Feelings

[catalyst]

Is it better to feel pain and sorrow than to feel anything at all?

I don't why I linger on the past, and the memories of a certain person. I want to let go, yet I always end up at the same place. I know tomorrow I'll wake up wondering why I wrote this post. On that rare occasion, I'll feel content, but in most occasions I feel empty inside. Cheap thrills. There are moments where I think it's all worthwhile...

Once you lose what really matters to you, there is no more fear. Nothing more to lose. Just anguish over the sand that slipped through your fingers.

[PetraPortland]

Hi Catalyst - I think it is healthy to allow yourself to feel whatever feelings you feel - rather than supress them. Our emotions are a sliding scale - are you able to reach for a better feeling emotion - one that is close to what you are feeling but that feels a tiny bit better? Baby steps work for me. Petra X

[Daphne Lim]

Catalyst, I'm sorry. Sometimes only time can heal, and that old Father Time is a real slow worker! Just take one day, one hour at a time.

[jtracy]

I agree with PetraPortland, that you don't want to suppress your feelings. God gave us pain and sorrow for a reason. Don't fight against these emotions, use them. The best thing to do is to feel them, accept them, and process them. You need to search for any thought that allows you to feel even a tiny bit better. There is nothing out there that is so bad that it's impossible to feel any better about it. There's always something if you really search. Keep taking those baby steps and you'll start to feel better and better. Depression is a terrible thing. I know, I've lived with it for a very long time.

"Once you lose what really matters to you, there is no more fear. Nothing more to lose." Actually, I don't know how true this is with relationships (probably because you can't lose all of them), but apparently what happens with people who lose all their money is that as soon as they have absolutely nothing left to lose, as soon as there is no more fear of loss, then they quickly start to make money again, often much more than they lost in the first place. Having no more fear is perhaps the best thing that could happen to us.

P.S. If you are upset about a person who has died, you may try thinking about how they would much rather see you feeling good, than being so upset about them. You may try thinking about all the good things you could do out in the community to honor their memory.

[NyraSponge]

Originally Posted by catalyst

Is it better to feel pain and sorrow than to feel anything at all?

I don't why I linger on the past, and the memories of a certain person. I want to let go, yet I always end up at the same place. I know tomorrow I'll wake up wondering why I wrote this post. On that rare occasion, I'll feel content, but in most occasions I feel empty inside. Cheap thrills. There are moments where I think it's all worthwhile...

Once you lose what really matters to you, there is no more fear. Nothing more to lose. Just anguish over the sand that slipped through your fingers.

It is better to endure. It is painful, but without pain we would not know when we hurt. You will heal, yes there will be scars, and you may not even notice them.
I have been there, i still am. Lingering in the past, when i live in the present, it feels like there is no present and no past, because i have not moved past it.

If you don't move forward there is not future and no past. Just in the same transition.

Empty, i felt empty and lonely till i found this forum association. now i dont because i know i am not the alone one who feels and thinks the way i do.

Now i can relate and help others all the while getting help from the others as well. From my experience in this, i can only grow as a person, instead shriveling.

[Trey Baird]

I've been through some time periods of pain before. My best advice is to move forward with your life, and embrace that which makes you happier than you currently are. Don't let these things bring you shame, no matter what they are, for they will point out the path that you should follow.

Also think of it like this. You experience life in eras. Apparently, you came to the end of an era that you thought would last longer. Rejoice in the era, instead of mourning it. Look back fondly, and look forward to your next era so that you can learn to appreciate it.