Help on overcoming issue

[seeker5]

Ok, I need to do a bunch of stuff to move to a new city.

When I start thinking about taking action toward moving to that new city I want to move to, I frequently get my mind whining "waaaaa, but I'd rather go live in this completely different city and live a completely different life there instead!" and then I feel completely unmotivated to take any action. Now, I've accepted (I think) that it's not possible for me to do that - I can't move there to that city. Yet, the underlying overwhelming preference is still lurking there, frequently coming out when I think about taking action toward moving on in life.

I know plenty of people get their wishes for option #1 in life squashed and they go with full speed for their much less enthusiastic option #2.

So how can I?

[Jarrod]

Originally Posted by seeker5

I thought I'd start by addressing one issue, and maybe eventually I can start addressing the many, many other issues I have.

Good move

Originally Posted by seeker5

The issue I want to address now is that when I start thinking about taking action toward moving to that new city I want to move to, I frequently get my mind whining "waaaaa, but I'd rather go live in this completely different city with this other person and live a completely different life there instead!" and then I feel completely unmotivated to take any action. Now, I've accepted (I think) that it's not possible for me to do that - I can't move there to that city with that person at all. Yet, the underlying overwhelming preference is still lurking there, frequently coming out when I think about taking action toward moving on in life.

I know plenty of people get their wishes for option #1 in life squashed and they go with full speed for their much less enthusiastic option #2.

So how can I?

Something different for you to try. Sit down with pen and paper (or the digital version) with no other distractions. Your purpose is to make a actionable stepped plan to get you to the city.

Write down the goal of getting to the city.

Then write down physical things you need to do and obstacles to overcome.

Whenever you mind drifts off the specific topic of moving to exactly that place, detach and gently bring your focus back to your focus. Do not go along with any other thoughts at all. It is a matter of concentration.

The purpose of your session is not to debate options, it is solely to create a moving plan. Take control of your mind, then doubt will not be allowed to enter and persist.

If you want to consider other options. Create a separate session for that.