Y I am so sensitive?

[Positivegal]

HI Smartlites,

I get depressed for very small things however positive I want to look at them..sometimes I feel I am obssessed with them and keep on thinking for days and days..I am unable to overcome them..

PG

[Annabelle]

I am just like that. Or was, at least. As I became older, that trait became less and less apparent. But I still do obsess sometimes. I try not to fight it until, at some point, I become sick of my own thoughts. Then I move to a new subject...

[Chris Cade]

Originally Posted by Positivegal

HI Smartlites,

I get depressed for very small things however positive I want to look at them..sometimes I feel I am obssessed with them and keep on thinking for days and days..I am unable to overcome them..

PG

What was your childhood like?

Often the answers to our most pressing questions today can be found in our experiences of growing up... in looking at the things we learned from our family (both consciously and unconsciously) and similar early childhood influences.

[Jay Pavlina]

Yeah, I believe something like that could be caused by being criticized a lot by your parents when growing up. I have had a fear of rejection for a long time, and I believe something that contributed is that my Dad didn't give me too many compliments growing up. I grew up seeking his approval, and then I seeked the same approval in others. I still do it, but I'm conscious of it when it happens, so I can continue to improve.

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by Positivegal

HI Smartlites,

I get depressed for very small things however positive I want to look at them..sometimes I feel I am obssessed with them and keep on thinking for days and days..I am unable to overcome them..

PG

You can do two things; 1) Start being grateful for what you do have in your life and 2) When something bad happens, compare it to something much worse and then suddenly it won't seem so bad. Afterwards, go back to doing item 1.

[CroMagna]

Can you give me an example of the things you obsess over?

[Positivegal]

Thank you Annabelle,Chris Cade,Jay Pavlina,TonyToneTone,CroMagna for stepping in and took time for penning down..

As I can see most of you pointed how my childhood was??

Yes,I had a very bad treatment from my mom who always wants me to be UNO in everyhting for that she can go to any extent and used to correct me all the time ..In that context I felt like I can never a do a right thing...I feel that I had developed an inferiority complex among my cousins where I can evryone praised them a lot in all aspects..

Cromagna..For example..If I cannot write an exam properly then that losts with me for days and weeks and consequenlty I fail to write the other exams properly ..this is happening from last 5 to 6 yrs.. continuosly..So, If my first exam goes well then that feeling remains with me and writes second well if it wasnt then the negative feeling of my failing the exam remains with me and continue to think ,rethink of which makes poor performance in the consecutive exams..

ANyhting in my life I needs to be perfect and to an extreeme level..if not I get depressed..and I am getting obssessed to it day by day.

PG.

[TonyToneTone]

Hey PG!

Thanks for your honesty and for sharing with us.

I would start using affirmations to heal this part of your life.

Tell yourself:
I love myself. (the more you love yourself the less you will require perfection from yourself)
I accept and love myself unconditionally for who I am.
I am great.
I am beautiful.
I do the best I can and that is all anyone can ask of me.
I cherish and bless how I am
I deserve and receive the best life has to offer.

Add in whatever else you would like. Say these to yourself for AT LEAST 30 days straight. You have to break this longstanding habitual pattern of thinking. Anytime something negative comes up say for instance you did bad on a test, tell yourself something good. "I did the best job I could. I put forth my best and that is all I can ask of me. I love myself. I am great." which you are!

[bluedragon]

Go and play (in whatever form of play you fancy). A non-competitive sport. Dancing. Jumping around the house.
Psychology can only help you up to a point. If your depression is caused by your thoughts. A competent therapist is totally different (and better) than talking to a caring friend. I've tried it. They are (or should be) highly trained professionals who know what they're doing.
However, if your depression seems to be coming out of nowhere, it won't help, as it is caused by an energetic imbalance. Try a natural remedy like Bach Flower. Also drink a glass of water with half a lemon squeezed in it every morning and every evening, as well as Saint John's Wort tea. This tea is supposed to be very effective against depression even by mainstream psychiatrists. Doctors also agree that it helps the liver, and incidentally, in Chinese medicine, the liver is responsible for feeling depressed and not enjoy living. That is why it is called "liver". I'll come back with more info later.

[Savage]

Too little power relative to your love and truth alignment. You see what needs to be done but feel powerless to do anything about it. That's a fixable problem. You just need to build your power. See Chapter 3.

[amixa]

ahhh.

i understand completely. its hard to break this, i know. i even recall seeing on the news that people who grow up with parents who teach their children to be perfectionists are more prone to depression because we are taught that we aren't worth enough until we do perfect in everything.

if your mom still treats you this way perhaps is it possible to talk with her the next time she gives you a hard time for not getting perfect to tell her you really tried your best?

even if she doesn't listen, you have to know yourself and know that your best is enough for YOU. Its hard because its ingrained into your system but keep trying and eventually you'll break it. You are always good enough even if you fail a test. Not that you shouldn't try and do your best but if it happens its not the end of the world.
and if your mother continues as long as you can keep yourself strong inside then you will be fine. if not, well.. i don't want to encourage you to fight with your mom or anything but sometimes if people are pushing you too much you have to draw a line somewhere to make them know they're stepping over it. its important you stand up for yourself.