Irritation & Anger

[axelg]

Isn't it amazing how some people get irritated over nothing?

And in reverse, round people we know well we tend to allow ourselves to be more irritable than we would be round strangers.

Irritation and anger are unpleasant states of mind. Think about it, it's painful to be angry just like it hurts to be depressed.

I reckon that patient souls make the world a beautiful place. These are individuals that somehow manage their irritation and anger.

That's a inner freedom, isn't it?

The beauty of personal growth is that one can really change one's situation and get ahead - that inspires me...


Emotional Healing

[viscapes]

Hey axelg,

Well put. I often wonder why we reserve our patience for strangers and tend to let our frustrations out on the people we care about most.

I'd like to find out how best to resolve that. Maybe we need to be meaner to strangers and not let our frustrations build up only to be vented at the people we care about. It doesn't sound like the most positive approach but there's some logic in there somewhere.

Cheers
Paul

[Gayathri]

A very nice point indeed. We always tend to take the ones close to us for granted, and treat others politely. It is a shame, really. I am trying to work on this myself.

Maybe we need to look at our family and tell ourselves that they are our no: 1 clients, and consciously take steps to be nicer and politer to them. We need to give our 100% attention to them when we talk to them, and really listen. Small gestures often do wonders.

Really an issue we need to think deeply about, thank you for bringing it up!

Cheers
Gayathri.

[pianoperformer]

Yes I agree. I've been working on not being angry or irritated for the past 3 days or so. It is difficult because usually I get irritated very, very easily. However I've made a conscious choice not to be that way, and so I haven't been, because it doesn't help anyone. sometimes it really takes some conscious control, but I find that the more I control it, the easier it gets, and the less angry or irritated I am, the more positive everything and everyone seems to be.

So, I suggest just refuse to get angry or irritate anymore. It is hard at first but really pays off. Now I have such inertia with doing this that I don't want to break it, so I'm extra careful not to become angry or irritated.

[awakentransform]

Originally Posted by axelg

I reckon that patient souls make the world a beautiful place. These are individuals that somehow manage their irritation and anger.

That's a inner freedom, isn't it?

Emotional Healing

Managing irritation and anger are preliminary steps to inner freedom.

True inner freedom is having the awareness that all is perfect and accepting whatever situation occurs.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by axelg

Isn't it amazing how some people get irritated over nothing? ... I reckon that patient souls make the world a beautiful place.

It's wonderful how some people get irritated over nothing!

Angry and irritable people also make the world a beautiful place.

Freedom, I think, comes in looking boldly at who you're being that the world occurs for you as a place in which it's appropriate to be angry or irritated. Being cranky, if you're willing to accept 100% responsibility for living a life you love, is a golden blessing.

[A.K.Light]

Only a year ago, I used to be a very impatient person who could get irritated easily. I would curse, slam things around, and sometimes break things intentionally. At some point, I decided to start moving in a new direction so that I could stop myself from behaving like that. I still get angry sometimes, but at this moment, I can't even remember the last time I had a tantrum. That's great, because I used to flip out over small things a few times a month! (Always did it in private, though, so I wouldn't scare other people.)

I feel so much better these days! There's way less resistance against things I cannot change and much more willingness to act on the things I can change.

Examples of hissy fits that I'm proud to be free of now: My mouse wasn't working right once so I smashed it into the corner of my desk about 20 times really hard until it broke into little pieces.

Once there wasn't enough slack on my keyboard cable, and instead of getting off my chair to fix the problem, I yanked the keyboard so hard that the cable snapped and then I threw the whole thing. I spent 30 minutes fixing the cable only to find out that I ruinned the jack on the back of the computer that the plug goes into when I yanked the cord.

Needless to say, it was an expensive habit.

[Stormcaller]

Yes. Computer problems can cause quite a bit of anger and frustration for most people. Luckily my computer and I have been getting along for a year now (Windows XP ACER). I might suggest a new computer. Although I know the anger is still there, a new computer does wonders for the blood pressure. See if you can get a new one with Windows XP on it, NOT the new VISTA. I almost smashed a mouse over Excel macros gone horribly wrong on the new VISTA (someone else’s computer) but I was nice to coworkers I bit my tongue, held my composure and didn't smash their stupid computer. Although I was still expected to get a bunch of work done on their computer that didn't work, and it's not my job to be an IT person... ANYWAYS (see passive aggressive anger)
Or perhaps you would do well with a new Mac computer?

I'm going through a tough time as of lately. And what's more difficult than being angry with computers, is when you start to become impatient with people as I have. There have been several events in the last few months that have had me steaming mad. I don't know what to do about it.

So I've been finding myself avoiding human interaction. I hope this "people annoy me" phase is over soon, I used to be such a socialite. But now I'm feeling that all my so called "friends" and such are just monopolizing my time... all the time. I don't want to be rude to them, as I realize they have done nothing wrong and are just being friendly, but I secretly wish they would just stop calling me to invite me out to social events. I'm getting sick of making up that "I'm sick" in order to just stay home and watch a movie by myself.

I guess I just feel what I'm going through is deep, and it seems all around me everyone is being shallow and stupid. I know that's the ego talking, but I can't seem to get over how people are acting around me, unless I avoid them. Maybe I just need new friends. They say when you go through a transformational period in your life; you will reorganize your social circle and friends. I think that is happening to me right now. There is a very select few people I have met in the same period of time who are absolute angels in my life. I talk with them and feel happy and at peace. We have similar values. But when I’m around everyone I used to be so close to - I find them ignorant and disruptive to my wellbeing. I feel I’ve changed, but I am not yet comfortable enough in my new state of mind to be able to ignore the old habits of my old friends when they present themselves in my face.