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| Banned Join Date: Nov 2006
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How I switched to this new state was by going through the process I described in the post (thanks for responding, by the way; I was looking forward to hearing how you would respond). And how I got to that point was through my own coaching: I noticed who I was being (putting my boss's and his family's well-being ahead of my own, and being resentful and deadened) and looking to find the earliest incident I could find in my memory of feeling that feeling. I had some blocks up in my memory about it, which makes sense, cuz if I'm second rate, I'm not going to be very effective at my own coaching, am I? And it's really being with the impact of believing that thought that has a new inspiring possibility arise. As anyone I've coached will tell you, it's especially seeing the impact you have had on the people you care about that is really the ashes out which the phoenix emerges. People are stunned to realize that what they are really up to in their relationships (their old pain decisions) is working at cross-purposes to what they really desire in their relationships. And also to look around at how pervasive your old pain decision is in every area of your life -- it's astonishing how a thought in a little child's head is running our lives. | |
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Have you ever considered doing some writing outside of this forum, Bob? I think you have a great way of putting things. | |
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| Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008
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I have to tell you that I feel closer to a real awakening than I have in quite a while just from what you said. And my apologies, I didn't mean to have you repeat yourself. The first answer was good enough | |
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| Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Texas, USA
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Hey, niche, just this morning my boyfriend and I were in the car on the way to work and he saw a Maseratti at a dealership. He said that when we have money, he's going to get one and buy me a big van for all of our (as yet unborn) children. Just wanted to say that I was thinking of you! |
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| Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Arizona
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My goal is not so much to bend or create reality as to perceive reality as clearly and accurately and without personal bias as possible and respond to it accordingly. This is what I call "dealing in reality". As near as I can tell, 100% of the suffering in my life has been from attempting to create reality that competes with the reality I've been gifted with. This fits well with the idea of total acceptance of and non-resistance to what is. Properly understood, "what is" is your best destiny. Improperly understood, it's a living nightmare. To me, pain and pleasure are just information ... they tell you if you are living in harmony with reality or not. For many people, an emphasis on "creating your own reality" becomes, I think, a rationale for "resisting reality". The better you understand reality, and the better you understand yourself, and act congruently with both, then the less suffering you have and the more happiness you can find. Most of my adult life has been centered around trying to please other people, my concept of god, societal expectations, and conventional wisdom. When I really bought into the reality that I ought to please myself and follow my own path, and that I could trust my judgment in such matters, and that a sane estimation of my strengths and weaknesses should guide me in what kinds of activities, projects and relationships I involve myself in, suddenly ... kaboom. No more agony. It was all very simple. The complexity was other people's junk and expectations and demands. Quote:
--Bob Last edited by SonoranBob; 07-17-2008 at 10:10 PM. | ||
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