worried about how past relationships and friendships are doing when you have someone to snuggle.

Else, if you are sharing your bed..

Honestly try and work on the way you interact with people.

[NickHaslem]

Well I was sharing a bed for the last 2 years, but not anymore. Was also living with the girlfriend before last. Not sure if this is the problem or not, maybe its just the time I start to think about things that are on my mind?

[funchy]

This may sound like a strange question, but are you getting enough exercise? As in at least few days a week you're really active and you get your heart rate up.

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by NickHaslem

Throughout the day I'm generally pretty happy these days, but when it comes to going to sleep I seem to think a lot about negative things.

These include things about past relationships, things I should have said or going to say when I see people etc etc. It kind of makes me angry a little bit and is keeping me up at night.

Does anyone have any techniques or things I should work on to get past this?

Cheers,

Nick

"You did what you knew how to do and when you knew better ,you did better"-Maya Angelou



all of us are imperfect-we have all done something wrong or felt like we should have done more -said more
there are things we regret

acknowledge your hesitation or wrongdoing,feel remorse

but guilt and self-blame are forms of self-punishment and lead to sufferiing

in my opinion there is nothing wrong by keeping the regret but do not use it as a weapon of self-hatred
instead learn from it ,cherish it's lesson and move on
release yourself from self-induced suffering


it's taken me awhile to learn that -while I still regret things I have said or should have said and done in the past
I have learned the lesson and keep it with me and remember it


after all isn't life a learning process

[RRR]

You could take time to daydream, meditate, or think about these things during the day to avoid keeping you awake. Are you taking action on the thoughts? I think if you take the time to understand what you are feeling and put your decisions into action you'll spend your nights thinking about the fun you've had, your great friends, and the fun times you are going to have tomorrow.

[SimonaRich]

Meditation is a great way to get rid of negative thinking.

[Zwynd]

Originally Posted by NickHaslem

These include things about past relationships, things I should have said or going to say when I see people etc etc. It kind of makes me angry a little bit and is keeping me up at night.

Does anyone have any techniques or things I should work on to get past this?

I think I've had exactly what you are experiencing. Firstly, you've made it a habit to stress and such at night. Eliminate it by changing it into a more positive 'habit'.

Jumping straight in to thinking positive thoughts would help, but you may be the type to twist them into negative ones and before you know it you're caught up in the worst case scenarios of your entire past, present and future.

Instead, get a notebook and before you go to bed write down every concern you have. One or two words or even a paragraph each concern. You can now say to yourself that you will deal with the issues in the morning when your brain is much more focused/active.

If you begin worrying about stuff then again remind yourself that everything you will deal with tomorrow has already been written down. If it's a burning issue you'll remember it in the morning anyways, otherwise your fears can [metaphorically speaking] take a number and try again the next night.

Then when you wake up, after you've done all your morning routine which includes setting a positive day based off your beliefs, you deal with those stressing issues. Get them completely done before the afternoon is up or at least begin the appropriate stages to their eventual completion.

If you ignore your list then you'll just get frustrated but if you use it properly then you'll likely find you can rest well at night because you know with a fact you'll be dealing with the issues the next day.

Rest well.

[smith1012]

YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS! Thoughts are external internally, if you know what I mean. They don't define you and you have the choice to grasp the thought or let it float away. It's all about mental discipline. It will be hard at first but the more you train yourself to just accept the negative thoughts that appear in bed and let it float away, the more good you'll begin to feel.

Steve even said it himself. It was difficult for him to muster the attitude of accepting negs for what they are - thoughts. Again thoughts arent you.

hth

[Angela]

Hey, Steve -- you might want to download this My Place - Where everything is free! 10 minute sleep hypnosis mp3, which may help you to allow your thoughts to drift away as you enjoy deep, refreshing sleep every night. I've listened to the script without going into trance, and it's a nice one -- it's all very positive and safe.

Also, I'll be recording one for myself today or tomorrow that specifically has me falling asleep quickly when I trigger my sleep signal and has me sleeping deeply and uninterruptedly for seven hours (with a bailout in case I *need* to wake up) and waking refreshed, alert, and eager to jump out of bed and enjoy the day. If you like, I'd be glad to share it with you.

[TheIronStar]

If it's keeping you awake, try and talk about it with a friend or the like when you have time. I've found it can help.