I faced my fear and changed my life...

[Tabs]

I have no mind blowing solution to facing your fear, except I had come to the end of my rope and said enough is enough. When do you think you have had enough and decide to take charge of your life and start really living?

I did that this summer, when the worst thing that could happen happened and I was still standing. Wow, talk about empowering.

Looking back I realize I had wasted so much time being afraid to stick my head out, I don't know if it is the current situation we all find ourselves with the economy, the elections, etc, but I find not going out and doing all you can to get what you want is a complete waste of a life or should I say time (same thing don't you think).

I wrote a post about facing my fear when I was going through it this summer maybe it will help someone else: 3 Steps to facing your fear I think I am paraphrasing but you get the gist.

I will tell you what has changed though, I walk down the street with a lot more confidence, I know myself and what I can and can not do. I know what I want and what I do not want. I don't fear the word No, and if you don't like me well, that is your loss. Talk about liberating.

I was on the treadmill today and my favorite "angry person song" came on, I mean that song that prepares you for war and a thought rang in my head, "I am not angry about anything or with anyone anymore." As of today, the song is now just a great workout song.

Sorry for the rant and thanks for listening, it is always fun to know there is an outlet.

Later folks,
-Tabs

[Throwback24]

I am very happy for you, I wish I was doing something in life.

[viscapes]

Inspiring words Tabs, thanks for posting!

[garentee]

Thats really awesome! Facing your fears and moving through them and even making friends with them is really incredible. Thanks for sharing g

[ar81]

I challenge my fears when I get bored of them.
And I am ruthless when it is about challenging myself.

I was afraid of height and then I went to a canopy tour where I was 150 meters above ground. That's aboslutely scary!! I could feel my own panic the night before, it was an entire night of "what if". But I passed.

[Calvan]

Originally Posted by Throwback24

I am very happy for you, I wish I was doing something in life.

Go do something. Now.

[ProjectX]

Thanks for opening my eyes. Before reading this I used to believe that I was over fear. That I had it handled and I was above that. Now I know that it is still a heavy burden. My life is littered with fear due to the environment I was brought up on (financial, relationship, religion). This feels almost like an epiphany. I really have to face my fears before I can move on to bigger things.

[Tabs]

ProjectX
Your words almost brought tears to my eyes, I know exactly what you are talking about because I lived it everyday, it is the trapped feeling that is the trap nothing else. Believe me, it is something that you work on everyday, but when you release your fear working on it does seem as hard or scary to face the world and I just say, I am going to do this.

I have wasted a lot of time, I know the lessons had to be learned and if that was the sacrifice to get here then I am willing to pay the price, though I still wish I had paid it ten years ago.

When you narrow down your fear to the lowest common denominator, realize what the common factor is, then you know what you need to focus on taking care of.

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Thanks everyone for your kind words and sharing your story, you are all in my thoughts. See you around.

-Tabs

[ellie]

Hmmm your post on here resonated with me more than the one on your blog - it made me feel excited. For me, you blog post didn't give enough examples. I would of far more enjoyed it to hear "your" story and how you overcame you fears than generalizing. I would of liked to hear your "mind blowing experience" over the holidays!

[Tabs]

Hello Ellie, thanks for your response, about the Blog post I tend to write the Blogs as a way of working out something that going on in my life, it is a sort of instruction manual for my life, kind of saying, “do this to solve this issue.” I wrote the post on my Blog this summer (early August) and I guess this forum post is a result of following those steps. I had to read the post again and looking at the list I am thinking, “that is what I did to get here.”

One of my big fears was the internet itself, I feel like a prairie dog when it comes to the internet, I stick my head out just so far, it has taken me 4 years to put my picture online and you have to see the picture to understand what I am talking about. For me that was taking a big, big step, in a month I will be beaming with a full face picture, one step at a time.

There was a lot of baggage and the “3-step” post was first step to unloading, so in answering your question, there was no story back then, your words I have taken to heart and when my “mind blowing experience” becomes a story, you know with a beginning, middle and an end” I will find you online and share happily. Right now I think I am in the middle, I want to see what I do with this newly found freedom, so far I am happy with the outcome, but there is more to do.

See you around E.

Tabs

[aha]

Inspiring post! More often, the best way to do away with your fear is to face that fear.

[sk8joyful]

Originally Posted by Tabs

Looking back I realize I had wasted so much time being afraid to stick my head out.
I wrote a post about facing my fear when I was going through it this summer maybe it will help someone else: 3 Steps to facing your fear I think I am paraphrasing but you get the gist.

I will tell you what has changed though, I walk down the street with a lot more confidence, I know myself and what I can and can not do. I know what I want and what I do not want. I don't fear the word No, and if you don't like me well, that is your loss. Talk about liberating.

thanks for listening, it is always fun to know there is an outlet.

Later folks,
-Tabs

Good for you!

[Kate Saltfleet]

Has anyone read any of Susan Jeffers' books on fear? I find her an inspirational writer and teacher, if you are interested and would like to know more, please have a look at my recent post Heroes of Healing: Susan Jeffers.

[bbdream8]

Nice post you got there, Tabs

I have written an article on overcoming fear too. The article is filled with quotes that we can learn to overcome fear. You guys can read it here.

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger