When depressed or in bad situation, read this :)

[mncz]

I was looking through the posts here and seeing a lot of people going through very bad situations. So I thought I want to post this for all of you currently in the middle of a life lesson that causes you pain.

Six months ago I was one of you. I was depressed, sad, scared and my life was breaking all up once again. The events that happened at the time were a serious wake up call. I started working with myself. Understanding, loving, analysing, releasing my past, creating a life that I actually would want to live, conquering my fears, one at a time. Getting back to my core values: truth, love, inner strength. Bit by bit I added meditation, trusting my inner self, creating joy in everyday life and other things.

At first the changes seemed small. I mean, at any given day I would not say that I have made any progress at all, compared to previous days or weeks. But there was no harm in trying to help myself, and it felt good. And today I realised how far I have come, and how wonderful it is. Today not feeling good feels unnatural to me Six months ago feeling good felt unnatural.

So I want to share this with all of you: no matter how hard it is where you are now, you can make it out to light and happiness, one step at a time. Trust yourself. Put faith in what you believed when you were still young and had dreams. Believe that universe always always loves you. There are no shortcuts to instant happiness, but there sure is a way.

<3 all

[Matt Willard]

Hey, man, I'm in the same boat here (the good one, not a bad one). Things aren't perfect yet but I'm way better off now than what I used to be. I don't feel good every day yet, but at least I'm on the right track.

[Jcs]

Another person, the same boat.

I love each and everyone of you ^^. Got loads of support from all of you guys and I thank you all for it. I really appreciated life more now. So in a weird way I'm grateful for my dark times.

These forums, among other things, really helped me.

[supertom]

i need to work on my inner-strength, my mum puts me down all the time, i asked her to name 3 positive things about me and she couldnt name one, that was a wake up call to me, but what she says about me still effects me greatly for some reason. Also sucks being a only child, everything is focused on you.

[jenlili]

For some reason I'm weepy today. So I found this thread really touching. So kind and encouraging. But, mncz, did you do this on your own? Like just by reading self-help and personal development information and joining this forum, or did you get professional help, or even nonprofessional but help from another person?

I just recently read Steve's blog on levels of consciousness, and think it might help to know where I am in order to figure out how to get where I want to go. So I need to reflect and contemplate some more, though lately I'm sick of introspection and tired of myself.

I've been "depressed" for years. I've always sort of thought of it as a misdiagnosis. But I haven't read the blog on self acceptance vs personal growth. I suspect there's something there that I need to know.

[seeker5]

Thanks mncz

Originally Posted by mncz

II started working with myself. Understanding, loving, analysing, releasing my past, creating a life that I actually would want to live, conquering my fears, one at a time. Getting back to my core values: truth, love, inner strength. Bit by bit I added meditation, trusting my inner self, creating joy in everyday life and other things.

Would you be willing to share how you went about doing all of that? How did you release your past, how did you go about creating your life? How did you analyze?

[mncz]

Originally Posted by seeker5

Thanks mncz

Would you be willing to share how you went about doing all of that? How did you release your past, how did you go about creating your life? How did you analyze?

I was put in a life situation that forced me to think. I found this site. From then I never really stopped thinking I let myself to trust and follow my heart. I accepted responsibility for my own life. More and more I tried to understand why I am presented with my current circumstances. I learned to forgive and I consider that to be one of my greatest achievements, because it allowed me to release all thoughts that I had about my past and past events that would emotionally torture me. I would forgive the people who did these things to me. I would forgive myself for allowing them to happen. I would ask forgiveness to my body for keeping this negativity inside it for so long and the negativity for bounding it to myself. It also allows me to forgive any negativity that appears in my mind or reality at any moment. I read some good books. Whenever I was presented with negativity, after resisting it for a while (letting go of the habit of panic, intense fear and crying is not that easy ) I tried to understand what in me has attached it to me. I have a natural curiousity about "how life works", so I did not mind exploring just about anything there is about myself. I don't mind discovering that I have negative thoughts, beliefs and habits inside my mind. Every day after waking up, even if I wake up in not a splendid mood, I would say myself: smile, life is good. That is one of my first conscious thoughts every morning and one that follows me throughout the day.

This is what my life consists of now: putting conscious effort into understanding, loving, being joyful and at peace. Living now. Every day I feel these things a little bit more intense. Every day I gain new insights in my inner world. Every day I learn something new and I consider it awesome.

I also find this forum a very empowering place to read and communicate, since some of the thoughts and problems presented here help me understand more about how things work, and I am grateful for it, as well as the chance to offer some advice to people who are presented with some of the problems or questions that I have been going through in this time.