Why it happens that u want something badly, but later that doesn't mean anything to u

[mazhar]

It happens that sometime u think u just can't live without something,
But after a while, u get it or not, u have it or not,
That thing just has no meaning to u.
Why do u think it happens?
what is the human emotional pattern behind this?
how someone can judge that a specific thing he/she wants is for real or just another short-time craze?

[martin]

It seems in society we are so focused upon "things" to make us happy, which is just a gimmick. Our egos are never satisfied and are always wanting more.

I think the key to getting beyond dependency on materialistic things is to focus on something that can't be touched... something that isn't material! Do you know your purpose in life? What do you like to do? How would you like to make a difference in the world?

Once you have questions like that answered, your perception of the materialistic things change. You realize they are fun, you enjoy them on a daily basis, but you don't need them to be happy.

There's more to life than your next quick-fix. If we know who we are, and what we truly want, we will go far and transcend this problem altogether.

[The Cloud]

Haha, I know exactly what you're talking about. You want something badly, but as soon as you go about trying to get it you stop really caring. Instead of being based in true desire, it was just based in an elusory and illusionary need. So it becomes hard to trust what you want, because you don't know if it's really what you want or if it's just a compulsive desire.

As far as I know, the only way to deal with this is to get at the root of the compulsion. You have a deep-seated insecurity, and that insecurity is what is spawning the evanescent need. What insecurity do you think your need is trying to satisfy?

[Alexjstrandberg]

Ego. The ego makes you think that you just can't live without something and you absolutely need something but once you get it no is only enjoyable for a little while. The ego kills off the enjoyment of it because it needs you to move onto the next thing that you just can't live without and the next and the next- it has an endless list of wants, desires and needs. It's simply a distraction to keep you from ever being truly happy.

This is the reason why people who have everything they could ever want are miserable. The ego tricks you into thinking that once you have that job, car, lover etc that you will be happy. It wants you to look outside of yourself for happiness because it knows happiness will never come from the external ; )

[mazhar]

Thanks for ur such insightful replies.

Well, if this "EGO" is the devil, then how one can overcome it?
How to change the point of view to internal?

[Jarrod]

The emotional pattern is the emotion itself.

Before you can change you have to be able to step away from it. Step back and observe the thoughts/emotions that want, just look at them.

While you watch it has no hold on you.

[Ceros]

Heh, had that happen to me once. I wanted a PDA quite badly and ended up deceiving my mother to get it. Though once I did, the excitement faded away almost instantly and I never really used it for anything.

Right now I'm saving up for a new laptop though, and I'm worried that the same might happen and I'll just realize that it was another impulsive buy.

[mazhar]

I'm not talking only about materialistic things,
i'm also cancern about immaterialistic things....Like a relationship or particular achievement on some field or a recognition.
This also happens u like someone very much but u get him/her or not, then u can't even tollerate him/her,
U want to be among the best in a field, u give ur everything for it, after a while u got it or not, u say to ur self i don't care about it at all.

[martin]

Originally Posted by mazhar

I'm not talking only about materialistic things,
i'm also cancern about immaterialistic things....Like a relationship or particular achievement on some field or a recognition.
This also happens u like someone very much but u get him/her or not, then u can't even tollerate him/her,
U want to be among the best in a field, u give ur everything for it, after a while u got it or not, u say to ur self i don't care about it at all.

Ask yourself why you want it in the first place. If it's for status or approval of other people, then it definitely goes in the same category as materialistic things. Also, we tend to build things up in our head and when we actually have them we realize that they weren't what were built up to be. We tend to fantasize and make an unrealistic expectation. This leads to feeling disappointed.

[Trezker]

I think wanting stuff is just like craving sugar.

When you're on a bad diet you crave sugar, when you're on the wrong path in life you crave stuff.

[Alexjstrandberg]

Originally Posted by mazhar

Thanks for ur such insightful replies.

Well, if this "EGO" is the devil, then how one can overcome it?
How to change the point of view to internal?

Ego isn't the devil, "wrong" or evil-those thoughts and judgments are the ego.

You don't change the ego's view of the world or your thoughts. You can change the way that you perceive the world through awareness and compassion but until you are enlightened the ego will always have something negative to say about everything.

The key is to become aware of your thoughts and become the watcher of those thoughts. Become the silent witness while not engaging in or judging them.

[Alexjstrandberg]

Originally Posted by mazhar

I'm not talking only about materialistic things,
i'm also cancern about immaterialistic things....Like a relationship or particular achievement on some field or a recognition.
This also happens u like someone very much but u get him/her or not, then u can't even tollerate him/her,
U want to be among the best in a field, u give ur everything for it, after a while u got it or not, u say to ur self i don't care about it at all.

material or not, it's still the ego. Steve's article on self acceptance vs personal growth would be really helpful to your question (it's under the best of on his blog)