fighting extreme loneliness...

[danman85]

...is what I'm trying to do. I live with a good friend of mine, but he is very wrapped around his girlfriend's finger. It's to the point where he shuts himself off completely in his room just to be around her, and the rare occasion I see him around the house, he acts very haughty and condescending. This is how his girlfriend is, and it all didn't start until they got serious. Good for their relationship. But I don't deserve that kind of backlash.
Also, all of my friends are hardcore into drugs/drinking, and only want to hang out when some of that is going on...I would like to leave that scene, but I don't really know anyone else in my area to hang out with. When I am with them, that is when my buddy wants to literally barge in my room and sit down for a minute. Or if I leave the house to go for a walk or something, then he cares about what I've been doing, it's completely ridiculous. I have good friends near my college (a little over an hour away), but I work 2 jobs, and cannot spend much time with them because of the distance. My family is split up in different parts of the country, and I am not near the extended family to see them often as well.
This is a very hard situation for me. I usually just end up in my room all day thinking, writing, or just checking out stores/sights around the town on my own. I do love to think, and I am supposed to write (I major in music theory) but being alone all day every day leads way to negative thoughts about my social situation, and other things going on. I realize that this time may be for me to get to know myself better, and I do enjoy my own company, but I can't just hang out alone by myself all the time, I get lonely. I would like new friends, who appreciate me for me, not someone to get high or drunk with, but starting the wheels of change is difficult.
Can anyone offer some really good things to do on my own? Or possibly a way to meet new people?

[Erebos]

Since you're in school, join a club or do some volunteer work, instead of wandering around so much. You'll automatically meet new people and spark new friendships. If this interferes with work, I'd actual suggest you cut back on the work. This is more important than money.

[NightSpirit]

You are lonely because you don't fit in where you are. Nothing wrong with you, you've just surrounded yourself with people who are different from you, not better not worse, just different, and going in another direction from where you want to go now.

Sounds like it may be a good idea for you to consider moving....to be nearer to your college and your friends...and to get away from the situation with your room mate and those who want to get high. The last poster was right. Put your happiness and peace up higher on your list of priorities.

If you stick around where you are, the conditions might eventually make getting high look like a better idea and then you'll have a whole new set of problems.