Trying my hardest

[klemast86]

I consider myself a very caring person. I always tell myself never to judge others, to listen to people when they talk to me, and to be as nice as possible at all times. Yet, I find myself not doing this and when they tell me their opinions, I sometimes assume automatically that they are wrong and shut my listening down to think of how I will argue with them. I think I am realizing that I always think I am right and I cannot just sit back and listen to others. I am making myself sound worse than I am but I guess I just want to know if there is anything I can do to change my perception. I think making myself aware of what I am doing is the first step but I cannot really get past that. I am a pretty busy person between taking classes and exercising, along with the other activities of life. I have a very big family but am not around people all of the time like I used to be since I am away at college now. I included these last details in case they had anything to do with my viewpoints. I am just hoping to be a non-judgemental all-caring guy. Not as in acting but in a genuine way. I hope this makes sense to all of you.

[spookie149]

I think this thread would cover a lot of info on this subject:
the need to be always right.

[klemast86]

thanks very much spookie, that does help

[spookie149]

No problem!

[Natalie Rachel]

Go to the following link to learn how to effectively apply the 5 step process below. I really think it can help you to take the 'driver's seat' with your own thoughts:
1) CIRCUMSTANCE (things that happen in the world. Facts.)
can trigger your
2) THOUGHTS (things that happen in your mind.)
that cause your
3) FEELINGS (vibrations that happenin your body caused by your thought, NOT your circumstances...distinquish fact from the false).
that cause your
4) ACTIONS (behavior-what we do in the world. Caused by feeling determined by thought.
that cause the
5) RESULTS you see in your life. (what we see in the world (our lives) as an effect of our actions. The result is will always see to be evidence of the original thought (#2) that's the cause of your 'unpleasant' state.

[http://www.brookecastillo.com/self_coaching.html[/URL]


(free PDF download of the questions above and a free hour lesson on how to apply these steps effectively. Let me know if it helps you out...it should. I found it very helpful in managing my own negative thoughts & limiting belief systems.
-Natalie Rachel