how do you pick yourself up after being hurt

[jude]

one year ago i went on a quest for truth in my life,everything was good i was motivated, full of energy, then i discovered something that i didnt like, since then my life has been a mess i feel sad and hurt. At the turn of the new year i decided that i have to pull myself together and am struggling to get back on track,deep down i know that i am a strong person and will hack this, but it is very difficult to be positive when you feel that your life has fallen down around you.has anyone got any advise on how to get back on the right path.Thanks

[marty]

YouTube - Famous Failures

"It is not the crtitic who counts,nor the man who points out how the strong man stumbled,or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena ; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood ; who strives valiantly who errs and comes short again and again ; who knows the great enthusiasms,the great devotions ,and spends himself in a worthy cause,who at best,knows in the triumph of high achievement ; and who at the worse, at least falls while daring greatly ; so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat".

Nobility and courage are everything.Spirit and Heart.Thats where true strength comes from.
"....to rejuvenate ourselves is our biggest challenge....I'm never knocked down....I'm either up or getting up....Invincible heart....Fall down seven times,stand up eight."


"Winners are losers who got up and gave it one more try."

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My journeys revealed that the Way itself creates the warrior.

People of mediocre ability sometimes achieve outstanding success because they don't know when to quit.Most people succeed because they are determined to.
YouTube - Michael Jordan "Failure" Nike Commercial

Made of steel.

"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career......
......I've lost almost 300 games......
......26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.....
......I've failed over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed."

---MICHAEL JORDAN-



Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them.

YouTube - Peaceful warrior - Words of wisdom

"I have learned is that there is always someone who's life makes your hard times look like heaven and that there are always ways to find the joy and ecstasy in the mere fact of being alive if you look for it.We are here because we wanted to be. We won the spiritual lottery in order to get here now and take part in these glorious times of transformation. We incarnate beings are the few the proud the lucky."



I hope its not inappropriate to share those but thats generally what I do,is look for inspiration in quotes ,movies , clips etc..I constantly reprogram myself by putting positive stuff in. I don't really understand your question but this speech probably saved my life
YouTube - Al Pacino's Inspirational Speech

and the aspect of it that saved my life was that you've got to fight for every INCH. Thats the only way you can turn anything around.Its all starts with that one inch.

[lifetimelearner]

I love all of that marty

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by jude

one year ago i went on a quest for truth in my life,everything was good i was motivated, full of energy, then i discovered something that i didnt like, since then my life has been a mess i feel sad and hurt. At the turn of the new year i decided that i have to pull myself together and am struggling to get back on track,deep down i know that i am a strong person and will hack this, but it is very difficult to be positive when you feel that your life has fallen down around you.has anyone got any advise on how to get back on the right path.Thanks

was it something about yourself that you didn't like ?

[jude]

it was something about my husbands past. But it made me realise how niave i have been

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by jude

it was something about my husbands past. But it made me realise how niave i have been

oh I know what you mean

I was in a similar situation although the content is probably different-
if I had known about my ex's past I would have never married him

[marty]

"However, experience is such that you may just learn that you made a mistake with someone, but it's not be the end of the world, just part of the process."

"Every experience in your life is there to grow you up;to teach you;to enhance you;to build on yourself."-Oprah.

I hope you get back on track soon. You sound like a good egg.

[jude]

thanks for all your help . Ithink that this whole situation has left me feeling unfullfilled with my relationship . The thing is i know that we love each other very much, so i guess that is what i will have to work on .When we are together everything is great but when we are parted i go to pieces.

[WRX AJT]

Thomas Edison stated "I haven't failed yet...I've just found 1000 ways that didn't work!"

Just remember that FAILURE LEADS TO SUCCESS!

Remember when Tiger Woods was amazing, and all of the sudden he went into a major slump? He changed his swing, and the result was going into a slump. He had to fail before he could return to being amazing.

"The night is always darkest just before the dawn."

[SimonaRich]

You should try to get more involved involved in your hobbies and separate yourself from negativity (such as negative people, surroundings and events).

If you cannot distance yourself from bad influences, just try to focus on any good thing that comes into your life. Try to find good aspects in every situation.

This way your mind will not absorb any negativity and so only positive things will manifest in your life.

[MartialDev]

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
Without ever having felt sorry for itself.

-- D.H. Lawrence

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by MartialDev

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
Without ever having felt sorry for itself.

-- D.H. Lawrence

that's a nice quote but sometimes in whining/feeling sorry for ourselves
we are just reaching out to another human being

[CoachIyabo]

Every experience in your life is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and make peace with yourself, no matter how painful the situation is.

You said it was about your husband and you found something out that you did not want to know about. Why not? No matter who your husband is, or what he has done, is it not better to know him for who he is? Rather than what you imagine? How can you extend grace to yourself and your husband during this growth spurt of yours?

Holding you in the place of love and grace.....