Ok thats it I gotta get out.

[EnduranceNinja]

Yes, I work in a hostile and life draining enviroment. I have said this over and over in the past. The problem is I honestly feel I am stuck in it. My wife requires lifesaving meds that my job benefits which is the only good part of the job pays for. The meds normally cost over 1000$ I have had replies like are you sure your wife needs these pills? Whether you believe in modern medicine or not yes, she needs these meds and they are working for her.

Does anyone know of programs that might pay for precsriptions? I am trying to seek free health insurance so I can quit my job but so far nothing. Some of these people I dealt with in these programs look at me funny since I have great health insurance already they suggest I stick with my job. Of course these people do not understand. Since the economy is bad many programs in my state are cutting back. Any idea would be great. Sorry to complain but I had a bad day at work so i am kinda in venting mode right now. I should be happy that at least I am trying to do something instead of just taking it.

Thanks

[ar81]

Go to Costa Rica, health system is far better and cheaper than in US.

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by EnduranceNinja

Yes, I work in a hostile and life draining enviroment.

Have you ever considered changing your environment?

I don't mean moving to a new environment. I mean changing your current environment, transforming it such that it ceases to be hostile and life-draining.

Don't underestimate your abilities, my friend.

[sk8joyful]

Originally Posted by EnduranceNinja

Yes, I work in a hostile and life draining enviroment.

My wife requires lifesaving meds

Any idea would be great.

Thanks

Can you change yourself, in your work environment, such that it is friendly, & life-giving...

Can (without depending on those meds), your wife learn to live...

Two ideas worth exploring...

[EnduranceNinja]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I am going to try to get out of the department I am currently in. My co-workers I feel are a big reason why it is so hard to be at work.

Yes, I could try to be nice and all which I feel I am kinda neutral attitude right now. But my co-workers are great at using kindness of others to their personal advantage. Gosh, even I find myself doing the same at times.

Well back to my solution I have some other departments I can work in possibly. That might fix most of my problems and would be a change of work, enviroment and co-workers.

Thanks again.

[ar81]

In a war situation you first need a cease of fire.
Cease of fire does not mean peace.
But it is a beginning.

I bet that once you have learned to manage your emotions, you will have an environment where you get paid well and treated very nicely.

[ar81]

Originally Posted by EnduranceNinja

My wife requires lifesaving meds that my job benefits which is the only good part of the job pays for. The meds normally cost over 1000$

In Costa Rica you can make a decent living with $1000 a month.
$300 of food, $500 rent, $200 for other expenses in the capital city.
The government health insurance is about 15% of your reported income, and it covers almost all health problems except for very complex and hi-tech surgery.

[Dan.Linehan]

I think AR81 makes a good point. Moving can really change things, not all places are equal.

Moving from Ohio to the Bay Area was definitely a good choice for me. There is a much more progressive mind-set here, and it's a much happier, fitter place. More fun here all around.

[Akashic_Librarian]

Move to the UK it's FREE. No costs whatsoever, that is if NICE (National Institute for clinical excellence) have passed it as "safe".

Believe me...the UK health system is for better for rthese types of things, of course if you want to see a doctor you need to book about two weeks in advance...

[MariaG]

@EnduranceNinja - many of the drug companies have discount programs that provide free or low cost drugs to low income people. However, the bar is pretty low for many of these.

The major pharmacies all offer discount programs - mostly on generic drugs. These are both options you may want to check out if you feel that you have to leave your job quickly.

If I were in your situation, I would probably try to find a new job with health insurance unless you have a solid business plan.

I'll send some positive energy your way for a great resolution for you and your wife.

[Calvan]

For me, its a natural ability/talent to separate work from life. For the most part I really can leave work at work. it sounds like maybe its not so easy for you to do. Have you tried looking into techniques or therapies or something that might help you leave your work life at the office?

[ar81]

Originally Posted by Akashic_Librarian

Move to the UK it's FREE. No costs whatsoever, that is if NICE (National Institute for clinical excellence) have passed it as "safe".

Believe me...the UK health system is for better for rthese types of things, of course if you want to see a doctor you need to book about two weeks in advance...

Costa Rica is cheaper than UK for making a living. However UK system is more advanced in many aspects of its organization.
UK, Costa Rica, Canada and New Zeland have the most advanced health systems in the world in terms of welfare for population (low cost and accesibility).

Canadian system is going down as we speak, because it is imitating US model...

Costa Rica is not so distant from US.

If it is about moving to another company, look in the yellow pages and apply for a job, even if they do not have vacancies yet.

[EnduranceNinja]

Thanks again guys for the advice.

I am not putting down moving as a matter of fact it does sound exciting, but that would be very hard on my family. But, again I will consider it.

I think it could also be a stress issue for me. I am even finding I am hating the customers I deal with. I keep a smile on the outside yet inside I am feeling different with many of them. I am also thining of going back to school too. If anything I am going to make an effort to do something about this. This makes me feel better trying to do something then just dealing with it.

[ar81]

Changes in your life bring stress.
So be sure about what steps you take and what you can withstand.

Customers...
I have had to deal with it.

If they are tough (the ones that look like ) and they are always negative, I try to service them as fast and effective as possible to get rid of them without incident. They do not know who I am, and I try them not to remember me. I do not take it personal. If I do I will refute or demand him to behave, and that would make him to remember me.

Why should you have to ruin your day for a customer who will not remember you?

In the other side, there is another kind of customer. If they complain for some problem they had with the company, they feel fear that is expressed as anger. So I let them scream and vent, and never oppose or refute. When fuel of anger is depleted, I say things to lower fear and then start to talk like humans. I "apologize for the inconvenience", I do not "apologize for other people's mistakes" since I do not know if things were a mistake without doing some research.
In the end these scared customers are the most loyal, and they end up apologizing at some point.

If you move to Costa Rica, I could provide some tips to adapt to the new country.

There is a storm outside. Does it need to rain inside of you?
It looks to me that people at your workplace need some mental health.

[InterfaceLeader]

Originally Posted by Akashic_Librarian

Move to the UK it's FREE. No costs whatsoever, that is if NICE (National Institute for clinical excellence) have passed it as "safe".

Believe me...the UK health system is for better for rthese types of things, of course if you want to see a doctor you need to book about two weeks in advance...

They don't, however, let people from outside the EU use it. Even ones with work visas.

It takes two years minimum to become a UK citizen, and that's assuming you have a valid enough reason for moving to the country anyway.

Moving to another country doesn't guarantee you access to the rights that the citizens of that country enjoy.

[funchy]

Your frustration is understandable. It's admirable you're sticking with a job you hate to give your family what it needs. Bless you.

Maybe you just need somewhere to vent? It's probably hard to say too much at home because your wife may realize how much you're going through and she may feel bad.

I don't believe it's your wife's fault for needing the drugs. Some problems can't be cured with positive thinking or vitamins.

I don't think quitting (or moving to a foreign country) solves everything. You may find the job atmosphere to be unpleasant other places. Unfriendly workplaces are unfortunately all too common. You also can't assume that the expensive drug is available in another place, either. Can you imagine moving to another country to find out they don't provide the drug or consider it too "experimental"?

For the time being, try to make the best of this. Perhaps apply to a transfer to a different department or location? I know the job market is bad right now, but it can't hurt to send out a few resumes anyway.

Maybe some time off is in order? When was the last time you took a good vacation from your job?

And in the meantime, you have friends here, if you ever just need to vent your frustrations to someone. Hang in there! Things will improve.