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garentee · 12-10-2008, 07:40 PM

Is it better to forgive yourself for allowing something to happen to you? or is it better to forgive the person who did it to you? I feel like I have to do both, but I am trying to figure out if I would be better off forgiving myself first.

funchy · 12-10-2008, 09:55 PM

You can't force forgiveness. Either you're ready to forgive or you're not. Maybe you're just not there yet, hence your indecision?

garentee · 12-10-2008, 11:50 PM

Its not that I am not ready... I was thinking about it most the day and wanted to see a little opinion... I just had a great conversation with a friend and it was a pretty major type of conversation that touched on a few things that I need to forgive myself for, and at one point I just got my answer.. I have to forgive myself first... I let a lot of things happen... and I will forgive myself for them. Thanks .G

WordKeeper · 12-11-2008, 03:28 AM

I am glad you figured out the answer you needed. It is an interesting question but I don't believe there is any ONE universal answer to your question. All the more reason your own answer is the best one.

Gene · 12-14-2008, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by garentee

Is it better to forgive yourself for allowing something to happen to you? or is it better to forgive the person who did it to you? I feel like I have to do both, but I am trying to figure out if I would be better off forgiving myself first.

First accept the reality as it is/was then forgiveness will follow.

12-10-2008, 07:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
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12-10-2008, 09:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
funchy Family Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: east coast, USA Posts: 1,628	You can't force forgiveness. Either you're ready to forgive or you're not. Maybe you're just not there yet, hence your indecision?

12-10-2008, 11:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
garentee Family Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: NEW ENGLAND!!!!!!! Posts: 1,701	Its not that I am not ready... I was thinking about it most the day and wanted to see a little opinion... I just had a great conversation with a friend and it was a pretty major type of conversation that touched on a few things that I need to forgive myself for, and at one point I just got my answer.. I have to forgive myself first... I let a lot of things happen... and I will forgive myself for them. Thanks .G

12-11-2008, 03:28 AM	#4 (permalink)
WordKeeper Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 814	I am glad you figured out the answer you needed. It is an interesting question but I don't believe there is any ONE universal answer to your question. All the more reason your own answer is the best one.

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